I got some deep catholic guilt issues. Really, it's bad this time. The Catholic Guilt thing is telling my pregnant cause I has sex even on protection, birth control pills and condom. I know it's the catholic guilt talking. I just had my period, a week before me and currents first time having sex. The issue is my Catholic Guilt.

How do you get over this? It's driving me up a wall.

hae, i saw you on gaia! buuut.. the bast way i get over guilt is just wait it out..i mainly forget about it then things get better ^w^"

Thank you for the advice sweetie!

Trust me, I understand Catholic Guilt Syndrome. :hug:

There's no way to immediately get over it. This is something that has been pounded into you since childhood, so it would be a miracle if you could somehow escape it with the snap of your fingers.

Just remember that you are a good person who is not doing anything with malicious intent. You're just trying to live your life as best you can. As long as you continue to hold good morals and are not hurting anyone else, then you are allowed to venture away from the Catholic Church a bit. You're keeping yourself safe with birth control, the sex is consensual, so there is nothing for you to worry about. Just take a deep breath and enjoy it. :yes:

It isn't necessarily just your Catholic background making you feel this way. Having sex for the first time is a big deal and I think a lot of women freak out and worry if they are pregnant even if they have no Catholic background at all. Because, before it was impossible for you to get pregnant because you were abstinent your whole life, but once you have sex for the first time, there's suddenly the possibility that it COULD happen, no matter how unlikely. And there's so much suffering and possibly judgement if you do get pregnant to worry about. Men can run away from pregnant women and abandon them, but as a woman, if you do accidently get pregnant, it's not something that you CAN run from because it's inside your body. Even if you get an abortion, it's still a lot to deal with.

I'm just telling you all this because I think what you're feeling and worrying about is pretty normal when you're inexperienced with sex. Having sex always comes with various possibly risks and it's a lot of girl's idea of their worst nightmare (it is mine) to get pregnant before they desire to.

But you have to look at it realistically. You guys are using two forms of birth control, which is really great. I wish everyone would do the same as you two are doing. And because of that, all the things you are afraid of are very unlikely to happen. You're being responsible and adult-like about sex. You aren't taking risks with birth control or doing anything stupid, so applaud yourself and stop worrying about the what-if's because they are very unlikely to happen.

@Knerd Thank you for the understanding. I really appericate it. (I can never spell that word)

@ The Enchanted Tiara, First off you avy is beyond beautiful!
Secondly, I have had sex before I just haven't had sex for a long time. I had the catholic guilt when I started with my ex. I don't want to have kids. Hell, if I could get my tubes tied I would.

Guilt is one way of saying you have severly compromised on your values and principles.

you can either deal with your issues and confront the problem, or wait until the guilt subsides and continue your course of action.

sadly, im a Catholic too and i know how the guilt trip sucks monkey balls. but it also means you're mature enough to know you may have done something which is contrary to your values or principles and that you are also mature enough to know what to do to rectify the mistake you may have done.

Best Wishes and hang in there!

Originally Posted by Runes

@Knerd Thank you for the understanding. I really appericate it. (I can never spell that word)

@ The Enchanted Tiara, First off you avy is beyond beautiful!
Secondly, I have had sex before I just haven't had sex for a long time. I had the catholic guilt when I started with my ex. I don't want to have kids. Hell, if I could get my tubes tied I would.

Thanks. XD And lol, I don't know how I got the first thing. Sorry about that!

As a chick who went to the three different catholic schools for nine years of my life, I understand the guilt.

HOWEVER.

Once you actually learn more about saints, their histories and such, you find that we are all human and we have urges. You, girlie, have used protection, and that's really really good to hear. :D Be as relieved as I was my first time that you aren't bearing the responsibility of a child yet. You were very responsible.

Including myself, other people have probably went through the same thing you're going through. It's normal, and it's okay. It's scary to feel like a you've turned your back on your religion, but you haven't. You arent going to go to hell, and you know that Jesus loves you. c: So that's really what is important, right?

I've had sex (pretty often) for the past 6 months, while on birth control which I never miss, and occasionally use other protection (I'm not worried because we are both clean). After a while, I feel more comfortable and less guilty about it. I have a scare before, but as long as you take your pills according to your doctor's instruction and use back up methods, it's much easier to relax. c:

um Ive only whent to a catholic school for two years and am a strugling with my faith christian,
but I do know this, Catholics are very strict but you also can be a lot harder on youself than need be (i do this all the time >.<)
as a catholic you should probably pray to god about it. ask for forgiveness and it should be fine. Even though your guitly people are born with orriginal sin so you cant esscape it ^_^ that is unless your super lucky and are the virgin mary or something ^_^ (this is where you laugh >.<;;)
but cheer up, you have someoone special who loves you (god and your signifigant other) you also have made a wise choice with the birth control and condoms ^_^

I HAVE THE SAME CATHOLIC GUILT!

After I had super protected sexual relationship, I always think I am pregnant. I will even go as far as to take a test, and then like the next day I will have my menstrual cycle and a test that says I wont be a mommy anytime soon. Usually if I know I am going to have a super stressful time in the next few weeks I will just stay abstinent so that is one last last stresser I have to worry about.
My mister usually helps me out, by just giving me confidence that any child we do have wont be a bastard, and that only child I would have at the rate of our protection, he would assume someone from the heavens would have to tell us about it....that and he tells me my religion's dogma is silly (though the later it upsets me, it from time to time relieves me). I figure if for 20 some years I haven been told this to the point I feel guilty, so one telling me the opposite will eventually feel less guilty.

I'm also a Catholic and I totally understand the feeling that you're having. Feeling guilty is one way of saying that you still value the Catholic's beliefs and teachings. So there's nothing wrong with what you're feeling. Humans are bound to commit mistakes. Always remember that those beliefs and teachings are just there to guide us. It does not mean that we have to religiously follow everything, as in 100%. Because following all the things that the scripture says does not mean that you are a good Christian. Because no matter what you do and what you choose to practice, it will all boil down to your faith. What matters in the end is your faith.