So I just broke up with the second guy in under a year (Yeah I realize some people do it more often...) the problem is, two different guys, same reason for breaking up.

It seems to me, that I only attract guys who:
Lie
Makes up bad excuses
Have no guts
Wants me to protect them and take care of their lifes...


So is it me that's something wrong with, or is the male sex just pathetic, or am I having too high expectations, because I want a guy who won't lie to me, and who will actually try and protect me just sometimes?

(Or am I just being an ungrateful emo kid?)

There's probably not much wrong with yourself, but this illustrates the problem in general with NEEEEEEEDING a boyfriend/girlfriend.

The girls may be all starry-eyed and emotionally involved, but to an awful lot of guys, a girl is nothing but a) a good time, b) a warm body to sit next to them and keep them company (a "friend" on call 24/7 when their other friends won't come), c) a status symbol, d) boasting rights, e) a shoulder to cry on and an ear to whine into and f) an accessory like a cell phone that looks cool with the outfit (look at MEEE! I've got a HAWT CHICK!!!)

And the younger the guy, the more likely one or more, if not all of those things will be true about him.

On the other hand, an awful lot of girls look at a guy like a) a second wallet, b) bragging rights, c) a weapon/attack dog, d) a second daddy, e) a groveling adorer/worshiper to kiss her feet like a deity, a f) a replacement for psych drugs to stabilize the least fluctuation of her mood (and heaven help him if he doesn't)

And the younger the girl, the more likely one or all of those will be true about them.

When you hit 20-something... SOME of this crap starts to clear up, and the beginnings of some hope that you might actually find someone mature enough, sincere enough and maybe even sane enough to truly, actually, REALLY love you, begins to dawn. Until then, though, trying to find a lasting romantic relationship in a world of immature, emotionally unstable, conceited and self-adoring, clingy, needy, messed up children or teens... is kind of like a soldier in the middle of a war running across an open battlefield in plain sight dressed in nothing but his shorts... and then wondering why he gets shot so much.

Not saying ALL kids and teens are like that, but... I'd say there are way more of them than would ever realize or admit it's true.

You're better off forgetting romance if you're under 20, and working on building a good life for yourself, and learning to stand on your own two feet, than messing around with a bunch of immature guys looking for a free body and a soft heart to abuse. I know people who are in their twenties who are STILL behaving like selfish, conceited, immature dopes in this department. I just hope I can keep my mouth shut when they come to me and ask why it didn't work out for them.

yorihiko summed it up perfectly. i'm really picky about who i date, and i haven't had a lot of problems other than a bad time to be in a relationship or just growing in different directions.

good luck finding the right one though.

Believe me, it is very hard to find that right guy, and there really could be multiple right guys...Just please don't find them all at the same time XD It took me, a cheating b*astard, a guy who wouldn't even admit we were dating, a physco, and a stalker to find my hubbs. It's a long road, but once you find that great guy...Oh it's so worth it.

There is NOTHING wrong with you. You know what you want, and that is a great thing. Don't let people fool you into thinking that you need to be the slut, or the cheerleader *sterotypically, I apologize if anyone really is a cheerleader*, or anything but who you are.

Hiko is exactly right. Older guys are more mature, well, some of them. There are still those wanna-be frat boys who are trying to be the high school pimp, of sorts. Just forget about those nasty losers and focus on something that you are passionate about :D For me, it's writing. :D

Thank you everyone, I am happy to know it's not just me, and thank you very much for the advice

It's not you, it's most men. You not only have to maintain a balance, but you have to let the man know that if the balance shifts you won't hesitate to leave. But also be sure that you make him feel like he is the one and only that you have eyes for if he chooses to be loyal to you. They lie because they think they can get away with it.

Let them know it's all in, or all out. Even if it hurts. (I just had to jump ship because he wasn't in it... he's regretting it now, but if i had of stayed he would have had a jolly time screwing with my feelings and telling his mum we were together and me he wanted to see othe people)

I don't like to say it like this, but from experience it's true lol Men are like children that never grow up, treat them that way, and they do the right thing ^^ deny them gratification, (be it seeing you, going to the movies with you, talking to you ) when they do someting wrong, and prais them (feed their ego, give them attention, tell them they're amazing/big and tough) when they do something right :P

Yeah, I can't help but saying, that sounds like something I know... though my bf just lied to me because he thought I would be angry over some really ridicoulous things O_o

He also talked like he was from the 1800s >_> because he had this weird idea he couldn't swear near me, and I mean, I say f*ck and a** like 60% of the time O_o

I understand the not swearing, but maybe he didn't swear at all because he had anger management issues. Because if he let go it would all fall apart y'know? the control he had. But yes, men are silly sill creatures. They're also creatures who mentally generally remember the good/pleasure more than the bad, women are the opposite LOL we'll remember the day they called us fat forever but eventually forget the day they gave us a rose over time :P sometimes anyway ^^

lol yeah

And well about the temper, the guy couldn't kill a fly even if he wanted to :O
He just had all these weird ideas from his old fashioned christian family :/

that makes alot of sense... ^^

Yeah, probably does :/

I get that, I actract dweebs and users. My adivce is to change the way you act. If you flirt alot, trey to take a step back for example, changing the way yuou act a little, should attract different kinds of guys.