Let me start off with a little background on my situation:
I met this girl on Gaia (let's call her Sarah) about 11 months ago.
We instantly hit it off.
She wasn't like all the other people that I met online, and I really liked her to the point where I was falling on love.
But I was too afraid to tell her that as the months went on.
Sarah told me that she loved me in June in the summer.
Everything between us was perfect, even though we were only talking online and through texts.
Then, college started to come in.
I'm in my freshman year of college, and she's in her junior year.
She was really busy with band and everything else, and I was dealing with my own demons too which resulted in me going to see a therapist every week (that's a whole story itself, so I won't go into detail with that)
Slowly, we just started to talk less and less to the point where if we had a conversation, it wouldn't be the 2 or more hour convo.
It was going onto 5 minutes.
I thought that it was really weird.
I kept thinking that she wasn't really into me anymore, and she kept saying that she didn't deserve me because she couldn't be there for me like she used to.

So fast forward to this month, we haven't been talking in awhile, and when I tried to talk to her, Sarah wouldn't respond.
So, I decided to do some searching of why she wasn't talking, and I found on Gaia, because she still goes on there, a forum that she posted about having feelings for some other girl and she wanted advice on how to deal with it.
When I read it, I was really shocked, upset, all the feelings wrapped into one.
So I confronted her about it, and she kept saying that she was sorry, but I just don't believe her.
I want things to work out between us, but the fact that she has feelings for someone else, even though she says that she's not going to ask the girl out, just makes me uneasy.
This has happened to me before, and even though I don't want to relive that moment, I can't help but still love her and think about her 24/7.
I don't want to, but it's how I feel.
I'm upset, but I still want to work things out.
I don't know want the same thing happening to me again.
I don't know what to do in this situation.
Should I just forget about her or should I just let it go and continue to talk to her?

Sorry that was long haha, but I got it out though.

I really hate to tell u this hun, but its an internet relationship, i've been through a few myself, most of the time they don't work out...All you can do is move on. I'm sorry I know its hard, but take it from someone who knows--internet+relationships=heartbreak.
If you really want to work out the relationship...talk to her, be calm, and..see if u can find out if theres anything you can do to keep her.

Thanks for the advice.
I've been in a few internet relationships too, and it always ends bad.
But I had high hopes for this one.
I think that when I'm ready I'm going to talk to her, but right now I'm just really upset about the whole situation.
:/

I hate for my response to not sound very friendly as well but I personally believe it unwise to have feelings for/ be serious with someone you only know over the internet. You have to remember that as much as it may seem/feel like it, this person is a complete stranger to you; you really don't know this person at all. You can't truly know who someone is over the internet.

So I believe you are wasting your energy and feelings on someone you don't even know. My advice to you would be to get out and meet someone in the real world, someone you can get to truly know and be closer to.

Again I am sorry that this is likely not what you wanted to hear but that is my two cents on this subject.

It's okay.
You're entitled to your opinion.
I knew someone would say something like that anyways.
But it's just different for me.
I can't just go out and meet someone near me.
It's kind of hard when you have anxiety problems and fearing social interaction with people.
It's just easier online for me.
I get what you're saying though.

OK I didn't realize that you have social issues; sounds to me like possibly social anxiety disorder or depersonalization disorder?
I read about them researching a Fanfic I am writing.

Well, I know what it's like to have social issues. It's hard for me to meet people near me as well! But this chick sounds like a waste of time, no offense. I've made my mistakes with investing too much hope in a long-distance "relationship" with someone I met online. It sucks when that happens though. Even though you do have issues meeting people, it's worth it to try. I had to learn that too. And-Yes, I have been hurt by people I've met in person, but you risk that either way. All I can say is lose that chick. She's not really that into you if she has feelings for someone else, even if she did apologize. Good luck with your future relationships either way :)

Bella:
Yeah, I've checked into the social anxiety disorder a couple of times and everything that I saw I do.
But I've always been shy, but I've been realizing with my behavior in my early years that I did the same thing too.

Jenna:
I'm getting through it slowly.
It's just hard to go somewhere with a lot of people.
It was getting to the point where I wasn't eating because there was too many people in the dining hall and it made me uncomfortable.
Anyways, I think that meeting people near me would be better, hard, but much better.
I would still like to be friends with her, but nothing else.
Thanks for the advice.

I don't think there's anything wrong with meeting people over the internet. You don't really know people, just because you've seen them 'in real life'. Many people are so much more honest, if you talk with them on the net. People can lie in real life too.
But if you haven't had any good experience in internet relations, maybe it isn't right for you. Internet or not, I do not believe she's right for you, when she's just saying sorry over it, without explaining. Maybe you should say to her that it won't work, but you'll still be her friend? Maybe she just avoids confronting herself over that she did not have much time to you as she wants to.
I'll keep my fingers crossed for you ^^

Vompire:
She did explain to me why, but it just upsets me that she wasn't honest about it and could have talked about it with me instead of some other person.
Even though all my relationships online have ended, they still lasted a long time.
The longest one was 2 years.
But I think that by working on my social skills and meeting people, maybe I can find someone near me.

I have trouble meeting people myself, I am pretty shy. And no one talks to me either, so as a result I am pretty much invisible at my college. But I have the desire to make friends and have even taken a communications class. The effort is still possible even shyness as severe as an anxiety disorder.

Yeah,I've always been shy too.
I don't have that many friends in college either.
:/

I have NO friends in college, all my friends are from middle school and high school.

I'm sorry about that.
I know how it feels to be alone.
:/

I can totally empathize.
Are you sure the girl she was talking about wasn't you? I mean, the way you said it it sounds like it wasn't, but maybe she was embarrassed that you knew she posted about you and was trying to hide it.
Anyways, I think you should be glad for the time you did have together and... (I know, you're going to hate reading this, I would too), maybe you should just let it go and try to stop loving her and try to just be friends with her again. :/
Your situation totally sucks, though, and I'm really sorry about that.

you know, the social skills you've learned online generally work out there in the real world. without crippling yourself with self-diagnosis pop psychology mumbo jumbo, go out there and have a good time. i know it can be hard making friends in college, but people are generally welcoming. if your dorm sucks (mine did... hardly anyone took a liking to me) there are plenty of other places to meet people and have a good time. get involved in something youre passionate about--don't forget college is a place for both intellectual growth and personal growth. and if THOSE people suck (that was my case again) join something that has a welcoming community. I, a creative writing major, ended up in the photo department, doing public relations for the photo club. the nice thing about clubs is that they HAVE to accept you, if you put the time into it. hahaha. plus you learn a thing or two, and it looks great on your resume.

again, all the social skills you learned online work in real life. go out there and talk to people, and you'll find you have more in common than you thought. don't let yourself stop you from having a good time.

briannamal:
Oh, I know that she wasn't talking about me.
It was definitely someone else.
But I think that I would be friends with her.
What she did was hurtful and as many times as she's said sorry, I don't believe her.
But whatever.
Love isn't my forte apparently haha.
Thank you for the advice.

ms wolcott:
I've gotten a little bit better with social skills and actually stepping foot in a club and staying, instead of running out scared.
Bu I'm going to need a lot of work on it though.
Thanks for the advice.