anxiety (please help)
 

Well I kinda have a problem and think that maybe someone here could give me a few tips on how to get over it :)

The problem is, is that when at school I was bullied alot, I was shy, quiet and scared of everything and everybody. I managed to get through all these years of bulling usually each day ending up in tears then by my last years ended up in skiving about 50%of my lessons because of it...
anyways now its all over I finally managed to feel releaved and made a new me, a little less quiet and more likely to tell people where to shove it when being mean to me but lately I've been breaking down, for no reason what so ever, no one is being mean to me but I constantly fear people talking about me or ganging up on me maybe even starting to bully me again :(

I know that the people at my college love me but I still cant get over how I feel.
I've managed to arrange a counceling but thats going to take weeks to come through so I was wondering if anyone had any ways of dealing with anxiety like this such as calming techniques.

I had a few of the same problems, HS put a few negatives in my life and made me a bit paranoid >>;

My trick was when I got to over whelmed or stressed was to take a moment to step back and breath. Relaxing and focusing on the positive helped me work around that fear. When I couldn't find the trigger, I just looked at every thing I had been doing, most of the time I found the problem wasn't the anxiety but rather some thing else and with my nerves being shot the old problems where the not so efficient coping.

Mayhap you need some one who can help you when you start to get like this. Have them in a clam voice tell you to relax and help you refocus. Or that you can hang out with, and talk to about what you are feeling. They need not be a professional just some one you trust and can give you positive emotional support.

And if things get really bad before you get the counseling, I would let some one who can help you (I have a few professors I turn to when, I got to my breaking points) cause they can help you get the help you need faster.

taking a step backward to think sounds like a good idea, i think I'll try it next time I'm like that.
I would turn to someone close to help or talk me into not feeling the way i do but the problem is usually when im like how I get I get mad at myself for looking for help, I feel like I'm over reacting and get annoyed at the thought that Im taking up peoples time.
I don't see a reason for me to get so overwhelmed and scared when I have a perfectly good life and have no reason to get like I do.

but I shall try looking over what happens when it happens.
thanks for the edvice :)

I actually had n anxiety attack once which left me paralyzed for a day and I needed an injection to make me fall asleep... it was due to exam stress... not being bullied but from my experience, the best way to curb it would be to be prepared, You should know what is going to happen and not be afraid to face it. Or if you refuse to think about it, don't at all. Blank your mind out by filling your days with things that make you happy until you forget about what is stressing you out. that really works for me. Surround yourself with people who love you and keep telling positive things to yourself everyday... words of encouragement help ^^ I have my handphone greeting message set as 'you can do it!' when I turn it on to lift my spirits! and my msn nickname would be 'work hard! there's a challenge ahead!' or something like that. You might be surprised how a little phrase could make you change your whole outlook on things :)

First of all remember the person putting on the pressure and strife is trying to cover up their problems by passing them on to you. Making you the scapegoat. Taking a step back and tell yourself no I'm not their security blanket. Is a start. I find walking to a mall or shop(if it's safe) helps sort things out. Talk to a Spiritual Leader if you know one. Also a good Martial Arts course may give a light at the end of the tunnel.Just make sure it's not a train.:sarcasm:

Thanks,
think I will definatly try the phrases, simple enough to change my welcome note to 'you can do it' or somethink like 'im great and bullies arnt' :)

I agree with Ryu - I learned that one of my tormentors from junior high had her own issues to deal with. & because she was envious, she felt the need to make my life even more miserable than hers. Bullying is not an easy thing to overcome - after 8 years I still have those scars. I became a recluse for awhile until I've met some good people who helped me overcome my issue.
I'm glad you're taking up counseling - talking to a professional and just letting my feelings out made everything so much better.
You'll get through this - if I did, so can you.

I have the same problems. how i deal with it is to just not pay any attention to people and do stuff like talk to people on menewsha