Ok i have a friend and his name is jonny and he is 18 i like him and he likes me but the age differance is 3 years appart. :( I dont know if i should go out with him or just be friends? i realy like him and he know it...help me please.

3 years isn't so bad! I thought it was going to be somewhere in the 5-7
18 might not be a good age though, he's probably going to college and you won't see him very much.
:sweat: i'm not the best at giving advice, but maybe you should just be friends for awhile

Well, the law should answer this question for you pretty easily. You're underage, so don't get involved with someone who's legally an adult and will go to prison for statutory rape if you get caught having sex with him...that might sound a bit cold and unhelpful but it's just a sensible way of looking at it.

I have to agree with jelly, if this was an online thing i would say have your fun yea whatever ... but if its real life you put both your heads on the chopping blocks. not to mention that is a bad age to try to be serious with a guy. most guys between 16 - 25 only have one thing on their mind. and a younger girl is just bragging rights with their buddies.

As long as you stay away from sex, it's fine.
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My parents are 10 years apart, Helen Keller's parents were 20 years apart...

3 years is NOTHING.
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Originally Posted by L i x i e

As long as you stay away from sex, it's fine.
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My parents are 10 years apart, Helen Keller's parents were 20 years apart...

3 years is NOTHING.
xD

The age thing is much more of an issue these days than it was when your rents met. and as to helen keller... she was growing up in a time where 14 - 16 was a common age to marry. The age is not really the issue is the legality.
It is nothing if you were both legal. the point is you are not legal. Lets remove the possibility he may use you for a moment. Even if you guys love each other and even if you didnt sleep with each other which is unlikely... Your rents are gonna fry him and he does not have to sleep with you to have charges brought up against him. It's a bad situation unless he is willing to wait for you.
Unless your rents are VEEERRRY understanding

Aw. Love situations are really painful and hard. I believe in age doesn't matter in love thing, but you are a minor to him. I guess you guys should just be friends. And yeah, you have to think ahead in time if he suddenly blacks out on you and leaves you with nothing.

Oh, that Well, I don't much pay attention to age...my friends fault! My friends have gone out with people WAY older than themselves. In fact! My friends 17 year old sister who just dropped out of school just got pregnant with a 40 year old. Okay, don't go to any extremes, but three years is fine. But, at the moment, I'm going out with someone with 5 years age difference, one of my friends is getting messed up with a 21 year old, but she can take care of herself. Age is a number, and doesn't that much matter.

Loves bounds cannot be held by age...

A three year age difference is very normal with relationships. When I was 15 my boyfriend was 18 and no one ever gave us any trouble about it. As long as you are careful, you don't want it to turn into a sexual relationship before it is legal. He could get in serious trouble and even go to jail.

Age holds no bounds on love....after you're 18. A relationship three years apart is no big deal, except you'll be in highschool, he'll be in college. It's no secret that it'll become sexual. (Come on, highschool and college aren't known for there modesty, are they now?) And if that happens, he could go to jail. Just stay friends. Once you turn 16-17, you could go after him, but math tells me your 15, so not quiet yet. Also, I'm not sure if it's a law only where I am, or for the whole US, but there's this thing called the Romeo and Juliet Law. It makes realtionships from 16 to 23?(I think 23, it might be 21, not totally sure. >.<) legal. So if you ever get in trouble you can just use that.

Adam is 20. I am 16. So......hmmmm honestly
i could care less if adam was 30 I would still love him lol

My boyfriend is three and a half years older than me, and he was eighteen when we started dating. -shrug- I don't think three years is a very big deal, personally.

And actually, whether or not it's legal depends on where you live. If you're above the age of consent (which is 16 in most states, I think...) or if there are certain clauses that allow people within X age range to have sex, then you're okay. My boyfriend and I were never actually doing anything illegal, despite the age range. I checked, many times.

3 years isnt bad at all I thought it was going to be between 4-7 years but as long as you guys want to be together I think that would be fine. :3

3 years isn't a bad thing, just be careful with the legality of it all. If your parents are okay with it though, I don't see who would press charges against him unless you were having sex in public or on tape. (both of which wouldn't be smart, especially under the circumstances) Maybe you should talk to your parents about it, they may be able to help you.

Age is only a number, darlin'. Besides, my mom is sixteen years older than my dad, and what's driving them apart are all of her rampant psycosis', not her age. And my boyfriend is 26, while I'm 19.
But in the end, I guess it's all about how you spend the time you spend together already, and if you want more from him than just friendship.

i had a bf, he was 18 close to 19, and i was only 15 at that time. since he was older, he could like "do" anything with me. so he started going after sombody else his age because of that. he wasnt good enough because he didnt want to wait. so i say good luck, most things like that dosnt turn out unless the person really cares and are patient enough.

adualts are different when it comes to 3 yrs apart. its not a problem because they dont have illegal issues and other things, but when it comes to a young age dating an adualt or 18 yrs old, same thing, but thats not really at all a good choice.

its your decision after all though, that is if its ok with parents and all....

Age gaps always seem huge when your younger but think aobut it, a 22 year old with a 25 year old, a 40 year old with a 43 year old. Theres nothing wrong with it, i like someone who;s 4 years older than me, I tihkn age gaps old really matter when it;s close to ten years gap, but to be honest you should do what your happy with, and not feel you have to do what others find acceptable.

I'm definitely with Jelly on this one. The law is there for a reason. The younger you are, the more vulnerable you are and the more the age gap makes a difference. Until you hit 18, I would strongly suggest dating people who are close to your age. Once you're out of high school you'll find the less the age gap would really matter.

There's a 5 year age gap between my husband and I and I couldn't dare see me dating him at age 15.

I'm with Jelly on this one. If you're not legal then don't date someone who is considered an adult. The law is going to bite you in the end on that one but once you are no longer a minor then 3 years isn't a big deal.

My husband is 18 years older than me, but we met when I was 19 and a freshman in college; he was a re-entry student, graduating college. What matters is not age, but maturity level.

Then again, when I was 14, a 17-year-old guy and I went out for a bit (no sex), and he wanted to marry me. It ended pretty traumatically, him threatening suicide and stuff -- he's fine today AFAIK -- and I had a lot of difficulty with other relationships for the next three years.

So, I think it's okay to date -- casually. Go to a movie, see if the chemistry is there... make out if you like... but nothing serious until you know it'll work!

Originally Posted by XemoXgirlX16

Ok i have a friend and his name is jonny and he is 18 i like him and he likes me but the age differance is 3 years appart. :( I dont know if i should go out with him or just be friends? i realy like him and he know it...help me please.

if you want everyone to know then both your parents must consent to the relationship...

Since you're 15 and he's 18, I recommend you keep it platonic. All it would take is one irritated parent to turn your relationship into a legal issue. While it may work for some, it doesn't work for everyone; hence, the laws that are in place against it.
You should really talk to your parent(s) before you do anything. It would help prevent A LOT of problems

Three years isn't that much at your age. I would just be careful and not let things go too far, take things slowly with him. Also, what do your parents think about you going out with a guy his age? That really does matter, I know they drive you nuts but, they are still your parents and have a lot of say about what you do with your life. You might want to talk to them.

well, since he's 18 it's not legal, but it's your life. if you really love him, i'd tell you to go for it even if he was 20 years older than you.