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My ex is dying
So my ex [wont go into why is his my ex.. long long story] has heart cancer.
Back in September he had a heart transplant. That went well until his body started to not like his heart. So he went back to the hospital to fix it. Around October the doctors went from saying he would have 5 years, to he had till January. So everything went normal since then, that i actually forgot he had cancer. But just about 30 minutes ago I get a call, he's back in the hospital, sick, hurting and week. Now the doctors tell me he has a week or less to live. I still hate him for how much he broke my heart, but I'm crying my eyes out and they wont stop coming. I don't know what to do. He sent me a really really sweet and romantic poem, and now I just. It hurts once again, but now I feel like i wont be able to fix it. I just don't know what to do. This may be a really weird thing to post but all my friends are either asleep or offline right now. And I just feel like I need to talk to some one. Sorry to waist your time. :heart: |
oh my god, i'm sorry to hear about your ex.
i hate to tell you but no matter what happens, it's going to hurt... but loving him or hating him doesn't matter right now, all that matters is being there for him and his family. i know it's a lot to take on but he's going to need someone there (and his family) and if he meant anything with that poem he would probably like it to be you. sorry if i'm making you feel worse, i really don't know what to say |
That sounds terrible! But you have to understand that he just probably feels a connection to you, at least. And he might just be trying to let you know that it will all be ok! I mean yeah, the doctors say that he has a week, but it is february, and that means he lasted longer then the first prediction that the doctors gave him. It could be worse! I mean you could still be dating the guy! I do not mean to say that he is bad, but you guys broke up for a reason and all. It seems that the best thing to do is to smile and think about after he's dead... work with me on this... he won't be in anymore pain, and he will be free of a failing body!
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no your not making me feel worse.
:hug: my only problem is that i wish everything will turn out better, but i know it wont. it seems that anything that i would let to maker better with him, never works out i do understand what your saying miss kitiara i do hope he wont be in pain i do want him to stop hurting but still a part of me wishing he could just stay :hug: i'm just happy you commented sorry if i seem all.. you know |
It's ok. It's not illegal for you to feel bad! I mean come on! he cheated you'll feel terrible because he didn't like you enough to stay faithful! That is not exactly the part of you that is focusing on him. He is probably a good guy, and you're going to miss that even if he is your ex. It sounds like you guys tried to stay friends, and he's trying to remedy what he did.
sorry if i seem a little pushy I don't mean to, i just always seem to be able to without meaning to |
You are not wasting our time! You are sad and hurting and everyone needs some one to be there for them in a time like that. It must be a very confusing situation, for both him and you. I will pray health, happiness, and understanding for you both and I hope that how ever the situation ends that you can come through it alright. If I could give you a real hug I would, but I can't so *e hug*. Make it through, don't be afraid to cry, and be strong!
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we did try and stay friends, though at time i wanted ti murder him lolz but still he always did know how to make me laugh at almost anything. Quote:
I hopes things turn out alright as well. but no matter what I has to be alright in the end I made a promise before my brothers died to never give up and i would make them proud. i wont go back on that promise. some how i will slowly survive :heart: |
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It seems that you are well acquainted with death, I hope that, that will change for you, but that might be why it feels like you can't stop crying. |
well think of this you loved him and always will love him but the type of love will change over time and yes it does hurt and everything like that i understand and well your going to get through this and he will always be apart of you and i know i am propable making things worst but girl friends are what help heal and i hope the best for you and hope and pray that he will get better just know that no matter what there is always someone to talk to even if it is someone you just met and well keep busy it helps you not to worry to much and to get through things better :) and sorry if i just made things worst
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I totally agree with what Ameika just said! All of it! tomorrow you should see if one of your best shopping girl friends wants to go out and see what they have! I don't mean to say that shopping will solve all your problems! But it can cool your nerves and shopping makes just about everyone happy! Or whatever you do when you've had a really bad day!
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My apologies for the following if you are not religious but in my opinion doctors are only carnival psychics in telling someone how long they have. They try to play God but they are not God. They are incapable of labeling a life span like the expiration date on a carton of milk. They once thought he had until January and it's February 2nd. So you see already they were wrong, and they very well could be again, there is nothing set in stone that says this guy has only a few weeks. Only God can decide when it's time to leave this earth.
So have faith that he will pull through this rough and painful time and pray for his family or if you aren't religious than hope for him the way you prefer. If he is able to talk or even if he isn't, going to the hospital and just talking to him can do a world of good. I have heard that hospital patients who have gotten letters, phone calls and visits from loved ones have a higher survival rate/faster recovery than those who are ignored or simply have no one. So let him hear your voice as much as you are comfortable with but beyond that try to continue your life, don't get bogged down by this. As someone else said get some friends together and go out. When my mom went to Vegas for work last October for half a week I immediately invited my best friend for a sleepover the day after she left afraid of getting lonely. Friends are always nice medicine when you are feeling down, need company or someone to talk to or distract you from life's toils. I wish you both the best of luck. |
wow. I am sorry to hear that. My close friend is going through a similar situation. He just found out his ex is dying of Leukemia. I never know quite what to say when things like this happen, but I do know that, yes, it will hurt. I hope and pray that he gets better, but if that doesn't happen, just know he'll be in a better state when he passes. You sound like a very strong person. Just continue to be strong and let yourself cry when you need to. Try to keep busy, but don't hold everything inside. I can't imagine what you're going through, but I know it isn't easy. If you need a friend or just someone to talk to, feel free to message me. If not, that's cool. Just know that there are people who care and that you can talk to. You're not alone. I hope everything works out.
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You can love someone even after breaking up. I still love my ex. It only means you have a good heart which there is nothing wrong with that.
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thanks for everything guys, but now i finally see what my ex really is
a f*****n b***h f****r that can go burn in hell >> sorry guys :heart: thanks for the support, but i'm okay on this for now, he can go die for all i care. he never learns, he keep ripping my heart out and smashing it into little pieces and i'm tired of it.; |
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