Ok I duno if I'm overreacting... I'm pretty sure I'm not. Anywho, here's the low down:

I have 4 flatmates. One of whom is nice, another whom I don't know and we dont bother eachother, and 2 others I have issues with.

Ok the 2 I have issues with are annoying. One of them (let's call her Jo) used to be my best friend, however now it's all gone wrong. The other girl just ignores me and passes rude comments which I can ignore, so I let that go. Anyway guys, I'm concerned with me and Jo's relationship.


Well last year we were best buds. We've known eachother 5 years now and were always either friends or too far away to be regular friends. Last year I had also just broken up with a long term relationship. She got a bf pretty fast, and fell in love. I was all for it, even tried to hang out with the two of them together, but it was a mistake so I said I couldn't do it all the time, which she understood.

Now I got a bf. We had to do long distance. I still hung out with Jo and her bf, walked off once because I felt really ignored (you know how alot of couples are). I didn't get pissed, I just told her simply I felt uncomfortable and wanted to go home. I also said I missed my bf, which made it harder.

Is that understandable? (i'd like to know!)

Summer passed, she came to see me once which was nice. I lived in Singapore so didn't see her for a while, didn't see my bf for 2 months, and now he goes to my uni. It's great, I can finally have a relationship with someone in my town. HOWEVER jo's bf is out of town, and they see eachother every weekend (basically we've swappe places).

Now she's being rude. At first she was ok, but it all started after I came back from work training. I was done for 3 days, and the same day I arrived she didn't ask me a single time (and still hasnt) how it went. She rambled on about herself for AGES. I just laughed and smiled. This was after she went to the gym though. (she left for the gym as soon as I arrived). The next day she sat me down and said "You need to make more effort to get to know the new flatmate, you don't spend enough time with me and you need to go let your bf make friends".

First I said "I've been gone for 3 days, working all day 3 days before that so I've barely seen anyone." I'd also gone to the gym with them and spent some time with them both. She also mentioned the other flamate felt awkward at me and my bf cuddling on the couch (while jo makes out with her bf instead) I also said "I don't mean to offend you, but I don't see why my bf's life has anything to do with you. He's had 3 full days to make friends and he's old enough to make his own decisions. She got offended, but I honestly don't see why she should be telling me what my bf should be doing when I never do that to her.None the less I said "Well let's go shopping!"

Since then they've riled up against my bf and not spoken to me about the fact that i spend too much time with him. Of course I'm going to spend too much time with him, I love him and I finaly get him to myself. They never ask me to go out (took less than 3 weeks for them to stop) But they bitch. They're also rude. However Jos bf cleared things up and now they're very nice to my bf, Jo's just nasty with me. Here's the latest example:

Me: "the repairmen are coming tomorow at 9.30. I just though you should know, but I should be there before they arrive anyway"

Jo: "Well ud better be there cuz i don't know where the hole is and its your arrangement anyway."

(so many other ways she could have said it. So for the first time in months I was rude back. She also knows exactly where the hole is and there are many more problems aside from that)

Me: "I'll be where I need to be. If you're not competent enough to deal with it I'll be there"

Jo: "Well obviously in your eyes I'm not, so you better be here"


She keeps saying these rude things to me and I just leave it. Too many to list. Sorry for the rant but what do you guys think? Talking is out of the question, she's VERY spoilt.

I'm looking for flatmates too, any suggestions on finding some? Any ice breakers when suggesting to live together? (there's a few nice girls I might live with =3 but duno how to ask)

Maybe leaving Her alone to think would help...just not talking to her should get messages accross, and with my friends, it helps because they start to miss me and things like that...I know its not amazing advice...but yea..

Finding new flatmates is easy when you can complain about your current ones... that's how I found one of the places I've lived in ("Hey, my flatmates suck for xyz reasons" "Hey, that's really dumb, and mine suck for abc reasons" "WELL WHY DON'T WE LIVE TOGETHER THEN FOREVER!?" "OKAY!!!111"..... well, not quite like that, but you know what I mean lol)

I don't talk to her. I stopped when I was sick of the rudeness but she got WORSE. I know she's at the head of all my issues cos she bitches (too long a story to explain why)

and yeah I've met a couple of people like that =3 either way there's student halls for 3rd years, so if all else fails ill move in there and meet entirely new people! I might have found a girl to move in with!!

But none the less I'm getting really down. I want to move out now, but know I can't. I'm just concentrating on making new friends (which is going really well!)

Still... It's very annoying. Makes me very angry and ruins most of my days. I'm developing a(n even) tough(er)skin so hopefully I'll be able to lead a totaly seperate life to them.