well here's another problem of mine ..

I'm 13 - im not bragging but i am first honor since i was in first grade .. [dont worry this has something to do with my prob]. - some say im pretty [although i am NOT] .. and yea they say im loud and friendly ..

But - why dont i have this cliques or groups .. I dont have that much friends .. i have trouble trusting people .. even if i know them .. i dont trust my parents that much .. - and there is only one guy who knows me that well .. and one girl who knows me too :] .. well this is really the reason why i go to this site .. to have friends to open up to .. and try trusting them ..

i am always alone fer sure .. even now .. im here - at a dark room .. listening to my music box and yea playing this menewsha .. i am pretending to be cheerful - but eversince i got into highschool i hide my pain . and be like them .. haumm .. i know this prob doesnt even go to anywhere ..

i dont realli know myself that much .. and i am a mysterious one ..

sooo yea my prob is .. how can i get to trust people ..
and why do i trust people hardly ?

Hmm... Well generally speaking, usually trust issues form from some sort of trauma that you may have suffered and still haven't come to terms with. I myself have huge trust issues with... well... everyone including me. I just got out of high school and away from all the HIGH SCHOOL DRAMA but I still carry those issues with me.

To cope with your trust issues, you might wanna consider taking the problem head on. There's a saying I've heard that goes "The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. It's just deciding who's worth the pain." So I guess it's all up to you to confront the issues that started your mistrust.

If you wanna talk more about it, or explain your problem a little more, just feel free to send me a message. I know that sometimes people just want someone to listen to them, but they may not wanna tell those close to them, or have a million people know something very personal.

wheww - that is supeeer right ..
haysss - well i am like this ..
what problem is it ? whewww - i just can't remember what is it ..

Thats just being in high school baby. Trust me. Although I guess thats part of the problem.
Evil pretty much got it right. Everyone will hurt you at one point or another. The point is, you need to look past that and understand that you'll eventually hurt everyone else to. So why not let everyone hurt together.

When I started high school, I had no friends. I hung out with my older brother and his group. As I went to my classes, I slowly found people I shared interests with and I started friendships. Now I have several moderate sized, groups of friends. I eventually started dating. Got my heart broken 3 times (broke one heart) until I got my boyfriend.

I always hide my pain, at least until someone forces it out of me. I hate burdening others, so I'm not too much help there...

About your self confidence though, I have to wonder, why don't you think you're pretty? At a young age I decided that no one was going to tell me that I was beautiful more that I would. (I have great self-confidence) I think I look amazing, and I don't care what everyone else thinks. ^.^ *hugs*

It takes time to get to know yourself. It seems to me it will come with age. Just be patinet, things will fall into place.

It can be hard in high school, as you probably already know. It was hard for me to open up to people too. Not trusting people in general can stem from any number of things, from a bad experience or just being a cautious person or shy. Maybe you just need to give it time. When people say that you are pretty, that's a good thing. Just take it as a compliment and feel good about it. As far as you not having a group of friends or anything like that, it's not unusual. I have very few friends at one time. I was an honor student too. People said I was pretty and that I was friendly, but I just had few friends. That's probably because I was nice to people in general, but only opened up to a few. You may not have opened up to a lot of people, because they just aren't the right people. You'll know when you want to open up to someone and it'll come easier for you. Just give it time and just know that there's nothing wrong with you. :)

(( ahoy! Pinoy! ))

at 13, i guess you are a bit mature than that time when i was at your age.

i know how it feels to be left out. it sucks arse and feels down right frustrating. but its not your fault.

judging from what you wrote, it would be very logical to conclude that your classmates are either intimidated by you or feel like they cannot compare to you. i know it may sound hard on your part, but being smart does have its pros and cons.

as for your "lack" of social cliques or groups ( barkada, kasi Pinoy tayo ;) ), please don't fret about it. at 13, your need to belong is very strong, but it doesnt need to compromise who you are just to fit in.

i guess all i can suggest is that you try to open up to people and show them who you really are. show them you are not some "stuck-up biatche" but rather a friendly, helpful girl who everyone can approach and feel comfortable with.

Hang in there and best wishes! You can do it!