Okay,there was this girl that I liked.We both liked each other but no one ever said anything.Then,my bro comes into the picture and well, those two start going out. Now, I wouldn't fight my brother over something like a girl but I fucking loved her!We still liked each other and we had a small secret relationship with each other.She would come to me for comfort when her and my bro got into a fight and I really didn't want to take advantage of the fact that she would do that.So,what the heck should I have done?

Geez thats rough. I guess you could talk to your bro, or talk to her, and try to show her how much she means to her. The fact that she goes to you for comfort is a sign of trust and respect. Try to get things out in the open, no one likes keeping or being oblivious to secrets.

I have talked to her and we've decided to have a small relationship but she seems to just forget that I've been there for her sometimes.

Originally Posted by Hollowsan

I have talked to her and we've decided to have a small relationship but she seems to just forget that I've been there for her sometimes.

BAD IDEA, REALLY REALLY REALLY bad idea. Trust me. You might feel good about having it, but it's a horrible idea. When your brother finds out his girlfriend is cheating on him with you (and yes, having a relationship with her at his point is called cheating) things are going to become disastrous. This happened to two of my friends. One cheated on her BF with her best friend's BF. It got NASTY. In fact the other BF tried breaking into the other BF's apartment to beat the crap out of/kill him.

And with this being your brother you can be assured things will get pretty nasty too. It might not be as bad as the situation I mentioned above, but if you don't want to destroy your sibling relationship with your brother I'd suggest cutting it out.

If this girl really likes you and don't want to use you then she has to make a choice. Which boy does she really love.

It'll be a little bad if she leaves your bro for you, but not nearly as much as it would be when he catches you cheating with her. Trust me.

Well..Either in the end, you're likely to get hurt. Or your brother is. I agree with Erailea that she's gonna have to choose, unless of course you talk to your brother, and he somehow agrees to share her. Because otherwise it can turn out really bad. You might lose the trust your brother has with you now. I mean, you don't wanna be one of those guys that ends up on the maury show, you know? that'd be really embarrassing. If you think she's worse losing your brother, then stay with her, but if she's not worth it, then ...or if you think it would be better then you should give her up. I think most people already know what they want to do when they post these threads, they probably just need time to think it out, and they also want someone to listen. I wish you the best of luck. I imagine that you're in a lot of pain right now. The situation isn't very fair..

A few years back I met this girl. She was cute, funny, smart, and everybody in the universe seemed to want her. Naturally, this included me. But she was dating my brother. So I stayed backed off. I didn't do anything that I wouldn't do with a friend, not even an ounce of flirting.

About a year ago they broke up. This girl is still cute, still funny, still smart, and everybody in the universe seems to want her. The thing is, she has the biggest crush on me. So she's a perfect, enjoyable, hot, good looking girl who wants to date me.

But I wouldn't date her, because she dated my brother once. I don't want to date my brother's ex, it would be a slap to his face. Besides, at your age? 14? I highly doubt the relationship will go too far before it ends. The idea of finding your one true love at that age is so unlikely it's not even funny. Rather than take a gamble at a highly unlikely odd, stick by your brother. You two are blood, and you need each other. This girl is using you both, and you two are going to let her walk all over you.

Bad. Idea.

I'm sorry to say it, but your brother acted and you didn't. Your brother is someone you'll have to live with forever, this girl probably won't be around for more than a few months (sorry to sound so depressing, but it's fairly realistic for someone your age).. it's best to try and move on and not put the strain on your relationship with your brother. There are plenty of other fish in the sea, and maybe you can take something from this experience. It's better to ask and get turned down than pass up a good opportunity, yes?