Now realizing that stress really has been bothering me lately; I'd like to get a few things out. I've had to deal with school lately -- as some of you may know, I dropped out in my second year of high school and went and got my GED. Well I've applied to several schools and have a few interviews lined up for the next few months. Tomorrow afternoon I leave to go to SLC, Utah for my first interview. I really want to go to school and do the things that I love. But I'm scared for this change. Not because I'll have to re-locate or make some friends. I'm more worried about not having the free time that I'm so used to. Sure, I'll still have quite a lot of time on my hands -- but I plan on continuing doing dance and singing. I want to do it all, but thinking about it is so stressful.

Because of all this, I've felt so alone lately. I've had no real friend to discuss all of this with. I'm at the point of wanting to cry -- and I haven't cried in so long. I've been getting really irritated with things and people. It's made me more of an annoyance than I've ever been. I don't know who to talk without feeling like nobody truly cares.

I've been so nice to people in my life and nobody seems to want to lend me their shoulder. I can't even convince my father to have a small talk. Because of this, I've been really keeping stuff in lately. I'm doing and planning things that nobody knows about (nothing bad!) - because nobody seems to care. And I really want people to be involved with my life and show some support.

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My hair! MY HAIR! I'm only twenty years old and I'm losing my hair. *whines* All my life, I've naturally had thin hair. It's not thick or poofy at all. I have to curl it to get definition. But I rarely ever use the curling iron or any sort of thing that would burn my hair. I usually just keep it flat or put it in a ponytail. However, I'm really starting to worry about it. Whenever I get out of the shower, I go to comb my hair and it just comes right out. When I BRUSH it, it's not so bad. I even have tried putting in Garnier Fructis Leave -In Conditioner Cream -- but my hair still comes out! It's been doing this for months! I haven't noticed any bald patches or anything...yet. And now I'm so fricken scared. Because this woman I used to work with had this condition where her hair fell out pretty easily. She had hair all around except for the very top of her head where she had a HUGE bald spot. And she's not even thirty years old! I don't want that to happen to me. What can I do to save my precious hair?!


Also! I am just so upset that I may have to drop Jazz dance. I've taken it for a little while, but I don't get along with another girl that attends the classes. I have informed the instructor, but she hasn't done anything! So I confronted the girl myself and she was really snarky. You'd think that a twenty three year old would be more mature, but nope. I didn't even do anything to her. I just arrived one day and she began talking about me and giggling to her friends. It's like high school all over again. >[ She even tripped me, TWICE. She's pissing me off and because of her, I have to give up something I enjoy doing.

For the hair thing, that should be normal actually, shedding is a biological occurrence. If you are losing hair in large clumps then you should start to worry. Some hairs in the comb won't kill you. You should probably research some products that will prevent you hair from thinning out too much or from falling out if you are seriously worried. Seeking a doctor or medical assistance should be a last option.

The girl in Jazz class, you going to have to ignore, since you have already went ahead and confronted her. Your in college, and your professor shouldn't feel the need to do anything about it. If the girl wants to be a snarky, immature person then your professor will deal with it and will expect you to do so as well. Your best option is to just ignore her, do not give her any leverage to make her want to get at you more(e.g. confront her again, talk back at her, making an argument, etc.[If at all, talking to her in private and forcing her to get into her head should be a last resort]), and be a better example than her. Bad things happen to good people, but good people win in the end.

I really do lose a lot of hair. It's not just a few strays. It's like clumps. :( Maybe I should see someone about it.

It's actually just a public class; I'm not in college. Currently, there are only about ten people in the class. Ranging in ages from 18-25. I travel thirty minutes each class to go to the studio. It's a big deal for me, it really is. So trying to ignore a girl that trips me is rather difficult. She can talk about me all she wants with her friends. But when it gets physical, then it's really uncalled for. With that sort of behavior, I suppose I would expect for her to be dropped from attending. I can ignore the silly high school gossip/giggling, but the tripping...how does one handle that?

Hair loss could be a side effect of stress, and by the sounds of it you're a bit stressed. I remember Gail Porter loosing her hair due to stress induced alopecia. (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alopecia_areata) I don't wish to scare you but it is a possibility. The good news is 90% of those effected do eventually grow their hair back.

Also, another big no no is brushing your hair while it's still wet. You'll notice you'll brush more out as it's easier to break. You might want to make sure you're not doing that as it won't help it. Dying hair or perming it is also really bad for the health of your hair, however you didn't mention you did either. If you're prone to really thin hair I would advise against it.

If it's really starting to bother you I would suggest talking about it to a family doctor. I'm in no way medically qualified to diagnose you, but perhaps talking to someone who is can put yourself at ease. I did find this really good article on different causes of hair loss:

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/hai...SECTION=causes

There's more than one reason for hair loss, so if you're not genetically prone to it and there hasn't been any major lifestyle changes like change in medication or perhaps in diet you may want to bring it up in case it is your body trying to tell you something's not right.

I agree with atashi83 with the stress, that could be one reason.
Also if you recently changed your diet or changed an aspect of your life dramatically, that could also be a reason. (it could maybe even be that annoying girl in you class)

I would say either switch to a higher quality shampoo and/or go to a local salon and ask the for a consultation, most of the time its free for just the consultation, some salons say the consultation is free only if you get a service done though, just depends on the person running the salon.
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I agree with Xethgnur on the girl. Just ignore her, definitly not worth your time if she's acting so immature. Do what you love if she had a problem with that well she can just go somewhere else with that stick up her butt!

