I'm not going to elaborate on this more than I should. This was an idea that came to me.

I love my friend, who happens to be a girl. She loves me but she doesn't like showing it in public. She is really protective of me and even if we were not in love she would not want me to have a boyfriend.

Recently, she has neglected calling and emailing me. I'm going to go to an anime con with her but after not calling me for a month, I assumed she wanted to cancel it. Today I checked my email and on her 'facebook' wall she posted that she received the wig for her costume.

I have another really good friend that is a guy and people have been saying for years that we should go out. For example, four people today said we should go out and he was present (he seemed to be Okay with it).

Should I go out with the guy to make her have separation anxiety and come back to me. Even if she doesn't come back, the guy is nice too.

Using a guy to get someone else isn't a great way to start a relationship. It also could end up hurting the guy, people aren't meant to be used. If you want a relationship with her I suggest you sit down with her and talk to her about it, ask her why she's been neglecting you. That you can handle a relationship in private but you need time with her. If she is not serious about the relationship and you want to move on, let her know that. But do not get in a relationship to make her jealous or to get more attention from her, that can backfire so badly.

Thank you,
I just needed someone else to tell me that. I hated doing that because I love her so much. I just don't know what has gotten in to her....

I knew compassion would work, she called when I was at my voice lesson!!!

Never use anyone to get someone else. It will ALWAYS come back to bite you in the butt. HARD. You just have to be strait forward with her. If she's not into you, you should move on, otherwise she's stringing you along like a lost puppy. I'd judge her, even if she says she still cares about you. Not contacting you for a full month isn't exactly showing you care for someone, if you ask me.

Originally Posted by Rosa

I'm not going to elaborate on this more than I should. This was an idea that came to me.

I love my friend, who happens to be a girl. She loves me but she doesn't like showing it in public. She is really protective of me and even if we were not in love she would not want me to have a boyfriend.

Recently, she has neglected calling and emailing me. I'm going to go to an anime con with her but after not calling me for a month, I assumed she wanted to cancel it. Today I checked my email and on her 'facebook' wall she posted that she received the wig for her costume.

I have another really good friend that is a guy and people have been saying for years that we should go out. For example, four people today said we should go out and he was present (he seemed to be Okay with it).

Should I go out with the guy to make her have separation anxiety and come back to me. Even if she doesn't come back, the guy is nice too.

I understand what your going through...
I have the same simptoms .. My gf (Im not gay, only with her.. if i didnt have her i would be straight) gets VERY jeolouse ... She wont let me have a bf or shell get angry if I talk about me and my friend being pervs..

anyways- I think she just want you to herself.
Your friend seems frustrated and confused so decites to shut herself out by ignoring you. Maybe she doesn't want to snap or hurt you.
She propably dislikes feeling alone .. I can compair easily with her ..

You should try hanging out with the boy near her to see a reaction. Maybe she has seperation enxiety .. or some issue about public affection ..
You must find out other than letting it go .. ask her about it! :)

I hope I helped a bit ...