I just can't stand it. It's happened to me several times, and it hurts so much!!!
It happened again today:

I've been hanging out with this guy that I've been friends with for a long time. I've also had a crush on him forever... Well, he's "tried to make me feel better" by holding hands with me and such, and it only made things worse...

We hung out a couple of times this summer, and every time he seemed to be flirty with me, and we would cuddle and such...
After he went back to school (he's in Texas right now), we talked online almost every day, and proceeded to be flirty...
One night, when I was feeling really down, he told me that he loved me, and since he's led me on a few times before, I wanted to make sure it wasn't just a lead on again. Turns out it was, and he said that I'm "more like a younger sibling to him" and that he meant it in that way...
I don't know what I should do! Should I stay friends with him and make it clear that he needs to be clear with me? I'm really stuck.

Please help! Any advice will do!!!

I would yell at him. Tell him you are acting like he likes you and that made you like him and that you need to know if hell ever love you like you love him and if not you cant be friends. thats what i did. now hes my bf :]

@ ii_lovebug:
I would feel like I was forcing him into something, and I really don't want to do that...
I already bitched him out, and I kinda feel bad for some of the things I said...

I went out with a guy once that at first told me He "loved me love a sibling." But that was just .... when we were denying our like for each other. and people would be like "are you dating" or "do you like her?" and he'd be like "I like her like a sister" Turns out he liked me not in that way. Maybe you're friend is just afraid to tell you the truth? Especially since you seem to live someone else than he does...so he might not want to start somthing for fear of long distance or hurting you, etc.

That has happened to me to but i was madly in love with this guy and he invited me over to his house cuddled with me and made out with me and then the next day he took me to the park and told me he thinks we would be better of friends. Then at every party I went to with him he would make out with me and dance with me and teased me. Lol i said you know what if you are going to play with me forget you and I went and found a guy that truly cares. That made him so jealous. Anyway with the guy that cares now and I am really happy. I think you should still be friends but don't want anymore and don't show it. Try to move on from him or just act like you are not interested in him anymore and tell him you are not up for games anymore.

Thank you guys for such kind advice... ^_^

Your welcome ^.^ Always here to help.

There is no point in yelling at him just because he sees you in a different way than you see him. The only thing I have for you is to tell him you like him and that if he doesn't get that across you will TRY your hardest to be his friends. That is the only way to get over your feelings with a guy that is 'supposedly' leading you on. Though I think love as a sibling is possible. It must hurt though, I hate when guys do that. I won't share mine but I hate it and so does the next girl that is being lead on by some unknown dude. What bastards!

I've been in a situation like that, sadly enough. Last year I seemingly fell in love with one of my best friends, a really good guy named Ben. And he flirted back with me, and we always talked, and he called me to wish me good things or whatever when I had a bad day.

Turns out he was doing the same thing with another of my besties Ashley. Like, we got so angry with him, and after that I just can't treat him the same anymore since he lead me on on purpose. Jerk.

Guys...are stupid. Now that we have the basis of my arguement i shall go on. Being a member of the male side of life, i have feaatred this often, a majority of our female friends are seen as little siblings or older siblings, depending. Yes, those feelings do change, but rarely on our terms. We will try to make the people around us feel happy at costs to our selves and in cases like this friendships and the posibiblities of future relationships. Living more in the now then the past or future. This guy is trying to help you out, but doesn't see his help is only a temp patch, I don't think you need to define the relationship, he says you are a little sister, that might be true. Or he fears being the cause and source of your discomfort, and you running off to get it somewhere else... he values being your friend and helping you more than being your boy and possibly get to close to see the whole you...

Originally Posted by ii_lovebug

I would yell at him. Tell him you are acting like he likes you and that made you like him and that you need to know if hell ever love you like you love him and if not you cant be friends. thats what i did. now hes my bf :]

I second this. The only way to stop him leading you on is to tell him what you think of his actions. Maybe he doesn't know that he's sending mixed messages; guys and girls totally have different ideas of what gets across to the opposite sex. Be super-clear with him about what you want, and I think he'll respond better to that. Don't be shy about saying, "I really like you, I want to spend more time with you; but if you only like me like a sister, and you don't love me like a girlfriend, then please tell me so I'll stop being confused." Or something like that.

