I recently broke up with my boyfriend Jarrod... i cried for a week afterwards... he was so nice to me and then he goes and dumps me.. anyway i have a new boyfriend now..
Nick.. he is madly in love with me and i don't know why. but anyway he is nice to me also.. i talk to him all the time... me and him really don't have anything else better to do..
now for the complicated part.. Todd whom i have known for 12 years... since i was like 3 1/2.. he loves me to death and always calls me drunk asking me out and stuff like that.. it gets so annoying.. he lives about 1000km away.. and he thinks he can just ask me out whenever he feels like it. he's a nice guy and all but i am not ready for long distance relationships.. i've tried them they just don't work out for me.. and then i loose a mate because of it.. Todd is a good mate and i don't really want that to happen.
Sak another great mate of mine also loves me we meet up once a year in sydney because he lives close to Melbourne and i live close to Brisbane.. so there is about 2000km between us.. i talk to him nearly everyday.. he's not like Todd.. doesn't ask me out or anything.. so he's not really a problem.
Keiran an ex boyfriend from over a year ago still loves me and wont leave me alone.. he turns up at my house expecting hugs, kisses, sex and whatever else.. its annoying.. it drives me insane.. all i want to do is strangle him.. but i wont do that because i am such a nice person.. if i hate someone.. i still act nice to them.. because i cant really stand people hating me for hating someone else......
anyway other than all this i get many random people from various sites adding me to msn and asking me to go on cam for them.. like me being a good girl i usually say no.. but if they give good evidence that i know them.. i go on for them..

it's so complicated ... help?

EDIT: now Jarrod wants me back after he broke my heart

i am so confused

anyone got any tips on how to tell them to leave me alone?

don't try to be nice. Just flat out tell them no.

wow. it seems you have been leading some guys on lady. I'm sorry but you cant talk to a guy everyday without giving at least some sort of impression.

If I were you I would tell the guys who are interested that I'm not interested in to back off. And ask them "if you love me so much why are you making this difficult" and tell them you don't do long distance relationships.

And as for your ex. . . . He had his chance I wouldn't give him another opportunity to brake your heart.

Yeah, the Todd guy? He's really not that into you. If he's calling you and asking you out when he's drunk, that means that he's just hoping for a hookup. Tell him it's not flattering that he only wants you when he's drunk. Tell him that when he's sober. And then, start hanging up on him when he calls drunk.

thanks for the advice guys.. has helped quite a bit.. :)

That's so complicated. I wish I could give you some advice or something. Dx Sorry.Good luck! </3

Just tell them you're not interested.
And that you don't want long distance relationships. Go where your heart goes.
That might sound cheezy but it's true. Maybe watch more dramas//tv. LOL

LOLOL.. it's people like you that make me feel so lonely. ;D
Treasure that love! : D

Originally Posted by Yummeh

Just tell them you're not interested.
And that you don't want long distance relationships. Go where your heart goes.
That might sound cheezy but it's true. Maybe watch more dramas//tv. LOL

LOLOL.. it's people like you that make me feel so lonely. ;D
Treasure that love! : D

I'm sorry... i have all this love and i am still lonely..

i don't see how it works but its the truth

Aww, don't be lonely! After all you're still part of this community, we've got lots of love here. =3
But in regards to your original problem, when you aren't firm with your "no" answers, guys keep a hold of a shred of hope they can be with you, or in Todd's case, take advantage of you. If you just want to be with your current beau, let them all know that, especially Mr. I'm-at-your-door-love-me-and-please-me. As long as you're nice to them they're going to bother you.

Okay, I'll help you out with each individual guy.
Jarrod: Say to him "I'm taken by someone else and I can't take you back. I'm sorry"
Todd: "I dislike when you call me up and ask me out. I'm not interested in you in that way, and am taken"
Keiran:"Please don't turn up expecting hugs, and sex because I can't give it to you. I'm taken as well"

Internet randoms: Don't add them to your msn or show them your cam.