Well, that's the short way to say it.
My friend and I are pretty close, despite only having gym and lunch together. We hang out on weekends, girly talk, all that.
Until last Thursday. We were walking the mile in gym and this kid came up to us and proceeded to bleat out his life story, feel up my friend, and talk smack about my boyfriend (who he's never met...) and I.
By the time we headed back to the locker rooms, they were dating.

He hasn't gotten any better in the last week, but he has managed to convince my friend that I hate her, despite the fact I've told her that she's still one of my best friends despite her poor taste in boys.

She's taken what I've said about her boyfriend and assumed I don't like her either, and has been extremely nervous while hanging out with me. It's gotten to the point where our friends are coming up to me and making me out to be a bad person because I think her boyfriend is a slime bag. I'm being told to try and be nice to him... But it's hard to be nice to someone who calls you the 'c' word while threatening your boyfriend.

I'm worried that this asshat is going to ruin our friendship, no matter how hard I try and put her at ease.

I don't know if someone can help me with this, but it felt alright to vent.
Thanks for reading.

Don't say anything about her boyfriend and tell her that you are no where near wanting to loosing her.
Tell her that, repeat it to her. And tell her that your scared to loose her.

...By the sounds of it, she really does have poor tastes in men.
Though, I don't think I'd be to happy with her sitting there and letting some guy she just met talk smack about her friend. Really, it sounds like it's not just him ruining it - but her not trying.

Tell her that you are her friend, and that you just don't like her boyfriend. [Do it while you guys are alone]
Tell her she may not notice, but he can say some really hurtful things to you, even if that's not his intentions. Let her know it has nothing to do with how you feel about your friendship with her, and maybe ask if she could talk to him about treating her friends better.

As the saying goes. "If you wanna be my lover, you gatta get with my friends." xDDD

Good luck!

If she's going to choose her new boyfriend over your friendship, then she isn't deserving of your time.

Make some friends with some sense in them ;D

Give her a little time. You said this whole thing only started a week ago, so just try to spend time with your friend when you can, but also be understanding of the fact that she wants to hang out with this guy. If she's a true friend, once she gets over the thrill of a new boy, she'll come back to you.

This guy has only been in the picture for a week or two, right?

Relax, it's not the end of the world. Everyone acts a bit loopy when they've got a crush and enter into a new relationship. Her boyfriend is constantly on her mind and she hasn't quite found a way to balance her life out yet. Give her time and let her figure it out on her own.

Don't bug her about it - Just tell her that you would prefer not to spend time with her boyfriend. Don't bad mouth him, just be the bigger person. Avoid situations where you'll lose your cool. These things will fix themselves in a little while. Either everyone will realize that this guy is a big jerk, or you two will find some way to get along. :yes:

I've been through similar problems though it is with ex best friend and she's taken two of my sisters and almost a friend. In any case I would suggest to sit with your friend and Explain to her that you do not hate her but you have problem with her boyfriend because of the way that he talked to yours. What I would suggest is to tell her that you won't say anything about her boyfriend because would be the same as the way he talked to yours. Try to just ignore the fact of who she is dating and hang out with her. Cause in the end don't you want to keep a friend instead of losing one? All you have to do is pretend that her boyfriend don't exist and ask her not bring him around and there will be no problems. And what I think is, is that if she don't listen to that, then she isn't a good friend! But that is just my opinion. Also this will take time. but try talking to her and if that don't work back down and wait don't say anything. when people come up and say things just say you have a problem because he messed with your boyfriend hm?

Oh wow, I'd probably deck the dude but that's just me.

In all seriousness, just inform your friend that you do not like her boyfriend due to his attitude towards you. Explain to her that he has said some hurtful things and you just wanted to let her know that you didn't enjoy it. Also explain that just because you do not like her boyfriend, doesn't mean you don't like her. Make it clear that you cherish your friendship and are just looking out for her. After that conversation, do not mention anything about her boyfriend. Do not say anything to your friends about him and just ignore what they say about you being the 'bad' guy. They'll realize they were being ignorant soon enough.

As for her boyfriend, the next time he tells you that you are a c***, kindly tell him that you do not appreciate his actions and walk away. Ignore him after that. If he tries to lay a hand on you, I'd advise you to scream and defend yourself in any means neccessary. And then tell an adult (parents, teachers, whatever) so they can take the next best course of action.

If your friend decides to choose her boyfriend over you, end all ties with her. She clearly doesn't care about you as much as you care about her. You don't need friends like that who are going to choose some a**hole over you. And guess what? She'll realize how much of a jerk he is and she'll come running back to you. But you'll be making new friends and would be getting of her. Her loss.