@ puppyvampire: Thank you for giving your opinion on the issue. I think this is the most accurate response that I've had.
@ animescholar: I already made that clear the other times that he did this to me... o_0

Oooh, that's a real drag. My best advice would just be to get in communication with him on the subject. Not from the view or objective to make him wrong or make him feel bad about it, just let him know about how you're still getting these mixed signals, and how it's confusing you.

But, you might just have to accept the fact that well, he just might not be into you. Girls feel on again/off again about a guy just as much as the opposite.

I would have to agree with Maria-Minamino and others on this one.
This sort of thing is no different whether you are male or female.

Have you ever told him you loved him in a boyfriend-girlfriend-type way? If not, he might be saying he likes you as a sister because he is unsure how you feel about him, and so the 'sister' part is like a contingency plan. Just incase you don't feel the same way he does, the 'sister' part is a backup so that you can still stay friends.

Perhaps he is waiting for you to say you love him.

Don't yell at him! *read first post* That may be how I solve most of my problems but I don't think that'll work for you.
Now, this may be a wee bit hard to do or comprehend, because i have never done something like this. By best bet, I don't think half of these people do either (but we all want to help you so it's ok)
I have two pieces of advice,
1. Listen to anime_scholar
2. If he just loves you in a little sibling way, then accept that. The only problem is you have to talk to him about it first.

Originally Posted by Little Miss

I have two pieces of advice,
1. Listen to anime_scholar
2. If he just loves you in a little sibling way, then accept that. The only problem is you have to talk to him about it first.

Let us know how it goes, ok? (Especially as someone seconded my advice.)

I know you said that you've tried it once, but try it again, and keep trying until you can no longer stand it. Unless you're there now, in which case just give up and move on. It's trite, but there are lots of fish in the sea.

Thank you guys! I'll make sure to keep you updated on this. ^_^
EDIT:
Update: We talked the other day, and things are alright between us. However, he hasn't talked to me in a few days... He is busy with school, so I'm not that worried, but I just don't want this to crumble our friendship apart...
I'm probably going to keep trying to win his heart, but I'm not sure if it'll happen.

You should talk to him about this. Clearly express your feelings towards him and tell him what you've felt and thought about him leading you on and demand an explanation if there is one. There's a possibility that he's done that without knowing it, so he might be a bit confused aswell.

Well, technically speaking, girls lead guys on too. Sounds like your friend doesn't realize the damage he's causing, and you should tell him to choose which side of the relationship fence he wants to be on.

im with Raishin and everyone else who said you need to tell him to pick a relationship and stick to it for a while. be blunt. tell him you are sick and tired of being led on, explain how he is leading you on if he just doesnt get it, and try and work your way up towards a relationship.
i think thats just the best way to go with this..

I would talk to him tell him you don't want to have a stressed relationship with him because all you can think around him is about is if he truly likes you or not get it out off him it feels much better once it's all free and if he doesn't then whatever move on (i know it would be hard but still) continue to be friends with him

dont worry girl...........chances are he does like you hes juss not ready for a relationship he might juss have got out a bad one juss remain his friend n DONT grow any strong feelings for him juss listen when he talks n tell him your problems if he tells you his whatever you do dont let him know yu like him n dont be following him around or calling him on the phone n stuff unless you grow really close good luck oh yeah n talk to other boys also deep down hell get jealous:)but dont make it seem obvious:)

hope i helped :|

I think that you should tell him that he needs to be clear-cut with you. If he likes you that he should say so but if he doesn't he shouldn't act like he does. Although I understand him in a way. He might just not want to hurt your feelings and doesn't realize that he's hurting you more while he's trying to protect you from being hurt. Does that make sense?

Arg. Keep in mind that it goes the other way around sometimes, too. It's not just that guys lead girls on. I...hate to admit it, but I've lead my fair share of men around for the fun of it. >> I got out of the habit, though. The crushing guilt of smashing hearts isn't fun. Well, it is, but not entirely.

I have to agree with most of the other people on the board. Tell him he's being a dummy face and needs to realize what he's doing. 'Snuggling' is rarely if ever a "you're a little sister to me" action, and you need to let him know that.

D< and if he doesn't listen I'll punch him for you.

You should tell him you like him, and that if he doesn't like you back he should stop flirting with you and sending you the wrong signals. If he is just leading you on, that really sucks and you deserve better. He might also just be afraid of commitment, and once again you deserve better. So if he's not going to take you seriously..then..well..yeah. I think you get the idea.