Girlfriend trouble. ^^;

So, on Gaia (I know, shoot me), she roleplays. And Im on gaia too.
As well as I do roleplay.
However, with my roleplay friends, I never do anything...with real romantic, sexual tension type stuff. I mean some of my characters are married, but Ive stopped roleplaying them /doing/ things together because my girlfriend got upset when I did that.

And I was looking for a forum she was on cause I wanted to join, and found another one.
Where her character was currently having some kind of...sexual tension contest with another.
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It...stung. And hurt. I mean, I know it's just roleplay, but.
And it was with a friend of hers she talks about all the time.

I'm probably paranoid, right?
But...do I have some reason to be hurt/miffed/a little upset?
She asked me to stop doing that stuff and...not to be a stalker but it caught my eye. I read through that conversation...
It was with a character she uses in Roleplays between her and I, that is in love with one of /my/ characters.
...

Wow I feel complain-y now.

I just want to know if I'm justified, you know?

Yea, you are justified in being upset. If SHE'S allowed to be upset by the idea of you romantically role-playing with other people then you have a right to as well. She wouldn't have gotten upset in the first place if she didn't know how intense romantic and sexual role-playing with people can be. Honestly, it's not that different from having an online boyfriend or girlfriend or an online sex partner. I've both role-played and romantically cybered with people where sex was involved and it was very similar to one another. I met my current boyfriend because I used to romantically role-play with him. Honestly, in a lot of ways, roleplaying with romantic interests between us made me develop feelings for him because when you role-play often your real feelings get mixed up with your characters feelings, especially if the person is the opposite gender of you (that you are role-playing with.)

If she wasn't doing anything bad, then she'd just stop doing it. She's calling you a stalker and stuff to REVERSE the tables, so you can be the bad guy and she can get away with anything she wants as long as she guilts you. People do it in relationships all the time.

Have you talked to your girlfriend about it?

If you're hurt, then you're hurt. But I'm afraid that complaining to us won't fix anything unless you sit down and talk to her about her actions. :yes:

If i was in the situation I would bring up the fact that she gets upset when you do that and your just feeling the same way. you have a right to be upset about it if she asked you to stop but is being hypocritical about it a relationship is not about that.

I agree with knerd posting it here will only give you answers that you have a right to be upset not fix it you really need to talk to her about it.

Short version: I would be more than a little mad.

Longer version: She told you NOT to do something and then went and did the same thing. That's shitty. I don't do romantic role play because even though it's "just" role play and all for "fun" it's not cool. I'm in a real life relationship and don't need to look for swoon worthy stuffs anywhere else. Now here's the part where I would fully overreact her character cheated on your character! You said they were involved. That's fucked up. Already said I won't stand for the "Oh my god, it's not real. It's all for fun."

if she wasn't doing anything bad, then she'd just stop doing it. She's calling you a stalker and stuff to REVERSE the tables, so you can be the bad guy and she can get away with anything she wants as long as she guilts you. People do it in relationships all the time.

The above is so true. Tiara is spot on. I had to quote this because it bears re-reading.

You have a right to be upset. she got upset with u with same issue! i;d sit her down and talk to her about it

I agree with Knerd. You really do need to talk to your girlfriend about this, not just us.
That said, you're totally justified in the way you feel. She's really hypocritical, and unfair to you, especially if she talks about this person a lot. Good luck sorting it out!