Well once during a little opening up session my friends and i have between the three of us once in a while to get closer, i told my friends a story behind why i apologize all the time even when i know it isn't my fault. They understand and are sympathetic toward it but i still feel terrible because i still think it annoys them a bit sometimes which makes me want to apologize even more. They tell me that not everything is my fault and i don't have to apologize to gain their love, but I just don't know, ha ha, actually, i want to apologize for posting this and taking up peoples' precious time. :sweat:

I apologize all the time, too. I've gotten better lately because I try to control it. Maybe you should try to not apologize for things that you /know/ aren't your fault? It's a good idea because while I was in one of my apologizing modes, my boyfriend told me that he doesn't like when I apologize for little things all the time because then when I really mean that I'm sorry, it has no value. If you apologize very little, when you actually do, it's more sincere. C:

I used to apologise quite a lot. It was sort of an instinct - something bad happened, and I'd apologise, whether it was my fault or not.

Perhaps, whenever you feel like you need to apologise, you could take a breath and think: "is this actually something I should be apologising for?" If you know that it isn't, don't apologise. But if you still really feel like you need to apologise, you could say something like, "I want to say sorry, but I know this isn't my fault..." That is what I tried to do when I recognised that I was apologising too much but still couldn't stop apologising, and I think it's a good compromise - you say that you want to apologise, but don't actually do it. It might annoy your friends less because they'll see that you're trying to curb the amount of times you apologise. And, well, it helped me to break the habit by thinking more about what I was saying before I said it.

Originally Posted by PandaPon

I used to apologise quite a lot. It was sort of an instinct - something bad happened, and I'd apologise, whether it was my fault or not.

Perhaps, whenever you feel like you need to apologise, you could take a breath and think: "is this actually something I should be apologising for?" If you know that it isn't, don't apologise. But if you still really feel like you need to apologise, you could say something like, "I want to say sorry, but I know this isn't my fault..." That is what I tried to do when I recognised that I was apologising too much but still couldn't stop apologising, and I think it's a good compromise - you say that you want to apologise, but don't actually do it. It might annoy your friends less because they'll see that you're trying to curb the amount of times you apologise. And, well, it helped me to break the habit by thinking more about what I was saying before I said it.

I have to agree with PandaPon :roll:

Hmm... ^^" I do that... I've gotten as far as "apologizing for apologizing for apologizing for apologizing for doing something/saying something". I think the only way to overcome it would be to try to avoid saying sorry... I have to cut myself off a lot to stop myself from doing it too much.

Idk about how to stop it, as it's still a very bad habit... but good luck =)

Originally Posted by Kaze-bear

Hmm... ^^" I do that... I've gotten as far as "apologizing for apologizing for apologizing for apologizing for doing something/saying something". I think the only way to overcome it would be to try to avoid saying sorry... I have to cut myself off a lot to stop myself from doing it too much.

Idk about how to stop it, as it's still a very bad habit... but good luck =)

Same here. But I think that all of us who over apologize should figure out why we say "Sorry"
Do we feel that we should be able to control things, and apologize for our inability to control it all? Are we told or have we been told it's all our fault (whether it's true or not) Or are we apologizing to fill those awkward silences after a mistake has been noticed?
If that makes sense at all :sweat:

Some people do that, and it's just a smidge annoying to hear "sorry" coming out of their mouths every other word. Not everything is your fault, in fact, most likely none, or very little of it, is your fault. Maybe you feel compelled to just say sorry for the littlest things. You don't have to say sorry if you didn't do anything wrong.

Omgosh, I do the same thing. >.< I'm an extremely shy person, and I have this uncontrollable thing inside me that just makes me want people to like me. I hate making people feel disappointed or like they're wasting time on me. I can't stop saying sorry, either. x.x

Like, I'll be in practice and the coach will say I did something wrong, and I automatically say "sorry" every time. Or even when I did a small thing wrong and they don't say anything, I say "sorry." And I know that annoys him. >.< Also, when I was playing a league racquetball game. I was doing NOTHING wrong, but the girl always did this "double look" thing before she served. And -every time- she looked the 2nd time, I'd say sorry. xD I couldn't help it! SHe even asked "why do you say sorry all the time?" And I'm just like "iduno....x.x"

Then, with my friends, it's bad too. (Not as bad as with the people I don't know, though.)

I fear confrontation, and I really hope I'm never in a car accident. It'll be all their fault and I'll keep saying sorry, even if I don't want to. I've tried to control it, but it just comes out! >.<

And I'm not sorry for posting this, 'cause it feels so good to finally tell someone who does the same thing as me. =) Thanks for making the thread! <3

I dont do that, actually i do the opposite I shudder up when im saying sorry or thanks or please, people think "whats wrong with her saying all that" but im polite in my own way.
But wow, my best friend Viki has that, no matter what if I go,
"Viki can you stand up your on my homework xD" She'll go "Oh my sorry sorry" and im like
"No big hun" but shes stopped now, she learned that saying sorry was not always the answer, she says it when needed, but not because she feels like she needs to,
saying sorry is one of those things thats a indeedly polite thing.
You dont have to stop, but just cut it down abit,
you didnt waste my time at all I had fun explaining to you.
Good luck (:

OH!
I do that too, but I don't have a story behind why I apologize to much.
When I laugh, "oh sorry."
When i think i say something stupid "sorry"
and as you said, offend i think i annoy them by it so i say sorry again.
I also say I'm so I'm so stupid a lot.
Its just a habit or something.
Or maybe because I'm extremely shy. idk

I feel the same way sometimes! xD
Like, if I post for too long on someone's thread or in an email, or if my post in an RP is too long I feel bad. T^T
But the thing is, don't feel apologetic for apologizing. That's a vicious cycle. Just try to enjoy yourself with your friends, and don't dwell on the past.

I'm the same way, I even apologize for things that aren't even my fault, or have nothing to do with me. My friends and family find it amusing, but it annoys the crap out of me. :/

I apologize all the time, both out of habit to be polite, and because I mainly feel like somehow, something tracks back to me and is my fault.
Like, if my boyfriend's knee hurts after riding our bikes. I say, "Oh, I'm so sorry! It's my fault, we shouldn't have gone so far..." In reality, he's had problems with his knees for the past four years because he's been working in fast food and standing for eight hours at a time.

I'm always saying that I'm sorry for things I can't control.
I know how you feel, and I'm not sure how to get rid of it either. ._.

I was like you in the past, and everytime when I apologize my friends also said "you don´t have to apologize" and then I apologized again for apologizing oO...!
and everytime I made this again, thei said " you don´t, you don´t, you don´t " and over the time I learned to apologize a little bit less than before and I am just becoming better ^^

My friends helped me a lot to regognize me that it isn´t my fault all the time and I am really glad they teached me so.

I hope, you will also learn when it is your turn to apologize and when it is the turn of someone else x3

I apoligize a lot too. Even one day someone tell me you don't have to apologixe for that, that isn't your fault. And i were like wanting to apologize again for apologizing for something that i shouldn't. Lol. Complicated?