This is rather stupid. But I've been having some issues with a girl I've been friends with since first grade (we're freshmen...so we've been friends over eight years).

One example:

We have the same history teacher. I'm in advanced, she's in general. Different periods. I think the lady is a crazy physco bitch. She basically unfairly lowered my grade two points on friday, and then proceeded to help only her favorite students with the midterm review, ignoring the other 15 or so of us in the room. And she does shit like that all the time. Then she had the nerve to call me childish when I questioned why I got a 0 on an assignment that I did half of, where as people that did less than half got almost full credit. And, even though I got the highest grade in the class first marking period, and it would have been the highest second marking period if it weren't for her favoritism, she told me that I didn't care about school and didn't deserve to be placed in honors next year. Thanks a lot. Basically, I had a shitty day and that was the last straw for me. Even track practice couldn't calm me, so I was still pretty pissed off when I got home.

I was talking to her. I decided to share my history class rant. She pretty much screamed at me how I need to learn from my mistakes (excuse me, how is a teacher that picks favorites MY mistake?) and how if I wasn't such a pain in the ass I'd be a favorite. She shouldn't even show her favoritism in the first place. Then she went on to tell me that "people in our Latin class don't like how you get over 100 on every quiz"...correction, her B- average is pissed off that I actually study (and got a 107 for the marking period, lol). She yelled at me in class for "bragging" when someone asked me got on a quiz and I said "156, new personal best"...like, they asked. And they got like 145. So it's not like they failed and I wanted to rub it in.

It's just...annoying. I'm in honors classes (and advanced history because there is no honors) and she's in general (and advanced english). She constantly acts like she needs to prove she's smarter than me. Like...I don't even care! I'm friends with people that take basic classes, I'm friends with people that take honors, and everything in between. IT DOESN'T MATTER! But...ugh. And I think she spent about 15 minutes laughing at me when I mentioned that I might get moved down in English due to the midterm, despite doing well in the class itself (my school is so weird).

Basically, she's always competing with me. I mean, I honestly don't care that much about school. I'm just lucky that I can get by without doing anything. But I don't need constant competition. I get enough of it from this girl in most of my classes who pretty much screamed in my face because I did better than her in biology without studying.

Ugh. What do I do?

Hm... wow, this is tricky. My suggestion is that you pretty much tell your friend how you feel about her attitude. Tell her it's really bothering you and ask that if she hates how you have better grades than her, why is she your friend? And if it makes her feel better, then you can help her study. Real friends don't let their pride get in the way of their friend's feelings.

As for the teacher... try and change classes as soon as you can. My friend had a teacher like that, but she was more racist than had favorites. Eventually, that teacher got fired. If you can find more people who have the same problem as you, you can all address the principal or vice principals.

I can understand this kind of situation - All through school I admit that I've gotten much better grades than my friends, so you just need to learn how to handle that sort of situation without risking your friendship.

When you complain about school, it might feel like you're voicing out your genuine problems and frustrations, but what your friend hears is "OMG school is so tough but I'm going to ace it all anyway and I can't believe I actually have to work hard to get my A+++!"

I swear that I'm not trying to patronize you or imply anything about you and your grades, but a strange thing happens when two friends earn two different prizes: She sees you in the honors classes and high grades, then she looks at her own "average" classes and B grades. Even if you are putting in hours of studying and working your brain off to get where you are, it looks to her like you can just breeze through it. She's probably frustrated that she can't do the same. Complaining to her about your grades probably makes her feel like you're rubbing it in her face, so she tries to prove that she is just as smart as you and able as you.

My advice is to stop going to her when you need to vent about academia. Find a member in your class who also doesn't get along with the teacher and rap with them for a while to get it out of your system. If the subject of school comes up between you and your friend, try not to get into the gritty details. There's no reason to stir up competition, so lead by example and start chattering on about all the other things you love to talk about.

The best piece of advise I can give you is this: Really try not to let these fights get in the way of your friendship. High school, especially the beginning, is stressful, and the stress always seems to cause fights between friends, even close ones.

My best friend- my "sister" and I fought a lot during freshman year. I realize now that a lot of it was my fault, because I was so depressed and anti-social, I hated like everything. But I wasn't thinking about that then, I just thought she was a bitch. :/
Your friend probably feels like she's lesser than you, because of the difference in your grades, and in high school, you're almost at the end of the road, so you feel like you NEED to be the best....Since you're better, she resents it and its making her act childish and lash out at you.

But don't let petty fights get in the way of your friendship that's lasted so long. It'll be better when you're both older. Believe me, I know. -_-
I don't know what I'd do sometimes without this girl I was talking about, and I'd SO regret it if I let the fights we got into in 9th grade end our friendship.

As for your teacher, she doesn't sound like a decent school official at all. I had a lot of teachers like that in H.S. which is one of the reasons I dropped in the long run. Obviously I'm not telling you to drop out. XD; That should only be done if someone has no other choice. What I'm saying is, you can't avoid teachers like her; they're everywhere. Perhaps you should complain about her to one of her superiors? I don't know how well that would work, but I think it'd be worth a shot. Bad teachers just make high school into hell, and they shouldn't be allowed to teach if they're not good teachers, in my opinion. :/

For starters, I'd have to say, go to a counselor about this teacher. I've been in that situation, and if you can get others from the class to agree with you, then you just might get her fired. Second, friends will have other opinions in these situations. Though she does not understand, I'm sure he feels bad about what she said. You may not have explained it well enough, or she might like the teacher. Maybe she gets good treatment?
The best advice I can give, is don't end a friendship over a foolish matter such as teachers. There will always be good and bad teachers, don't let them ruin you.

I remember my best friend telling me last year how hard she had studied for x final exam because she wanted to have better grades than me. I told her "Ale, you've had better grades than me ever since 3rd grade, didn't you notice?"
... actually, it was a lie >.>' But I wasn't going to loose my time arguing with her only to prove I'm better in the end and making her feel low, or I wouldn't be going to her b-day tomorrow :3
So, my advice is, don't be so specific with grades about her if she can't stand competition. Just be general, ignore the "You got an A+ right?!", and avoid anything that smells "jealousy" ^^'
And your teacher, how come you're not her favorite? [/joke] Follow Minx [and everyone else]'s advice, go to a counselor and talk about it. Maybe get some proof, like, ask your partners for their homework [though this may be hard because it could result in their scores going lower...] Good luck!

PS: Oh and yeah, if you're that close talk with your friend about how her attitude is making her look like a fiend instead of a friend, and how you're just too busy studying to have to deal with someone else's drama. Because even us "gifted who don't need to study to ace a test" need to re-check data at least once >_>

I appreciate the help you guys.

I've talked to guidance. Guidance talked to her. She lectured me about how I'm a good student and I work to hard and how other students (most likely the friend I mentioned above) tell her I don't like her (like, seriously? who would do that?). Whatever.

Yeah, there are people who have some problems with those of us who appear to effortlessly get amazing grades. Yes, I spend most of my time on the internet now (thanks to Mene), well, I do work an awful lot to get my final work out. I'm still at school right now, drawing my set in CAD.
My boyfriend is a little bitter that I have finished two 19 credit-hour semesters back-to-back and I got mostly all A's (one B-, but that's because I disagreed with the final exam. I'm glad it wasn't a C.) I know he can get As if he just studies. I'm lucky that I don't have academic classes anymore. My classes are now based purely on spatial thought.