Well recently after seeing my family, I have developed a crush for one of my male cousins. gosh I don't know what to do. I'm now having dreams about him and can't seem to stop em.

Is this okay?

It's fine to have a crush, but I wouldn't act on that if I were you.

it depends. i personally find liking a cousin a bit weird, but not all do. if it's just a crush, i guess it's fine.

I wouldn't act on it, but it's not totally unusual to have these feelings. Is he around a lot? That could explain it, especially if he's one of the only guys you have regular interactions with. Try finding a guy at school/work and getting to know him to take your mind off your cousin. :)

maybe it's just admiration for him that turned into a crush, kind of.
It would probably be bad to act on it and have him be like "what the hell?" and forever put a dent in your relationship with your cousin, so I wouldn't act on it if I were you.

Originally Posted by Liath

maybe it's just admiration for him that turned into a crush, kind of.
It would probably be bad to act on it and have him be like "what the hell?" and forever put a dent in your relationship with your cousin, so I wouldn't act on it if I were you.

I agree to this saying. The danger that the relation might get hurt is big,
because he is your cousin. As long as it's just a crush it is fine.
Keep in mind that it is family.

Originally Posted by Elwing

I agree to this saying. The danger that the relation might get hurt is big,
because he is your cousin. As long as it's just a crush it is fine.
Keep in mind that it is family.

I agree. Acting on this is the worst thing you can do. And don't let it show either. Maybe it's just a bit of a phase, and after a while you'll start liking him as just a cousin/friend?

Me and my friends used to tease each other about this one guy we all knew that i introduced them to, becasue we'd be like ohhhh you like " " and then we'd like now way i don't like him, or like make fun or something and say like oh thats right hes gonna kiss you and shit and we'd be grossed out, now i find it horrible that we did that not only becasue i like him, not only because he likes me but because we are going out too .

It may not seem right, but it is something that happens to more people that you think. It is something that happens a lot. Just don't worry about it, it will pass in time. =)

wait it out. You might be crushing on him because he is "safer" than other guys. Once you calm down and find someone else who seems "safe" it should dissapate.

Depending on if he's a first, second, or third (so on so forth) cousin, it might not be a huge deal. I remember once, this girl asked me to ask someone out for her. (Soo lame, it was quite a few years ago so she was young.) I still remember the guy's response.

Him: Umm... we're cousins...
Me: ....does she know that? :S
Him: Yeah...
Me: ...ohhhhhhKAY then, cross that!

Apparently they were third or fourth cousins, some weird family relation, but yeah.

Anyway, developing a crush like that might seem unusual but it's not necessarily wrong, permitted you don't act on it or tell too many people who might judge you for it. Sometimes stuff like that happens and you mistake what you're really feeling for a crush. This isn't to say that you're blowing the feelings out of proportion, because your body/mind/heart (whatever) is telling you it's a crush when really it might not be.

Generally though, I would suggest trying to either pinpoint what might have brought this on, so you can avoid similar situations, and focus on other people.

Starting when I was about 8 years old I was crushing on my cousin. Every time we'd have a family get together Id be all excited because I liked him. For years it was stressing me out because I knew you weren't really suppose to like your cousin but I was crazy about him. But then I met somebody else and now i dont feel attracted to him at all. I look back on all those years and just kinda laugh. Just set him as off limits and look elsewhere. I wish you the best of luck!

Having a crush on a male cousin is so normal it's almost painful. I've had a crush on mine for years! But that's result of when I was to young to realize you couldn't marry family! It happens it doesn't go away, but it's just there. Sure I have a crush on him and I get shy around him. But I think it's a different sort of crush, because I don't want to be in any sort of relationship with him at all.

I wouldn't worry about it to much, having a crush on a cousin is normal. Because they are apart of your family you have a lot in common. And if you grew up with him, you probably liked a lot of the same things growing up, so your mind is taking all of that in and showing you that this is what you like, especially if you get along well. It will blow over though, as soon as you find someone else. just don't act upon it, that would not be a good thing.

i had a slight crush on one of my cousins.
But then he cut all of his glorious hair off, and the crush was off x3.
It also helped that he lived a good few states away.
Yeh, i would follow previous advice and not act on it, unless he shows signs first of course.
you always want to be safe,and make sure things are mutual, or else you might be alone and looked at as a freak in your family.

I have to say, I find it a little creepy to have a crush on a cousin, but not that long ago, it was considered perfectly fine to marry your cousin. I guess, too, I am close to my cousins and think of them like brothers, so it would be really weird.

It's really not that bad. You're just reacting to something that your eyes like. Still, I wouldn't act on it. It's not usually accepted in society now-a-days.

Originally Posted by Clarise

I have to say, I find it a little creepy to have a crush on a cousin, but not that long ago, it was considered perfectly fine to marry your cousin. I guess, too, I am close to my cousins and think of them like brothers, so it would be really weird.

It's really not that bad. You're just reacting to something that your eyes like. Still, I wouldn't act on it. It's not usually accepted in society now-a-days.

Yeah, it used to be normal to marry cousins, siblings, uncles, and all sorts of family relations at one point. Inbreeding can cause a lot of problems though...but I suppose it really depends on the family. I do have one question for the OP. Is this your blood related cousin or is he just a cousin through marriage? That can actually make a difference. Although, he's still in your family, it's not quite as bad if he's not in the same bloodline.

Weird, my crush for him flares, when i'm around him, but if I am at home and I put a couple of months between my visits, then it seems to go away. gosh, but he is just too damn cute to think as a cousin.


oh and to answer some one question, sadly he happens to be my father's oldest brother's son.

Originally Posted by Les Pedro

Weird, my crush for him flares, when i'm around him, but if I am at home and I put a couple of months between my visits, then it seems to go away. gosh, but he is just too damn cute to think as a cousin.


oh and to answer some one question, sadly he happens to be my father's oldest brother's son.

Oh, well I guess he's pretty off limits then. (at least in the eyes of society) Just try to think of him like you would a brother or something. I'm sure that if you meet someone else, it will pass. If it never passes, only you can make the decision on whether or not you want to pursue it. Everyone can tell you how wrong it is, but in the end you'll do what you feel is right.

Well I'll just try and wait it out for the time being and, if this isn't gone by summer, then dang i'm screwed since i'll be seeing him again around the summer months.

if you lived in Lebanon you could marry him, i have 2 close lebanese friends and they are almost expected by there family to marry there cousins, but sorry i dont have any actual helpful advice :(