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Depression...
I feel like I'm lost in this blinding tunnel of darkness with no way out. At the moment I'm broke, i lost everything i once had and knew, moved back in with my mom, I'm having trouble finding a job but i am working on my GED. I feel like my life is so meaningless tho. Its as tho each little inch i make towards a better life isn't enough when i feel like i should be doing feet and miles.
I'm not here for you to pity me, or to say I'm giving up. I'm not, NEVER! But what i would like is your ideas on what i can do to better my life and be more self sufficient. ^^ ---------- I know alot of you are problyyoung and this site is mainly for fun so to be seeking wisdom here seems odd, but i just thought i'd throw it out there anyways, just as a discussion topic. tho it really is the way my life seems to be going. D: |
Someone very close to my heart has a similar problem and I hate to see them struggle so hard when all they want to do is get that diploma so they can move on with their life.
Pretend your life is a room and, as you've pointed out, the problems are piling and piling up and you feel like it's hopeless and there's no escape. That's not true. Don't look at the whole mess as a single powerful entity but as a stack of things you can take apart one by one. Take a bit of time to catch your breath and at your own pace sort out each piece and slowly dismantle and sort each problem you have. Occupy yourself with one problem at a time and always keep in mind YOU ARE being productive and YOU ARE going to get where you want to go if you keep at it or else you really are going to burn out be even more prone to depression. True this is no miracle cream to make it all go away but it'll help. Be strong and don't ever give up! :) |
Well if you're working on a GED, and if you're trying to look for a job I wouldn't say that's unproductive. You're doing quite the contrary.
Don't think that just because you had to move back in with your parent for the time being that it means you've become unproductive, it just means you need some help. There is no shame in falling back with relatives if you're in a tight spot and you need the help--a lot of people do that. If I were you I'd get a simple part-time job, focus on your GED, and in return for letting you stay at their house, do some things around the house that they like like cleaning. At least this way you'd be getting all of the things done that you need to do, and you'd be keeping yourself occupied. |
Quitting school because of my family problems was hard on me. I admit that I didn't hang out with people for a long time, but I slowly got over it and found things to keep me busy. It's okay to not feel great about stuff, but talking it out helps out. My boyfriend and three best friends have been by my side. I know they are busy with their lives, but they make time for me. (:
Just think about what makes you happy and have friends keep close. (I'm not talking about nice people or just school friends, I'm talking about people that you can tell anything to, close friends that you love and trust.) I'm currently staying at home, and then helping out at the day care center. |
And this too shall pass eventually. There are always going to be highs and lows in your life. But I have learned that even good comes from our darkest times. Sometimes you dont realize it till later. Something better always comes along after you hit a low and you will realize that it all really does work out. You are studying for your GED and are bettering yourself. Just keep one foot in front of the other. Sometimes its real hard to walk yourself out of the muck but you are on your way to better things you just have to try a different path this time.
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Be more patient with yourself and your life. No one who is successful in their jobs and in their life got there over night. It took years and years of hard work and bettering themselves and it will be the same for you as it would be for anyone else. Just keep continuing on the same track that you are continuing on and try to look more to the future and what good things are going to happen because of these changes you are making that wouldn't otherwise happen.
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I recommend you work on your diploma instead, do independant studies and not go back to high school and get your diploma. All they care about is you doing a certain amount each week and turning it in. Usually, a high school diploma increases your chances of getting a job. This is a recommendation, of course, you don't have to take it for I do know humans that have gotten good jobs with GEDs. Anyways, just take it 1 step at a time, you're studying for your GED and you're job hunting. You know, there are some places that help the jobless find jobs as long as they can prove they can handle a job. Research your area and see if there's a place that does this.
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hang in there, you are not alone.
i know how you feel, considering i too had a hard time getting that elusive GED. if you can, i think someone pointed out that you can always try to find a simple part-time job while you're working on your GED. its not really the best thing, but it helps you deal with things you cannot get when you're only focusing in one. sure it will be taxing, and at times really really adds to your frustrations, but we all here know you have what it takes to accomplish it. as for moving back to your parents, there's nothing wrong with that. i think you are even mature enough to know that you need help and wasn't cocky nor proud to try to hide the problem. hang in there, you can do it! |
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work as hard as you can.
don't ever feel worthless because it will eat away at you. just do your BEST and that will be sufficient enough to get you where you want to eventually be. life is never easy. nor are the things worth fighting to acquire. don't worry, there is a light at the end of the tunnel! <3 |
People here are so great! I'm not the one who asked for an advice to feel better about myself but it's helping me too.
Focus on what you have instead of focusing on what you don't have. No life is ever worthless. You should keep doing what you're doing. Get your GED. Don't stop trying and don't stop learning. Really think on where you want your life to go and focus on it. And be optimistic no matter how dark and hopeless life means right now. |
I've been through some pretty bad depressions and have a ton of advise on how to get out of its cycle. First you should make sure to smile a lot. Even if it's fake, it still helps you. Try to get some exercise in every day, and if you can get it outside. Daylight always helps, and if you have S.A.D. it'll help even more. Try to stay away from cigarettes and alcohol as those can affect you pretty badly (especially the alcohol). Those are the things I have done that have helped me the most. I haven't been depressed at all this year, and the past couple of years have been tons better.
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Miles are happening, but slowly. Starting small to recover is good. Every accomplishment you make a mile toward getting yourself back to where you wish to be. Make sure you have at least one hobby that you really enjoy, too. Anything. Sewing, drawing, singing, running, watching frogs, collecting rocks...something. Giving yourself something to do just because you like it gets you out of the usual humdrum of what most people would consider "normal life." Do random things. Be spontaneous. Smile often. Take an hour every day and devote it yourself. Whatever you feel you need that hour. A nap, a good run, meditation, a good read. Something. And don't forget: laughter is a great cure. =D
Good luck and I hope everything turns out well! |
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