Okay. So, here's the thing. I'm 16, and I've finally decided to take my life into my own hands and grow up. And live with no regrets at all. So, I have to finally bring my past to light. My mother knows, and I believe my father should. I'm going to tell him the truth finally.
You see, when I was about 6, my dads' best friend sense high school sexually abused me. And he is now getting married, he is about 50+? now. My little brother looks up to him, and my dad, my god father, and this guy are all best friends of all time. I'm afraid my dad might try and hurt him. And sense nothing about it can be done due to the statue of limitations nothing about the abuse can be done. I already know i waited to long. But oh well, he's my father. And this is the only thing in my life I have ever kept secret from him. He is my best friend, my father. I hate keeping things from him. But this is going to ruin life's possibly, what should I do? And how should i even tell him. I don't live with him, I am at his house this weekend and every Friday.

I would say just talk to him like you normally would. he is ur dad and he loves you no matter what. I wouldn't be worried about it but have a talk with your mom before hand. I was actually molested when I was a baby by my babysitters boyfriend so I know it takes so much away from you. I remember just feeling empty because I Couldn't give my boyfriend my virginity but anyways. good luck and I Would love to know what happens. You seem very strong and what your dad may do is out of ur control but he needs to know.

Like the previous poster said, your dad loves you no matter what. They've given good advice, and since they've also gone through someting similar in the past I'd say listen to them.

I hope you get this resolved though =( It must be terrible having that happen to you... Good luck and I'm sure your dad will be great about it, especialy since he's your best friend =3

How do you feel personally on the subject? Do you feel you need vindication or has the rage and resentment passed?

Originally Posted by Gary Stargazer

How do you feel personally on the subject? Do you feel you need vindication or has the rage and resentment passed?

Im petrified of the man, to my very core. I cant be in the same room as him and act like i normally do. I hae flashbacks and i get alll depressed and afraid something bad will happen.

@ raeofsunshinelove & Phoenixxangel- Thank you so much for the advice. Truely. Thank you.

I'm really sorry that happened to you. I know I don't have the answer you need, but I think you should tell your father, no matter what the consequences are. This is the type of thing that should not be silenced and I applaud your strength for even THINKING about telling anyone. So good luck and my prayers go out to you.