So me and my bro are going through the same dilemma: Our mom is wearing us down.She know we are in our teens and want to have some more freedom.It's not cool how she is just nagging us about the most dumbest shit.Like my bro goes to sleep when he comes home and I like to get on the computer.Or it'll be something like I play the game till some late hour in the morning and she'll find me playing it.I'll be nagged to death about it and then when I try to go to sleep,she'll be all like,"Don't try to go to sleep now.You got school in an hour."I just be thinking,"Fuck you.Leave me alone."I know not to say it but I just want to some times.Also,when I get a progress report in a class and see she's I don't do homework,she nags me about it.I only do homework if I actually understand what I was taught during class.I just want to be telling her to shut the fuck up.What should I be doing about this?

You could start by going to bed on time. One of the reasons you don't understand what's going on in the classroom could be that you're not getting enough asleep.

Also, if you don't understand your homework and it's hurting your grades, you should get help with that. Maybe tutoring or even asking your mom for help with the homework if she understands it.

I get enough sleep...sometimes.I don't understand the work because the teachers make it complicated.They'll say it all complicated and then tell us in basic format.That mixes up stuff in my brain and makes it confusing.

I think you should stop playing games at such a late hour. You need rest for school to understand what you need to understand. I'm a Senior now, and boy. I love my sleep whenever I get the chance to get it. Respect your mother because she knows what she's doing for you. Without your education, you'll be a nobody. I think you and your brother should have chores and should get a job, etc. You should be more responsible. You want your "teenage freedom," so earn it.

You should go for tutouring if you can't understand how the teacher's are teaching it. You should even ask your teachers. If they see you're making an effort they'll be nicer about it. Sometimes just by doing your homework, you can teach yourself. That's the point of being a student. If you want freedom and independence, you have to earn it.

I understand what you mean. You want to be able to enjoy yourself while you can, and she's driving you crazy. Although being responsible is something you should look into, being a teenager means you probably won't listen to the nagging you're getting on this board. Rather, maybe you should try explaining to her that you need your freedoms?

If you want to avoid the nagging my best suggestion would be to do what she says most of the time and enjoy your teenage freedoms every once in a while. If you only stay up every night occasionally or skip just a few assignments here and there she'll probably keep her trap shut. That's the best I can do, because that's the coping strategy I use. xD

I hope it helps you.

The thing is though..I know how to take care of myself. If I had the opportunity to leave her and live by myself, I would take it. I can do anything that she can to take care of someone.As for the whole school thing,I think it's because my teachers are trying to teach us a little too much.I think it's because the majority of my school is black....but either way, I don't like staying for teacher's tutoring.I see it as an excuse to keep us there besides clubs or detention.

Then just move out. Just leave, get a job, and rent an apartment.

If you think you can move out and live on your own, prove it.

Before I continue on in a rant, how old are you, anyway?
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Also, I doubt the skin color of your population has anything to do with the teaching choices. It may be possible, but there's bound to be another answer. Perhaps you just can't grasp the lessons well enough? A lot of kids have trouble with classes in high school. I didn't do homework back when I was in high school because I thought it was absolutely pointless (easy as pie, but I don't like doing things that have no benefit for me) and so I dropped out and got my GED. Maybe you should try that if you start getting a little less than well in your grades in high school? College is a significantly better motivator. All you have to do is remind yourself of the thousands of dollars you pay to do that work.

Those are perfectly reasonable things for a parent to be upset about. If you're staying up all night, you're clearly not getting enough sleep and every parent wants to see their kids get good grades. If you don't understand the work, you need to go in during lunch/after school to get extra help. It's not just an excuse to keep you there, do you think the teachers don't want to go home and relax too? You should be using all the resources around you.
And there isn't anything wrong with playing a game, but playing it all night is just unhealthy. Your mom is right, you SHOULD be sleeping.

Your profile says you're fourteen... good luck trying to live by yourself at that age. ;] Not trying to be mean, but no one really wants to hire someone under sixteen, much less rent out an apartment. You've only got four more years, then you can do whatever you want. And if you show you're actually doing your schoolwork and going to bed more or less on time, your parents will get off your back.

"Your profile says you're fourteen"

-goes and looks-
why yes. o.o it does. Thank you, Fabby, for pointing that out to me.
Well, Hollowsan, since you're fourteen I see why you're complaining. The diagnosis:

you're a 14 year old.

It's the age you're going to start getting gripey, but you're just a kid. You haven't tasted life yet (at my age I've just begun, and I'm far older than you!) and you think you can live on your own because you haven't had a job yet. If you can't even handle school, not doing work because you don't understand, how well do you think you'll pull in the work force? Staying up most of the night and ignoring assignments you don't understand will get you fired. You may know these things, but you have to prove by example.

Show your mom that when you're older you'll survive on your own. Then maybe she'll respect you.

I don't think you could survive on your own like you think you can. It takes money, a lot of money. and trust me, you don't wanna live in a homeless shelter. If you need help with class, perhaps ask some of the other students in there that are getting good grades in there. I think the real reason that your complaining is because your going through teen angst.

You probably should try getting more sleep, and eating breakfast if you don't already. I know you say you can take care of yourself, but at your age, I really doubt it. Not many people will hire a 14 year old. Plus if they did, you wouldn't make enough money to get food, and rent an apartment. Not only that, but all the other expenses that come with living.

You make a lot of excuses, and that right there shows that you're not taking responsibility for your own actions. Sure you can get mad at me for saying that, but what I'm trying to tell you, is stop making excuses, and just do what you gotta do. If you don't want your mom yelling at you, then go to bed before 2 AM. If you want to do better in classes, then swallow your pride and ask for help. Don't blame others for things that you can do. You can stay after for tutoring sessions, they are there to help, not to keep you from clubs. You can go to bed earlier, you need your sleep. That's how you take care of yourself.