My best friend is also my coworker. I went into work on saturday, and she didn't say a word to me, which is very unusual. I figured she was just in a mood, but she was fine talking to our other 2 coworkers, and my boss. I acted like I didn't notice, and made a few efforts for conversation. I mean I hadn't spoken to her since the night before and she was fine with me then. I texted her when I got home saying I didn't know why she was mad but I didn't want to lose her as a friend and was sorry for whatever it is that I did. No answer.

Yesterday, I went in to work, to once again get to work a lovely 5 hour shift of getting the cold shoulder. I asked my boyfriend if he knew what was up (he's also our coworker). He didn't, but tried talking to her. They conversed all day via his cell phone. According to him he was trying to get her to talk to me but she expected me to come to her. By then I assumed the reason she was mad was because I flipped shit on one of our friends friday night. What I say to other people is not her business. My shift ended with me crying. I don't cry, ever!

I texted her when I was home, and I was furious by then. Actually, it was taking a lot of effort not to abuse people's grocery's at work. She answered me, angrily, and I asked if I could call her, because I hate trying to settle things over text, and it usually makes things worse. She said no, she was on the phone with her friend Steven. I tried calling a few hours later, and her sister told me she was in the shower. I called a half hour later and no one answered, purposely.

The friend that I flipped on in the first place, I called to ask why she told my best friend everything I said, what made her think she had a right to do that, and to appologize for some of the stuff I said, because it was pretty harsh. That got me no where.

My best friend texted me at fucking 2am, finally. She sent a 2 paged text to my boyfriend complaining about me! I think that crosses the line.

The real reason she's mad is because she thinks I've changed. That I don't care about anything anymore (which is completely not true), and (this I knew about) she hates that I'm usually texting my boyfriend (yet she's fine with me constantly texting other friends. what the fuck) and that I only think about him (because clearly she knows what's going on in my head better than I do. none of this is true, i make sure of it). A girl I barely talk to told me my friend has conversations about me at band. WHAT THE FUCK?

I don't think I can work there anymore.

I want to repair this friendship, I really do. But I don't think it's gonna happen. She won't listen to a word I say, and she refuses to answer when I ask if we're still friends. I don't think I can handle work today. I really don't. Yesterday was quite possibly the worst day, ever. I don't know what to do. How can I fix this?

I think it's going to be hard to repair it. My best friend from years ago and I had a really bad fallout. Everytime I would get something and she wouldn't (Like I got into show choir and she didn't) she would ignore me for two weeks and then come to school and act as though the last 2 weeks hadn't ever happened. It would hurt me so bad. But just little things like me getting a solo in chorus or me talking about something would make her mad. And I finally told her "I have had enough." It was after choir on my way to spanish, I was so fed up with it. When I got to spanish my friend had to sit there and consol me as I just cried my heart out. I mean, she was my best friend and I basically told her we couldn't be friends anymore. We tried, we did try to make up from time to time but it wasn't the same and now we don't talk at all anymore. She is happier, I'm happier. It was just.....better for the both of us that we didn't talk anymore. I mean, yeah she was hurting me, but I guess I was hurting her too but getting things she wanted, like being in show choir and getting a solo. So it was just better for the both of us.

I'm not saying going tell your friend, this is enough. But you may want to seriously consider breaking off the friendship. If she gets mad at you for something that had nothing to do with her in the first place, what kind of friend is she? And she talks about you, and she's saying bad things about you to your friends and your boyfriend. Yes you have a boyfriend and she is probably jealous. But that doesn't give her the right to flip on you. If she was really your friend, don't you think she would have tried to settled this in a much friendlier fashion?

Originally Posted by Maria-Minamino

I think it's going to be hard to repair it. My best friend from years ago and I had a really bad fallout. Everytime I would get something and she wouldn't (Like I got into show choir and she didn't) she would ignore me for two weeks and then come to school and act as though the last 2 weeks hadn't ever happened. It would hurt me so bad. But just little things like me getting a solo in chorus or me talking about something would make her mad. And I finally told her "I have had enough." It was after choir on my way to spanish, I was so fed up with it. When I got to spanish my friend had to sit there and consol me as I just cried my heart out. I mean, she was my best friend and I basically told her we couldn't be friends anymore. We tried, we did try to make up from time to time but it wasn't the same and now we don't talk at all anymore. She is happier, I'm happier. It was just.....better for the both of us that we didn't talk anymore. I mean, yeah she was hurting me, but I guess I was hurting her too but getting things she wanted, like being in show choir and getting a solo. So it was just better for the both of us.

