Help?
 

Raymond's teacher called my dad about missing assignments so my dad took Raymond and cut all of his hair off. He won't walk to anyone and he's hiding. I told him he looked like Adam Lambert but I think that made it worse. any idea what I should do?

(Raymond is my brother, by the way.)

I feel bad for him.

Tell him shaved heads are in now?

My dad said he better do better or he might lose his eyebrows. o_o
And, I tried.

There are only so many hair styles that look good on men. Shaved is one of them. Yummy :D.

If anything give him his space to brood over his lost hair, or go out and buy him a hat if he's really that sensitive about loosing it. A beanie might be the preferable style as it will hide more of his head.

EDIT: If your dad wants to do punishments things like shaving the head do NOT work, its really counter productive because it makes the child feel worse about themselves. I suggest he starts taking away things. IE the power cord to the computer, his gaming counsels etc and lock them away someplace where your bro can't get to. That always got me in shape and doing my homework.

Wow, when we do bad, all we get is some long, boring lecture D;

wow. i am sorry for your brother. you could shave you head to make him feel better.... but then you would be bald. probably not the best route... hm, this is hard. i am not sure what you could say to your brother to make him feel better. im not sure if anything will make him feel better. how old is he?

@SamuraiPanda;
He took the computer away and his guitar the first couple of times he got calls from school.

@Nizhoni;
15.

I agree. I think you need to sit your father down and tell him to take a chill pill. Cutting off a kids hair when they don't even want it only makes the kid feel terrible about themselves and they inevitably do worse than before. Taking things away that he likes (like a video game system) are better ways to go about it. Rewarding him for his good work does wonders too. I know people who give their kids a new game every time they get an A on their report cards.

If your brother is one who struggles with school and can't even get a 'B', perhaps having a reward system for getting a 'B' would be good. It doesn't have to be a game either. It could be going to the theaters to see a movie he wants to watch or even getting something like $20. Something he would enjoy and would encourage him to do better.

Thanks. I'll tell my dad that.

huh. i think that your dad could have found a different way to punish your brother. you could get him a wig or draw something cool/funny on his head. make it seem funny. if he laughs at it and shows that he is okay with it then most people wont bother him.

Well, I'm no Dr. Phil, but ...

First, your dad should not have shaved Raymond's hair. All it does is cause humiliation, resentment, and frankly doesn't work.

I don't know how hard Raymond tries to do well and the like, but I would suggest that dad ask for a conference with the teacher and ask what might be going on and the best way to help Raymond do his best. Dad could also ask how the "bald" treatment is working. I'm pretty sure he'll get an earful.

In fact, it should be a teacher, parent, and student conference, because all voices need to be heard here.

For the short term, a hat might help, but they're generally not allowed in school where I bet he's being teased. The above suggestions are good ones, but also assure him that his hair will grow back.

Good luck.

Yeah, your dad shaving your brother's head is only going to cause resentment which will be detrimental to both of them..
I'm sorry you can't get your brother to talk... Maybe he just needs to have a little time to himself for a while, let him chill out and think things over..

at least he didnt get lines But I do think the head shaving was a bit extreem

Wow, what a terrible punishment... Don't think that this is going to last forever. But I don't think trying to comfort him is going to help. Hair is a very important appearance feature, so I am not surprised that he's taken it so seriously. Just let him heal on his own and eventually he's going to have to accept it. Don't bother him, and definitively do not treat him differently. Those won't help at all. He'll get over it; and once he does he'll be joking about it.
And I find that shaved heads are very attractive! ^^

*laughs* That is good! I agree! (Although I personally won't shave my head...)