I have been really rather stressed out lately I suppose. I've been doing so many more things that my life is getting busy. And usually I talk to people about things that I'm doing and what's going on. But I don't have a best friend or friend at all to talk to. So it too has got me a bit upset. I've taken on dancing, going to the gym, I changed my diet, I'm always busy driving people everywhere when I should be doing other thigns -- and a plethora of other stuff. I thought I'd be alright just having myself, but I'm starting to get lonely without having a friend to share all this with. And it's just all very stressful for me. I guess I just...I don't know. I didn't think it'd contribute to hair loss though. I'm going to try going to my doctor and see what he has to say. And perhaps that salon idea as well.

Thanks for the tips. Losing my hair is the last thing I want. :XD I read up on the wiki article. So relieved to see it says that even with this sort of hair loss, it usually grows back within a year. Let's hope things work out.

I loose my hair a dozen strands at a time. I mean, it's a lot of hair. However, it's natural. I go through phases where I don't 'shed' much and ones where I 'shed' a lot. It tends to go with my stress/anxiety level and when I switch hair products.

If you're really worried maybe you should go to a salon and ask to talk to one of the people there or a doctor.

Very good idea, hun.

And if you ever need someone to talk to, even if it's just idly shooting the breeze, feel free to PM me or if you use an IM service you're more than welcome to send me a message. I work from home so on a regular basis I'm wandering about the apartment. :)

Honestly speaking, if you are really concerned about hairloss, you should consult with your doctor. Hairloss can be a side effect of a ton of stuff, depending on the amount of hair, etc. The folks above me are right, some daily hairloss is normal, but tons of hair loss is not. I am sure your doctor will ease your mind more than any of us ever could. Goodluck and take care!

i got nothing on this one... if you want i can send a prayer your way...

I'd agree that it's likely to be stress-related, hormonal imbalance can often cause hair-loss too, but that can be brought about by stress, bad diet can also cause hair-loss...I'd advise against going to a salon about it, they'll just try to get you to have uber-expensive treatments done on it, and the same could be said for the doctors. Do you have anything available in your area for the alternative side of things, such as a Chinese herbalist or somewhere that sells homeopathic remedies?

Massaging your scalp will stimulate hair growth, as will taking Kelp tablets as a suppliment (I've taken those myself and they really do boost hair growth, and they don't cost a fortune either).

L-Lysine seems to be the thing that's in most herbal remedies for female hair-loss.

L-Lysine is a necessary building block for all protein in the body. L-Lysine plays a major role in calcium absorption; building muscle protein; recovering from surgery or sports injuries; and the body's production of hormones, enzymes, and antibodies.

Other than that all I can say is that it's bound to be temporary, and new hair will grow to replace what's fallen out. :hug:

I suppose trying cheaper alternatives would be the better way to go. And if things do go well with that, then I could try the doctor. I don't think they have any Chinese herbalist places around here however. I'll look into that second option you listed, jelly. Thanks for the help, I really do appreciate it -- so does my hair.

Would like people to know that I've added a new issue to my post. You're still more than welcome to reply to my old post. However, I think I've got all I need to know on that one.

Sorry for the double post, but I don't think people would know of this new issue unless I brought it up again. If it's a problem, just merge my posts perhaps.

Sadly, humans are selfish shits the majority of the time, and often don't have a lot of empathy for other people's problems, especially family. It doesn't suprise me about your dad, men can be terrible about that kind of thing, they don't know how to deal with it or what to say, so they back away from anything or just dismiss it.

Sounds like you've been taken quite a bit for granted over the years. I think this move away to go to school could be exactly what you need actually. It will seem scary now, before it happens. But I think that once you're there you'll feel liberated. You can leave all your emotional baggage behind and make a fresh start; start to develop as your own person and find out who you really are, instead of feeling tied to a family that doesn't really see you.

And having a good cry can be cathartic actually, let it out and you'll feel cleansed :hug: Best of luck, Jenny :)

That's what's more upsetting about it. Is nearly all my life -- I've been there for people. I've given them my ears for nearly everything they've ever had to whine about. Being something serious or something just stupid. But I never complained. And now I'm at a time in my life where I need those people to lend me their shoulder right now and instead, they just turn away. I called up my own mother a few weeks ago to discuss everything. And of course, like my mother always does -- she just criticizes me. She's never been there for me I suppose, so she just doesn't know how to properly talk to her own children. Mostly considering me, since I'm the daughter that went wrong in her family. Even though I'm the only sane one of them all. I guess it's just being unlike others in a way that I am respectful and don't like to hear about their silly arguments and problems anymore. People often wonder why I was born into a family of such different people than myself.

You're right, a move definitely would be great for me. Finally going to school and meeting some decent people. I'm just so used to my situation right now though -- it truly is scary knowing that I'll be meeting some of the more sane people of this world. I really hope things work out for me. I think I've done really well on my own at this time - for not even having the support I need. Many would just give up and not try. So it does make me feel a little better about things.

I'm not sure my family will ever give me the support I need. They're too stubborn and stupid. Maybe I'll meet some new friends when I re-locate. And just maybe they'll be able to help me through it all I suppose.

I'm sort of crying and laughing and sad all at the same time. :lol:

I think you're a much stronger person than you realise, and you also feel like you owe your family something when you really don't. You don't have to feel guilty about how you feel about them just because they're your family. It's so true what people say about how you can pick your friends but not your family.
There's no end of people who's never be friends with some of their family members if they met them as strangers.

I think you'll find that a lot of your issues just melt away once you're out from under your family's influence, because they are what causes a great deal of your stress.

Knowing that I might not be friends with my family if I only knew them as strangers is rather sad to know, heh.

Anyway, thank you jelly for the support and advice; I really do appreciate it. :)

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