Okay, some background info. I've been close friends with this guy for about two years now. (No, I'm not in love with him, and we've never been "involved" with each other.) We've taken each other through some horrible crap (my dad getting super sick and my mom having to give up a job she loves to be his nursemaid 24/7 when all she wants to be is his wife; his crap-ton of awful boyfriends, horrible parents, and stalker ex girlfriend from hades [he's bi, if you couldn't tell]) and always been there when the other needed it.

Now, he's going some nasty mood swings, and won't tell me what's going on, which is NOT normal. The only thing that I know is that he's in another relationship. He says he thinks this guy is "legit", but I'm not buying it.

I haven't gotten to talk to him much over the past couple of months because of stuff going on at college.

When I finally talked to him a couple of days ago, and he seemed happier than he's been in a long time. Then tonight he messaged me one word: "Bye." I asked him why "bye", and he said he'd been planning his suicide for four days. He said something about things changing, and then wouldn't talk to me anymore. He's not online, and I don't want to risk calling his house and making his parents mad. That would just make things worse. I feel terrible that I didn't know that something was going on. What sucks the most is I can't get to him, because I'm currently three states away.

What's going on? What do I do? Is there anything I can do, aside from pray with everything I've got?

Originally Posted by Icy Samba

Okay, some background info. I've been close friends with this guy for about two years now. (No, I'm not in love with him, and we've never been "involved" with each other.) We've taken each other through some horrible crap (my dad getting super sick and my mom having to give up a job she loves to be his nursemaid 24/7 when all she wants to be is his wife; his crap-ton of awful boyfriends, horrible parents, and stalker ex girlfriend from hades [he's bi, if you couldn't tell]) and always been there when the other needed it.

Now, he's going some nasty mood swings, and won't tell me what's going on, which is NOT normal. The only thing that I know is that he's in another relationship. He says he thinks this guy is "legit", but I'm not buying it.

I haven't gotten to talk to him much over the past couple of months because of stuff going on at college.

When I finally talked to him a couple of days ago, and he seemed happier than he's been in a long time. Then tonight he messaged me one word: "Bye." I asked him why "bye", and he said he'd been planning his suicide for four days. He said something about things changing, and then wouldn't talk to me anymore. He's not online, and I don't want to risk calling his house and making his parents mad. That would just make things worse. I feel terrible that I didn't know that something was going on. What sucks the most is I can't get to him, because I'm currently three states away.

What's going on? What do I do? Is there anything I can do, aside from pray with everything I've got?

My question is: why on Earth are you afraid to make his parents mad? If your friend is seriously contemplating suicide he could kill himself at any moment. If you can't get there, GET somebody there. Tell his parents. You sound as though you have no idea whether or not your friend would actually commit suicide. DO NOT take the chance of being wrong in thinking that he won't.

I think it best to tell his parents, or SOMEONE who can intervene quickly. Risking the anger of someone is a lot less to pay than the death of someone is. Don't regret this. If you seriously think that he might be about to kill himself, you HAVE to do something.

Good luck.

Well ok DONT PANIC. The fact that he said bye says he is saying he needs help. If he was serious informing you would probably not be the top thing on his mind -no offense-. It is good he is finally reaching out, keep trying to gain contact and if you feel in your heart that this boy is truly in danger then you need to tell someone but remember the cops are nice but a pain sometimes. Being three states away from my only real friend sucks and sometimes I dont tell him everything that is going on but if nyour friend even tells you a little you should be satisfied and hope you get close again when he is more committed. peace-

I agree with Elysium. It seems like the best thing to do is inform his parents or someone you know will help him who is physically close to where ever he is now. And do pray for him.
I sincerely hope that everything works out and that he's doing okay- and that you're doing okay too.
I know that as his friend this has to be a very heavy burden on you, but don't think for a second that calling for help or not being able to be in the same area as him makes you a bad friend. You've shown what a wonderful, caring friend you are to him.