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I think this is a question of your own personal values. So, what do you value most? Do you value your steady income? Do you value owning your own home? Do you value travel? What is most important? Are there other goals in life you want to accomplish?

Find out what you want most out of life. What your end game is. Then, do everything in your power to accomplish that goal. You shouldn't have any regrets pursuing the one thing you want most.

Hmm, what are the chances of you finding a good job? Is there anything in particular that you really want to do? Because as much as you may hate your current job, it's very possible that you'll rush into a part-time position and hate it even more. If your boyfriend really wants to do this, it sounds like you guys need a more detailed plan.

If I were you, I'd sit down with him and discuss exactly what you want to be done. If you aren't ready to make the big steps of selling everything and quitting your job, tell him. An if you want to travel and lead an exciting life in the future, tell him.

What you should both do is make a planned timeline. Calculate exactly how much money you can save up each month. Figure out when all of your debts will be paid off and when you'll be able to start looking for new jobs. If the part time jobs will have a lesser salary and lesser benefits, take that into consideration. Think about exactly what you'd like to sell, how much money you could get for it, and where that money would go.

This really doesn't sound like something you can jump into on a whim. If you're nervous and your boyfriend is anxious, creating a real plan may help you guys come back together as a couple. He'll know you're serious about doing this (as long as you stick with the timeline as much as possible), and you'll be prepared when the time finally comes.

If you want to travel, and get paid for it.. why not join the military? They pay for your housing, health insurance, etc. And once you enlist, you don't have to worry about not having a job - They will find something for you! You can put in a couple of years, decide what you want to do after, and at least you will have insurance for the rest of your life! Bonus: They pay for school, and even with so-so grades, the Army can help you get accepted pretty much anywhere.

Well, you could look at this a few different ways, I suppose. You could think about if your current lifestyle is worth getting out of debt and such, first, then wait to sell and take part-time jobs afterwards. And then, there's the touchy issue of the roommates.

Try getting a couple of reliable people. People you know already who you wouldn't mind having around. Perhaps someone at your current job who's having a hard time or something. Hell, maybe even see if a family member is willing to pay for a place to stay. Just don't go for someone you don't know if you aren't prepared to be a landlord.

I wouldn't do it if I were you, because I'm like you. I don't like that I and I don't want ANY part of it ever. But it's really a question of your values. How strong are your morals? How strong is your love for your fiancee? How bad do you want to get out of your rut? These are three questions that you need to define the answers to.

I don't really think it's right for him to try and force this situation on you. That's not really good to do as a fiancee. It seems like he should consider your morals as well as his own when making a decision like this.

But the three questions I wrote above are three questions you definitely need to figure out the answers to. Until then, you won't be able to reach a decision.

Do it. Sell everything! You only live once and you will in fact, regret it when your old and have done absolutely NOTHING with your life!

My parents are a grand example. They have never gone anywhere with their life, they are completely and utterly in debt and they fell out of love with each other YEARS ago because all they ever did was work, sleep, eat, work, sleep, eat, pay the bills every month, worry, and work.
DON'T fall into that trap!

My best advice is to do it.
Don't think about what will happen after.
Everything will be okay so please, just live!

Maybe instead of random room mates, ask some of your friends or his friends to live with you guys
that way you can trust them and you already know each other.

As for money
I think you have to calculate everything
and see if everything is okay.
Can't leap into a big decision without looking--
so do your homework and talk to him.
Tell him what you want and how you feel.
Try to compromise and do this together.

We're in that situation too but we don't have a house. Me and my fiance don't even have jobs, and frankly we don't really want to work. We want to leave, move out of state and travel, but we're forced to work because we need money for bills.

Here's some advice. You could sell everything you have, and just get a studio apartment together for one year. It's very cheap although not that much roomy, but it will help you with saving up money to travel.

If the debt is too great that you cannot pay off, either apply for government assitance or declare bankruptcy. Despite the rumors about bankruptcy, you won't lose the house you live in or your car. The bad thing is your credit score, and you'll have to rely on your debit card and cash for the next 7-10 years. If you declare bankruptcy, then you can sell your house...and with the profit from your house, you can pretty much move anywhere on the planet.

A robotic lifestyle is unfortunately the only way of living in this world; anything else is reserved for the ultra rich and privileged.
It's understandable, yet unrealistic to want to wind up on a beach in a foreign country.
You should be happy with the life you have currently. It's much more than most people your age have.

