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Originally Posted by Nalah Sin (Post 1764920608)

Oh, I see. I guess that's even more reason for the kid gloves. It might feel awkward at first, but whatever you do, just ask him whether it's okay for him. This way you won't unintentionally trigger bad memories, and at the same time he'll know that you wanted to be close to him and only refrained from doing so for his own sake.

As for the spacing out - I'm a bit of a dreamer myself, as soon as I'm in a car I tend to completely walk off into my own worlds. So my mother and I devised a signal between the two of us so she can easily "bring me back" when we arrived at our destination (in our case it's rapping at the window). You could try whether this works for you, too - think of a trigger (saying your name, touching your hand, pinching your cheek) and before spacing out memorise to WAKE UP when it's triggered. At least for me, the normal span of up to a minute before coming back is completely gone whenever I hear the rapping on my window.

I gave him permission to hit me if he needed to talk to me, or if it was uberly important. He pokes me, but I guess I don't feel it. That, or he can lick me because wetness = OMG, WTF.

Found out why that one friend hates me. Apparently I am a bitch that causes drama. To be honest, I was only mean to him the day that I was sick (fever, strep throat, lack of sleep) and I apologized for weeks after that.

When I got kicked out of my house by my mom, he offered to let me stay. Or actually, his parents did. That night I spent there, he would whine how I was causing drama if I mentioned anything about being kicked out. I'm like...I want to talk about it because it helps. Wanting comfort is not causing drama. I was a mess that day.

Oh, true - wetness is always a good way of bringing someone back... :D

I stand full square behind you, that's not causing drama. If he doesn't feel like giving you a chance to prove you're not a whiny bitch, just ignore him. Not all friends on both sides have to agree with a relationship for it to work perfectly well. As long as your boyfriend doesn't listen to him, it's absolutely okay for him to not approve of you. You're not his girlfriend, after all. ;)

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Originally Posted by Nalah Sin (Post 1764920759)

I know that. This guy for some reason has been against the relationship since day one, and I don't know why. It frustrates me because he used to take me aside and tell me how it wouldn't last. He basically lectured me about it. I do ignore him, but it's hard when we share mutual friends. I'm nice to him, and pretty much treat him like I would treat a friend of a friend.

His brother isn't fond of me. :| But his mom adores me.

Hey, that's pretty good - a lot of people would just take the easy route and snap at him, which would probably just make it even worse. This way at least you'll keep on good terms with his mother, which even might eventually lead to him realising that she's got a reason to actually like you.

But right now I guess there's not much you can do about it, so you'll have to accept it, even if it's not easy. Don't let it get to you too much, though, for you have by far more important things to care about right now! =3

I think he might be avoiding me.

Talked to him for awhile this afternoon about my job interview before he went brb, logged off, and never came back on. There's no way I can get in contact with him besides messaging him on Facebook and Gaia. He's on IMVU, but I just added his new avatar. He has that sent to friend's only so there's no way in hell I can chat with him. I can PM him...that's because it.

Plus, it's been confirmed by various friends (who insist on telling me) that his phone is shut off because his brother didn't pay the bill.

I could drive over to his brother's tomorrow...but not the best idea knowing his brother. =\

He hinted at me that he wanted me to come back on IMVU. He hasn't added me back...I'm still pending.

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Ended up talking and making plans for Wed.

Try not to be too jumpy at the moment. I know it's hard not to think he's avoiding you every time he's not available - but if that was true, he wouldn't have agreed to revive your relationship.

Probably the best thing to do is to behave exactly like you did before this whole mess, just with that little extra of showing more affection towards him (in the very way he's used to). Being too anxious might just make him feel a bit under pressure, and I guess that's what he needs the least right now.

Try to relax a bit - things are getting better! :hug:

I feel so broken now.

He is back to the point where he doesn't know if he loves me anymore. Told me that a lot of things about me drives him away...like how I'm emotional driven. He said I could change until I was a new person, and all he would see was the old me. Yet, there's still the second chance in effect. Why?

I feel so fucking broken now.