Yes im new here and im just venting here! If u want to know anything just pm me! I Met my fiance on Gaia and we have been together almost 4 years and right now we live apart because of the economy bein so bad he lives with hi parents as do i! We plan on moving in together as soon as we can! so yeah we used to see each other a lot cuz he lived about an hour and a half away from me now that hhim and his family moved in with his grandma he is about 7 hours away! Okay now back to the topic i first foud out i was pregnant in july of 08 with the first lost it about a few weeks later! the 2nd pregnancy was beginning of January and then i lost the baby at 9 weeks and 3 days! Im just grieving still since it was a year ago today! if u have any question plz be free to pm me or add it here!

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I'm going to move this on over to Life Issues for you sassy.

I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriage. :hug:

Aw, i'm so sorry to hear about that. I have Gaia too- it's quite a good site. My old neighbour was in a situation like yours, except she was unable to have a child and was persistent on not adopting; she wanted a child so badly but never had one. I can't really give much advice on this subject, but I hope for the best..

I understand your suffering. I had been trying to conceive for over a year when it finally happened! I was so happy, but then I too miscarried--from stress at work. I really couldn't take the time to grieve because I had a friend over who I had not seen in over a year (because she lived 14+ hours away) and she didn't know that we had been trying. So...eventually, I was able to grieve. I still wish it hadn't happened especially since all of my friends (not the one who visited) are having babies left and right. But I think I take some comfort that my husband and I weren't ready then. He had to move three and a half hours away for a job and only recently moved back in with me. As it is, he isn't ready for it.

I can't say that you won't ever stop mourning, but maybe try to find something good in your life to hold onto to keep going. Eventually, you and your boyfriend will be together, and you will have another chance.

I'm so sorry to hear about your miscarrage. I have never been through anything like that, but it must be tough, Be strong.

Where you on birth control? Sometimes taking birth control after conceptation (daily pill) can cause them. Friend's girlfriend had two miscarriages because of that. Sweetie, I know people are still scared of seeing a doctor for this sorta thing but I think you need to sit down and talk to psychologist. You seemed to depressed and you have something to be depressed about, so please don't feel ashamed. I would also sit with your mother and grandmother and see if their is any history in the family of miscarriages. It maybe genetic.

Don't blame yourself. It's not your fault.

I'm sorry to hear that, my dear. I have never experienced that kind of pain, so I don't know quite how I could comfort you. I hope that someday, you will be able to move on and be happy with yourself and your life.

its natural to grieve, my dear. i lost my girlfriend to cancer 4 years ago and from time to time, i still grieve about her.

losing a loved one will always be hard on someone, no matter how strong people or the person himself/herself thinks so. but without the pain, we don't get to appreciate the good things about them when we still had them in our lives.

personally, i don't know how it feels to lose a child. but i would be stupid enough not to know it hurts really really bad.