we already lost a good friend this year through suicide..
now it seems like another friend who has become very close to us is coming suicidal as well (they didn't know each other by the way.. so not related).
I don't think I can handle this.
I'm still not over the last guys death, I'm not ready to deal with another guys suicidal thoughts.

the thing is, he doesn't actually talk about it. or anything like that ( meaning his feelings and his life.). he has a great sense of humour and he is a very funny guy. I've known him more or less for 7 years. he's also very smart and a good guy..
anyway, another person discovered he had been going to some sort of suicide sites a lot lately. I'm worried. we all are.

wtf do I do?

Slap him. Then hug him. Then talk some sense into him.

I don't believe our problems can be solved by death. We will be carrying them with us to the other side suicide will make it all worse.

He needs something to live for. What is he living for?

Have you told a professional? Parents, teacher, a counselor? Someone who has experience dealing with emotionally troubled/suicidal people can be a world of help. Tell them what's going on and then can help you set up a meeting with your friend and potentially defuse this issue.

And have you spoken directly with your friend about this? Confrontation can sometimes make people very defensive and scared, so he may initially push you away, but it's still worth bringing up the subject. Even just asking how he's feeling or if he needs help can make a difference.

But if you honestly suspect that he may be suicidal, you can't keep it to yourself. Try a suicide hotline if you don't know where to start. Explain the situation to the worker on the other end and they can help you out.

Ewwww....suicides, I remembered when I was suicidal and wanted to end my life when I was 18. Luckily, on the DAY I decided to end my life I was like, "eh...I'm gonna celebrate my last day of life online talking to random people -.-;; ". Because I did that I met my soon-to-be fiance and he talked me out of suicide, now it's the farthest thing from my mind <33


First and foremost, why is your friend depressed? You need to get to the root of that problem and try to offer a fix. For example, I was depressed because I had no one to talk to, thought no one loved me and thought I wasn't important, that all changed when one person (later on a few more people) showed me otherwise and suddenly I had friends, and a loving fiance.

Second, after finding the root of the problem...if you can't fix it don't fret but BE THERE FOR HIM. That's the most important thing ever, be there for your friend as much as possible. He might not be comfortable with the idea of you always hanging around and "bugging" him, but inside he's thankful. Distractions is a must, the longer he goes without thinking about suicide, the less likely he will attempt it.

If he needs someone to vent to, a shoulder to cry on, help from anyone else -- be that shoulder, be the person he vents to, be the person to help him get help. Depression is a cry for attention, I hated that saying because I didn't think it was true, but it actually is. There's something missing in his life that is causing him to hate his life, the world, or whatever.

That "something" is so great that he can no longer live without it and is contemplating suicide. If you can find the root of the problem, then you can give him a temporary "fix" for that missing something if it's out of your control, or a permanent "fix" if it's within your control.

Honestly, people with depression shouldn't even have it. It's not a psychological disorder (atleast I don't believe it is), anyone can get into depression and anyone can get out of depression. Just find what is the main reason for it, fix it, and help him through the process of letting go of depression.

In the rare cases that after everything's fixed and your friend is still depressed -- he needs some medication for sure .:sweat:

Yup. Listen to them. It's important.

just found out about it today so I don't know any details.
but people know.

do you guys think it would be wise to tell his brother? D: I'm not sure...
he is 25 by the way, so this is not some teenage anxiety.. -.-

hmmmm is he close to his brother?

I'm not sure. never met his brother, he doesn't live here. :/

Even if he is 25, it still helps to tell an "adult" in this situation. If he has a good relationship with his parents or brother, or another family member, that may be a good idea.

But I still stick with my suggestion about getting professional help and advice. Even if he doesn't want to meet with a counselor, you can talk to one. They'll help you handle the situation and learn how to be supportive in a way that helps your friend.

an adult knows.. they suggested telling his brother.

I talked with a professional and my ex teacher when I lost my friend.
the professional was more concerned about my health at the moment though..
she did ask me a lot of question but all she really said was 'there was nothing we could have done to prevent it'. quite sad..
my ex teacher couldn't prevent her first love from taking his own life so she didn't have much advice on it either.

maybe I should try calling to some suicide line..

You need to tell someone fast. Get him some help. talk to him about it and tell him its not worth it. Death solves nothing.