Soooo, I'm seriously in love with 2 people right now...
Usually I only have one person in my heart, but now its 2... So its been hard coping with that and trying to rationalize my obvious insanity. Do you believe that people can truly love more than one person at a time romantically? Is it ok for me to be in love with 2 people at the same???

The other thing is... One of the people I'm in love with is a girl, the other is a boy... I'm bisexual, so it makes sense to me, but I love both of them equally! I can't decide which I should devote my life to... And so I haven't decided. I talk to both people and desire both equally. D: I know, confusing riiiiight?

So anyways, what should I do?

Not confusing. You're just polyamourous. There's not many of us out there... but once you find people to relate to about the issue it makes things a lot easier.

I'm going to tell you a story that will probably sound a lot like your case. Now i'm bi too, but i didn't discover this until recently. I was in love with two boys at the same time. They were like night and day. One's a mixed american, mainly German with long curly dark brown hair. Very happy and crazy and his personality was rather contageous. I had been dating someone when we met and the guy I was dating broke up with me because of distance issues. So I ended up seeing this guy after flirting with him for about a week straight. He taught me a lot of things, even though he was younger than me, and managed to get me out of my shell enough to be comfortable with who I was.

Now keep in mind all this happened BEFORE I KNEW that other people felt this way. He introduced me to this online game which had a huge community spirit. I met this other guy online who lived in Cali. (I live mid states) He's 100% Veitnamese. We started talking and while he KNEW that I was with someone else he kept hitting on me. Well Guy A and I had been dating for about a year and a half and it was Valentines day and he ended up inviting one of his ex's over to watch a movie. I got pissed off and left and as it turns out he ended up screwing his ex girlfriend... He told Guy B... Guy B told me and I confronted him about it. Eventually he caved and gave in and said that he did. But he lied about it first.

Now I should have known that Guy A wasn't going to last and we weren't going to have a happy relationship but I wanted more than anything else to be happy and have a home and children with him. (He was the guy I lost my v-chip to.) And I started talking a lot more to Guy B. I found out that I was in love with him... kinda like being hit with a brick of realization... Well I told them both and they made me choose. I choose Guy A... well it was only a few months later and he started cheating on me again so I left. I didn't know what to do. I kinda felt like half of me had been ripped away. Even though I walked away from the relationship it didn't make losing it hurt any less.

Eventually I started dating again.... and after getting in a one day relationship with someone in NYC... *laughs* I started dating my Veit from Cali. And we were happy until I realized that the distance was just too much. Things went downhill from there and it wasn't until after I got enough senses to take a look at who I really was and accepted it that I could maintain a healthy and balanced relationship. It's rough... when you love 2 people and they don't like eachother... what's worse is when they're not even predesposed to the other gender. My Veit was bi, but my German was straight so nothing was ever going to happen...

*shruggs* It's rough... but I'd talk to them about it. I know it's embarrasing. But at least you know they're into that sex. (Unless the girl you like is a lesbian or straight.) And if they feel comfortable with it, see if they want to try something. It's going to be embarrasing as hell and the relationship will be hard to hold together. But like one of my best friends who's been in this situation said "It was a nightmare after it ended... but the week it happened... was probably the best week in my life."

think about which oen would make a better boyfriend/girlfriend, not which one you love more, since you like them both equally.

Well - depending on the personality and openness it is possibly that you could date them both - you just need to sit down and talk to them about it and see how things work out.

Of course doing this could possibly leave you alone if both of them get pissed off or hurt that you like another person as well:/

@Feyona: Polyamourous? I never thought of myself as that before...
Wow, its amazing to meet another bisexual! ^^
Hmm, was Guy A drunk when you left on that fateful night that he brought over his ex?
Guys tend to be really stupid when drunk...Good idea, its not good to go back to a guy thats cheating on you, cuz if he does it once, he's bond to do it again... ><
Mhmm, I see what you mean. I suppose its worse if the 2 people you love is of the same gender, cause than they're always competing with each other for your love... I think its only right for you to be happy with Guy B after Guy A screwed up his chances sooo much.

