I'm having a few issues that I need to both vent about and also get a little bit of advise.

The first is about grief. It's something I have been fortunate enough, until today, not to have had to deal with, other than having my dog die when I was 16. Today, my grandmother, the one that had played a huge role in my life, passed away at the age of 85 after suffering from health complications for nearly six years. While I'm sad, I'm kind of numb. I don't know if I'm already over the worst of it or if it's going to hit me later and I'll break down. I think my questions for this section are is it okay to not be terribly devastated and a crying mess that she's gone? How exactly should I deal with grief like this?

The second kind of ties into the first. My biological sperm donor called me today, demanding to know if it was true that his mother had died. I told him yes it was true. From there, he began to go onto one of his famous "no one tells me anything because no one loves me/wanted me to know, poor me." rants. I did something that I've never done before, which was to tell him to shut up. I also told him that my grandma had died thinking all of her sons didn't love her and that all of them were worthless, selfish, women-beating assholes. I'm not normally like that. I'm not normally the type that gives in to anger like that, regardless how right it may feel. As much as I may hate him, I feel guilty about yelling at him. I don't know if it was justified or not.

The third is more of a relationship problem. Currently, there is a very sweet man at my work that I've developed a little bit of a crush on. I'm almost certain he's flirting back with me. For example: after a particularly bad call (I work at a call center) that left me in tears, he got up from his seat, hugged me until I stopped crying and cheered me up. The problem with this is spelled out with one word: girlfriend. I got to meet her too yesterday. However, I'm confused exactly what his motivations are by flirting with me as he doesn't strike me as the type that flirts with anything that moves (which fits me better, to be honest). More so, should I allow myself to hope that there might be a chance?

I know, tl;dr. If anyone has any kind of advise or comments, I'd be happy to hear them. Thank you for reading!

First:
I was the same way when my grandmother died. It just never really clicked that she had passed away.
I mean, she lived a few states away, but we usually go up each year and visit. Also, she had been really sick and I sort of was happy that she passed away so that she wasn't in pain anymore.
But I don't think you should worry about it too much. I hasn't blown up on me yet, and I believe its been over a year. Sometimes your mind just accepts it before you do. It must have good reasons to.

Second:
I think that was the best thing you could have done. Sometimes guys like that just really need to get yelled at and put in their place. It sounds to me like he really had it coming, and you were more than welcome to yell at him.
Personally, I think he could have taken a bit more. You did the right thing. ^^

Third:
I'm going through a similar situation with an ex of mine.
He has a girlfriend (who lives two states away *smacks*) and I see him every now and then. But the thing is that he behaves like we are still together.
When I brought it up to him and asked why he was doing it and if he actually had feelings for me still (he was the one that broke up with me) he said he didn't know, but he sure didn't think of me as just a friend.
I'm also really confused about what to do, because he has a girlfriend and has made it clear he wants to be with her.
But I think your best bet is to see how things work out. He may break up with her and then turn to you after awhile. Or perhaps he is just being kind to you.
I'd keep an eye on it and maybe try to become closer friends. Nonchalantly talk more and maybe go out for a friendly chat or something. It may turn out that he really likes you. ^^

@ Anthail Thank you for being the first to comment. To the first part...I honestly don't know if just because I knew it was going to happen and happen soon, or that I knew it was better for her than for her to be in so much pain but...I still haven't cried much, other than the initial shock of it.

Second, I agree with what you said. I still feel a little guilty but I think that out of all people, he deserved it.

Third...I want to just say he's being kind to me but the thing is, especially out of my entire training class, I'm the only one he treats like this. He's a little bit shy I guess is the best way to put it, so offers by others for things like asking him to join a group during lunch or, at the time, asking him to join someone else to study for a test were things that he would turn down unless I asked him. And I do feel bad for wanting him to break up with said girlfriend...*sighs* Stupid wonderful man person....

First: I'm sorry about your loss. I would possibly vent as much as possible. Write about how much you care about her, and memories; all the good stuff. Remember the good times and forget the bad.

Second: I think you did the right thing, it may have been harsh, but it was the truth after all especially since he was looking for sympathy which wasn't right at that particular time.

Third: I don't think he was flirting by what you told me. It seemed like he was being a generally nice person towards you at that time. I would probably wait to see how his friendship progresses then decide on what is the best action to take. Good luck.

*hugs Tobira*
I was the same way when I lost my grandmothers. When I first heard that my grandma died, I cried for a bit and then felt completely numb all the way to her house, where my mom was. Then I just sat around until a couple days later at her funeral where I cried a bit. Then it was on and off spurts of crying as I would see something that reminded me of her. So what you're feeling is perfectly natural. Everyone has a different way of mourning, and it doesn't mean you loved her any less.

First, I have to say that I really love how you called him your biological sperm donor. It made me laugh. But anyway, I would feel guilty too. I don't like getting mad at people and yelling at him, but he probably had it coming. He had no right to yell at you so I think you are justified.

So, the man...I would think that he is flirting with you. I can't make a for sure judgment but I would think so if he were doing that stuff to me. Especially since you haven't known him for a long time. *shrugs* I dunno, I guess you can only wait to see what he does and get to know him some more.

@ MedievalBeauty- I have been venting a lot; mostly to friends and my guild on Gaia. Like I said before...I guess because I knew she was in so much pain and I knew for a while now that she was going to die...it makes it easier to know she's not hurting anymore.

Second: I guess that is true. I didn't honestly expect anything different from him because he's always been like that.

Third: That sounds very plausible. The only reason I don't agree fully that it's not just him being a nice person is that he will not do this with anyone else from our team or our training class, even those who he is friends with and is closer to.

@ Rikali/Chali - Yeah...the thing is, I don't quite feel like crying. I mean, I still get a little sniffley at times but it's not like what I was expecting. I was expecting to be bedridden depressed.

Second: I refuse to call him 'dad' so he's my biological sperm donor. Like I said, he likes to believe the world is against him so the fact that no one told him that my grandma was sick (which, you know, since she told him she never wanted to hear from him again and that he refused to try and build the bridges he burned down)...it just really rubbed me the wrong way this time.

Third: I haven't known him a long time. We were in the same training class at work (which was last month) but he and I didn't start talking until near the end of that. Then we were put onto the same team, along with another half of our training class, where we have to interact every day. But I think I will get to know him better and just see how things go.

Hmm, in that case.

Maybe he does have some feelings but is holding off taking action for awhile since he has a girlfriend.

I would still wait a bit or you could tell him how you feel, but not right now.

Wait til you're feeling better then prepare yourself for it.

@ MedievalBeauty: I agree. Thank you very much for your advice!

You're very welcome :D