I'm not saying going tell your friend, this is enough. But you may want to seriously consider breaking off the friendship. If she gets mad at you for something that had nothing to do with her in the first place, what kind of friend is she? And she talks about you, and she's saying bad things about you to your friends and your boyfriend. Yes you have a boyfriend and she is probably jealous. But that doesn't give her the right to flip on you. If she was really your friend, don't you think she would have tried to settled this in a much friendlier fashion?

I don't know. Everything was fine 3 days ago. We rarely fight. She's a huge drama queen, and loves to blow things out of proportion and then blame someone else for doing so, which is exactly what she's doing here. I think...I think she thought she lost me when I started dating our coworker. But she didn't! Friday night I told her she was welcome to come over saturday after work so we could start our halloween costumes (we were gonna make them out of tape so we have to start soon) and she was all fine with that idea until I got in on saturday. I think she got an idea in her head that she was going to lose me, so she made it happen, maybe not consciously but still.

I've been a fucking mess. My boss said he's never seen me be quiet before and that I don't seem like me. My boss doesn't pay attention to anything!

I just want everything back the way it was.

So...i know this isn't what most people would say, but i'd act exactly like your friend O_o But that's also a good thing for your problem, because i can kinda see her side. I'm pretty stubborn, and if i thought that my other friend had changed and didn't care, i wouldn't talk to her until she said sorry or changed. BUT even if she did i still wouldn't talk to her. Why? Because i don't know the hell why.

You see, people can be really stubborn when they don't know what to do. She probably thinks she's way too far along to stop or turn it around (happens to all of us, right?) You probably didn't do anything, it's just what she thinks you did. I don't know how exactly you can fix it, but you can't unless she puts in half of the effort too

Wow, what a cow- if she's going to believe someone else over you without giving you a chance to explain yourself then I think I have the right to say that- but bitch me out if you want to.

I find it funny that she texts a 2 page text to your boyfriend- isn't he one of the things that's getting between you two from being OMG BBFLs? That's either trying to grind some gears or she's doing EXACTLY what she just accused you of doing- not giving a shit about anyone but herself.

Now I know you've already stated that she's lover of the melodrama but come on- taking it to work is just childish. If I was you I'd try and be civil at work and if she keeps acting like a spoilt little brat just fuck that shit and lodge a complaint to management. Don't lose your job over some self righteous cow that won't let you even fight your corner.

As for you changing and not apologising? If you have changed then why should you apologise for it? If it got to her that badly she'd try and talk it out with you, not play silly fuckers with the silent treatment.

The only thing I can really say is (in y'know... actually trying to help XD) is confront her with this- don't give her a chance to run away or give you the cold shoulder- you deserve that much.

i'm with Axenblade on this one. yes, including the cow comment, because she is. she's being an extremely overly dramatic jerk. and so you can just freakin' bitch me out too.
she won't talk to you. she wants you to apologise, so why the hell is she avoiding you? avoiding confrontation?
you shouldn't even have to apologise! if you have changed, fine, whatever! it's none of her freakin' business! (or wasn't. is she still acting like this?) and of course you want to be with your boy friend! that's like the WHOLE FREAKIN' POINT! jeez, why are you friends with her if she's going to act like this?! if she's going to just give you the silent treatment and then be all bitchin' on you when you try and sort it out, she is not a good friend. if she is usually nice, and you actually want to be friends with her still, try and make up. but otherwise, just let her go be a jerk to somebody else.

Time will tell. Back off. Cool down. Let her come to you. If she can text a two page message to your boyfriend she could do the same for you. Wait it out. Let her know the door is open. But dont beat yourself to death over it. She just may end up not being worth the trouble. True friends can talk it out. Over anything. Sometime friends cant. Move on.

If she is being such an idiot as to ignore you and refuse to talk about it then clearly she isnt someone who you should be friends with.

I had two friends who where heaps tight but then one of them made a comment 'Oh yea lol, you do cry heaps' as a joke and then my other friend got up and walked off and refused to talk about it. In many ways they are both idiots. lol. i love them anyway. but the point is, blowing things out of proportion.

if ur friend refuses to talk about something that she started then is not your fault. Its hers, and fankly if she doesnt want to talk to u its her loss.

Also, i dont think you should let something like this, a fight between friends get inbetween you and work. Work is work, you should leave this sort of thing outside the workplace.