So, I'm 20, nearly 21 years of age. I moved here about...3 years ago to live with my boyfriend (whom I met online). Well, things didn't work out, but I stayed here and started dating another guy, who is my current boyfriend. We had plans to get an apartment together at the end of next February. Well, we've been going over it, and he can't afford it yet soooo....I'm going to be having to move across the country to live with my mom for a year :/ I've been dating this guy for a year and a half now, we've been through a lot together. I just really don't want to have to leave him behind for a year :( We've discussed other options, but this is really the best one. Just wish I could take him with me T-T

I think you should go. Even though it will be hard to leave him for a year you can still keep in touch, after all, you don't truly love someone if you aren't willing to make a sacrifice to be with them.

heh, I've been sacrificing to stay here, but unfortunately it appears that I've run out of fingers...it's a good idea, and I know I'll be coming back, and it'll be fun being able to visit my family. Just wish I could chop him up and put him in my suitcase and bring him with x.X

0.0 please don't chop him up! (JK)

you can't look for a smaller apartment or anything? hmm...that really sucks. but at least you can talk on line. like with video chat, or here, or via E-mail or something...? I would hate to be away from my boyfriend for a year (we have also been going out for a year and plan to live together soon...but I only live like a mile and a half away from his house so...)

Why can't you take him? Buy another plane ticket and take him with ya! He can get a job there and the two of you can save up to move back when your ready. I don't know how your mom is of course, but I don't see why she should have a problem with helping you and your boyfriend out...

His family is here, and this is partly to keep them happy. He COULD go with me, but that would cause a lot of issues with his family. His dad is always on the road (he drives a truck), his sister just joined the Air Force, his brother will be leaving for the Air Force in a month or so, and his mom has some depression issues. I don't think taking him away too would really help matters.

Well either you or him could always get a better job to help you save money for an apartment together. You guys should definitely have enough cash for a studio apartment (in my state, they are $7,000 a year) so it isn't that expensive.

Problem is, I don't have any form of transportation at this time, so my job has to be within walking distance of where we live. (it currently is) Also, he wants to get started in school, so he won't be able to work quite as much. Also, jobs around here are scarce, you can't just go and get a better job with this economy, it's not that easy.

If I move, I'd be going to Texas and living with my mom. I wouldn't have to pay rent so I could actually get a car. Also, minimum wage is way higher down there and there are far more jobs available. So, once I saved up enough and got a car and had a bit more saved to move back, I could get a better job here :)

I think that your current plan to move away is the right plan. Just like you said all you need to do is save. And you can always talk to him on the phone and video chat. it seems to me that all of the benefits are coming from you being home. He gets to go to school and you get to save for a car and at the same time save to live with each other.