The girl I like is straight (possibly bi), which is fine with me...
The guy I'm into is gay... Soooo there's no issue with him falling for her... its just really confusing for me. Hahaha, yeah I've been having a great week too... like your friend. Lol.

@Liath: I cannot make a decision like that... x-----------------x
I don't want to hurt either of them... I'm sooo indecisive. Ugh.

@siaasgn: Yeah........... I don't want to be alone. D:
I've been in a relationship like this before and it ended up with first the girl dumping me... And than the guy dumped me after being all "Were you gonna marry her? I thought you were gay.... blahblahblah." I really don't want that to happen again. ><

um, it would be called an open relationship...? that doesn't work out for a lot of people, and seems that you only want to be with one. you definitely should take the advice to go about thinking who you'd really like to be with. this almost reminds me of a manga i read. the difference though was, the character in question first fell in love with one girl, but then his childhood friend showed feelings for her too. basically, after being with both, indecisive for several months, she finally picked based on relationship. she picked her friend, because she valued the protecting relationship they had, and all the years spent together. you need to know what qualities you like. if i had this opportunity, i'd probably have a dilemma like this too. i'm sure the other wouldn't care so much.

I was in almost the same situation a year ago. (I am also bisexual, and have been all my life) But my situation was with two of my ex's. I could not let either one of them go. They were my beat friends, and my life.
But one day, I choose one of them, Tommy. Which, of course, ended bad. He left me. I didn't feel like explaining the story in details. But, he found someone else. She is 13 years of age, and he is 18.
Anyways, The other boy, Mike whom is 19, was very upset, but is still in fact my best friend. I will never date him though, because it might have turned out the same.

So I started talking with a man name Nick, whom is in fact my fiance now. He was my best friend at the time of my emotional downfall with Tommy, and has been there for me ever since.

I suppose what I'm saying is, picking one, won't get you any of them.

Omg, that totally blows when that happens. It's even more common when bisexual, I feel your pain. Well... what not to do is tell either one of them, sort it out yourself or with a trusted and close friend who won't tell. Making lists of each isn't really effective, I think. You just need to sit and think about each one long and hard, and imagine what it would be like to date one or the other.
Of course, you could also go by who would be more likely to fall back in love with you, too.
Most people can't do group relationships; I doubt I could either at this point.

First of all, of course it's possible to love more than one person at a time, even normal.
The heart is not a contained object like the metaphors suggest. You can give out your love any number of times, or to any number of people at a time.
Acting on it is different. If you think an open relationship would work, go for it.
Otherwise, I suppose you know that both people are returning your affections?
If so, I would spend more time with both of them. The correct choice will become clear as you get closer to them.

I'm going through the same thing but between and ex and a current boyfriend. I love them both terribly and its crazy but their totally opposite of each other..
I'd say go with the one that makes you the happiest, and if it works out great and if not well its better to loved than to never loved at all right?

either way, don't "devote your life" to one person. You should still persue your hobbies and hang out with other friends if you're going out with someone.
You're picking who to ask out, not who to marry, so it's ok if the one you pick doesn't work out. Do you even know they both like you, or if they do, that they will both want to be in a relationship and aren't in a bad time of their life for one?

SO yeah, the girlfriend part of the trio has been stalking the thread for a WHILE, so she decided to put her two cents in finally.
Gabby already knows how I feel, so I'm not going to talk to him here, since I don't think he's replying to this anymore anyway. >_>

Pineapple:: How is not telling good advice?
That's just as bad as cheating. O.o
I'm glad he told me.
Its not like I was going to flip out. I know he's bi, and I know he likes guys, and I love him more than anything. As long as he's still with me, and he's not like manwhoring and sleeping around, it doesn't matter.
I knew this was something that would probably happen with him eventually when we became a couple. If it was something that would freak me out, I would have left him then. But I wanted him then, and I still want him now. I love him more than anything. I already said that, didn't I? :lol:

Liath:: Nah...its a little bit more than like asking someone out.
We kind of have a thing going on. <33
Yeah, kind of WAY more than asking someone out. Lol. XD