Change is a scary thing. I think it is the only thing in this world that I am scared of. It sounds to me like your fiance has a dream to just let go of all debt and travel. That sounds all fun and fancy free but what happens when you get stuck in another country because you do not have the money to leave?

My cousin left everything behind and moved to Europe, then to Australia. By the time she got to Australia she had no money left and no job to get any. She had to work under the table for a year just to save up enough money to get back to Europe. Sure she had fun and met a lot of people down the way.

If you sell everything, sure you will have no debt. But then you have nothing to fall back on if something happens. What would happen if you did it, went with your man and he ended up leaving? Or even leaving you somewhere without a pass port? You have no real ties to him, sure he is your fiance. But that doesn't mean anything any more. People are "engaged" for ten, twenty, thirty years.

I would say, sure sell your house. Tell him that if he wants to travel, let him. You take your half of the money rent yourself a studio apartment..maybe get a room mate. If you do want to travel with him, set yourself a back up plan. You do not want to be left alone in another country, state, location ANYWHERE thousands of miles from your family.

Think about it....weight out your choices. Pros and cons..

woh, wait...selling as in...drugs?

always a bad idea. There is no way you are traveling the world if you get caught, there are some really shady people in that world. (I know, my boyfriend's neighborhood is full of druggies)
even if you both have to keep your crappy jobs, and save every penny to get rid of your debt, it is still better than getting into that.
(if i'm wrong...woopse, sorry.)

what I would do, calculate.
exactly how much debt do you have, now how much are you able to save to pay off that debt, what costs can you cut, is there anyone you trust that you could get as a room mate? things like that.
If your fiance is going to leave you over you wanting to explore other options before doing something drastic like quitting your job, then I really don't know if he is the best one for you.
also, crappy jobs at taco bell are probably worse than what you do right now, so what is the point of quitting a decent paying job for a minimum wage job when you already have no money?

If what you want is more important than being stable, I guess you should go for it. But are you really ready for that kind of lifestyle? I'm pretty sure you'll have to be in motels, money for plane tickets, and most likely transportation. Its going to cost you a lot more than by just being home. It's really your own choice.

That lifestyle seem like a drastic change and in these hard times where it is so hard to get a job, it might be a huge mistake. Sometimes we have things that we want to do sooo sooo very bad but we cant because we have responsibilities. It is a fact of life. I do not think you should be so hasty. You don't have to lose your dreams but you need much better planning in my opinion. Use your paycheck to pay off debt and set aside some for yourself and travel. I am sure there are some things you can cut out of your life to save a bit more money. Make the sacrifice now so that it will be easier later. Who says that after quitting your job it will be that easy to pick up another one? Can a part time job really pay for traveling? I am sorry, but I just don't see ANY way this can be done at all. It seems too...ludicrous and not well thought out at all.

Some other things that don't make sense is the fact that you cant rent your house to others for money if you no longer own it. :/

Also, how can you travel and work part time jobs in other countries? Are you fluent in other languages? How long do you plan to stay in these places? Are you proficient in areas that are in demand so that you can pick up jobs easily every time you travel?

How many people in your same situation do you see traveling?

I don't want to beat you down about it. I am just asking that you please consciously think about it and have a plan before you make any moves.

I know how you feel too. I had to move from Georgia to NY my senior year of high school and I always hated my situation. I felt trapped and stifled and I wanted out so bad. Then my cousin told me to transfer back to NY and stay with my aunt for my last 2 years of school. I wanted to jump at the chance to go back to my native home but the fact of the matter was that I would have been paying out of state tuition because I was now officially a Georgia resident. My parents would have to pay 3 times as much for me to go back and we were already having trouble already. NY is the love of my life but I know I will have to wait until I am out of college with a good job before I can really go back.

Hope I helped.:D

Edit: Also, please don't let your fiance influence your decisions. You may be a couple but you have to do what is best for YOU. Don't let him pressure you into anything. If anything, he will be gone for a short period of time.

I don't think that is a good idea at all. I think in a few topics back you had written something about him cheating on you. So to me that isnt a very stable relationship at the moment to go and do something drastic like sell your house. I agree completely with Halcyon. Your lifestyle does not seem to be at the right point right now for you to just sell everything and go out and travel the world. You also can't let your boyfriend tell you to do anything. Everyone has to work and you just have to do it unless you have tons of money.

Wait he cheated on you? Now he is trying to pressure you into traveling with him?

Don't do it. Please. D: