Alright, here it goes... I know what the obvious answer should be but I'm afraid of saying it... but... please don't judge me too harshly.

Alright, I had my first real relationship this summer. I fell head over heels for this guy. We broke up because he went to college in Arizona and I was left behind. Me and his friends became really good friends and they didn't want to lose my friendship when we broke up and so they talked to me a lot. And then he, three weeks after our break up told me about his new gf.

The other day, his best friend told me he was going to Japan, and my best friend is attending a university there and wanted some things that I was holding for her. So I met with him to give him the items and we talked. We had already realized we were incredibly similar, we shared the same interest, thoughts, views on life ... etc... And I knew things were getting a little awkward. And I could kind of tell he was interested in me as more than just a friend and he had also told me about a girl he had been in love with that my ex knew about. And so now me and my ex were the only ones to know this about him.

Tonight, he asked me out. He asked me to go on a date with him. And... I'm not over my ex, even though I know nothing will ever happen again because (despite the stuff he did and said to me after we ended) I still have strong feelings for my ex. But I'm afraid of letting people know (but I told him because I trusted him (him being the friend). But at the same time, I'm sexually attracted to his best friend. AND the best friend's ex goes to school near my house and we've become somewhat friends, but because she started dating a month ago, she hasn't talked to me at all. But her dorm mates and I hang out a lot.

I don't know how to respond. I want to give him that one date, but I don't know if it's right. I think I kind of like him but I don't know what to do. I have a feeling people are going to say no. And there are lots of reasons why I should say "no".

1. He's my ex's best friend
2. He's my friend's ex
3. I love my ex
4. The commute...

It's clear but I can't say it because I feel like he'd be uncomfortable with me afterwards. And I really care for him. I love talking to him and I kinda want to go on one date with him but... AHHHHH It's late and I don't know what I want to say...

I think you should probably at least give him ONE chance and see how awkward it gets. But JUST to see how it's like, so it wouldn't make him unhappy or something, but make sure he doesn't get his hopes up.

Originally Posted by `GEE DRAGON

I think you should probably at least give him ONE chance and see how awkward it gets. But JUST to see how it's like, so it wouldn't make him unhappy or something, but make sure he doesn't get his hopes up.

I agree. If it works out well, you'll be able to get over your ex, he'll be happy and so will you. If it doesn, it'll be akward for a bit, but you two will undoubtedly get over it quickly enough. Just because he's you're exes best friend, doesn't mean he's off limits because he left you, not the other way around. And as for you being friends with this guys ex, she doesn't really sound much like a friend, ditching you once she got herself a new boyfriend.

excuse one- bullshit, your ex dumped you, so what if it's his friend? Now if you were still dating your ex then I would see the problem....but since your not no problem here
excuse two- another bullshit one. They are not datting, if I'm getting this right your friend and your ex are both already dating other people. If she for some reason see's a problem with it then that's her problem, I don't think it was your fault that they broke up, so again...no issue there.
excuse three- meh, your ex obviously doesn't love you, I'm not trying to be mean, it's just the truth if he broke it off with you in the first place. I pined for a guy for three years...it's not worth it. Trust me hun
excuse four- so you can't meet up with him every day....atleast he's not across the country or in another country.

Give him the date, if it doesn't feel right, and I don't mean cause you still have some kind of lingering feeling for your ex who feels nothing for you and broke your heart anyways, then stop it before it gets to far. But don't go through life wondering what might have been.
It's best to have tried and lost then to wonder if for the rest of your life, cause you can't do a damned thing about if's

if I sound like a bitch I'm sorry, but I've been hurt one to many times and this doesn't seem that hard.