Just ranting. Help?
 

Ok, so my issue is I don't really know what to do with my life! Because of social
anxiety and depression and financial problems, I don't get to finish college.
So here I am, a bum with no degree with issues.

I just don't know what to do! I mean, is there a decent job that doesn't require a
degree? I don't know how I'll survive, buy food and stuff..

I get so jealous of other girls that looks like they're having a good life. Vacations, a
boyfriend, nice family, money.. Why can't I have that too?

I'm trying to let go of my issues one at a time. I've accepted that I didn't have a
good childhood and I've put that behind me. But now I'm lost at what to do next.

I'm getting old and I'm getting nowhere =(

Alright, let me start off by saying that I don't have any advice for you on the job, or school, just because I have not dealt with college or looking for those kind of jobs yet :no: .

Now. I know how many times you've probably heard this, but...life has its tribulations. This time too shall pass. HOWEVER, what everyone doesn't tell you is that this time will not pass unless you make it pass. Don't sit around the house and let your depression, social anxiety, and financial problems suck the life out of you.

Go to the park, sit in the sun (you've absolutely no idea what sun does for a person's disposition). Write in a journal, draw, LAUGH. Think about what you want in your life and don't give up on your dreams even though this opportunity MAY be blown.

Well, I guess I do have a bit of advice on the financial bit.... Have you applied for scholarships? There are certain scholarships that would love to help you out if they heard your case...

Anyway. Girls that look like they have everything rarely do. Don't let yourself get caught up in wanting another person's life because I guarantee you that the life of the person you admire isn't as good as you think it is. Jealousy is common in us women, for whatever reason, and it's unhealthy. Letting go of jealousy and accepting your own situation will take half the weight of the world off of your shoulders.

My advice for letting go of said jealousy is this: look at the girls. REALLY look. Do you really want to be like that snob with a million dollars, a tiny dog that secretly hates her, an abusive, cheating, boyfriend with no brains, and no contentment in her own life despite the fact that she has -everything-?

As per the nice family: think about it. Who would you be without your childhood? You wouldn't be you, I promise. Even if you don't see it now...you'll see it someday. The last person you want to lose is yourself. And the thing that made you, you, was your childhood. It is most likely that one day you will cherish the adversity you have faced as one of the most important things you've ever gone through.

Don't give up yet. Let yourself have time to think and don't make any hasty decisions about your future. Don't do something unless it feels right.

Oh, and by the way...if you're still in college then you're not old. As far as I'm concerned, you're only as old as you make yourself.

Well, I have major anxiety issues too. I'm not sure what yours are, but with mine I am still comfortable dancing on stage. It's good money, and actually the waitresses make really good money, too. Or try online classes! Also, I was in the Army for a bit. Changed my life! I loooooved it, and you're not going to meet better people anywhere else ;)

I have social anxiety and depression too, which made me drop out of school in 2007. And not to mention being completely broke. So your story is definitely mine all over again. I took my time, worrying and worrying, trying to get my head together. My depression got so bad that I had to go see someone. It was the best thing I could have done for myself. Because of that I'm going to try and get back to school because I, like you, need a much better job but can't find one. The only option for me IS school.

Or, just like Roxxxy mentioned, there is the military, which is something I was thinking of doing myself. However, my anxiety is causing a big road block with that. But it could do great things for you if you're not afraid to uproot yourself and travel a bit. It would probably be great in helping to shape your self esteem and whatnot. I'm still not ruling the military out for myself because I know it would help me grow for the better. Who knows, could do the same for you.

But trust me, you will get tired of how things are going and make moves for yourself. The answers might not be there right in front of your face right now, but given some time you will figure out what to do with your life. Just take your time for now. I hope this helped a little bit.

There are decent jobs out there that you can get without a degree, but all jobs take a lot of hard work to get to (whether you are working on a degree or not.) All of the good jobs that you need no degree for are jobs where you started out as something small (like working as a bagger at a grocery store) and over the next many, many years, you kept impressing your superiors enough that (and not all people are able to impress their superiors this way) that they keep promoting you until you're the head of several grocery stores or whatever and getting paid quite a bit.

You can also work in construction and road work and that's an okay job, but I don't see very many women in that profession.

There's also the army you can join (and get good pay), although it can be dangerous unless you get a desk job (which doesn't happen a lot.)

And you can go to police school or firemen school, I think, and as long as you're physically fit enough, you can become one of those.

Also, you can be a trucker if you work hard to get a trucking driver's license.

Working at factories is all right, I hear, too. No degree needed, but I don't know how you get those jobs and a lot of companies are outsourcing (I think that's what it's called), so there's less and less of those jobs here in the U.S. because they want cheap labor.

That's pretty much all I can think of, but this is why most people get degrees. You have to work hard no matter the job you are going to have, so if it's at all possible, it would be good to try for a degree so you have more options.

My fiancee doesn't have a degree. He has a very good job. Albiet he's flippin' burgers, but he's paid very nicley, and he's the best darned worker they have out here.

So my advice, is start small. Don't harm yourself by thinking you NEED a high paying job, or that you NEED to finish school. Yes, school is alright for some people. I'm not saying NOT to finish. I'm just saying, school can't teach you how to handle LIFE'S real issues. When you have a degree, I've noticed, that companies still wont hire people, because they are OVER-qualified. It's stupid really. But, you should really do what you feel is right. Try to finish school, and get a small job, like bagging groceries, or flipping burgers, or even mopping floors. Don't aim fer the higher ups just yet. If that's where you're supposed to go with your life, you'll get there, no matter what. Ya gotta push yourself to make things happen. So, do what ya feel is right. Have fun, and don't let issues knock you down. I know that my family isn't. Our foodstamps got knocked down to 250$ a month, where it was 500$ a month, but we're not lettin' it hold us down. lol.

Have fun, think things through, and fer now, just get a small job that will help with what you need.

you can find a job even without a degree!! i mean, if you work hard... you'll find something worthwhile.. anyway, you just have to think positive. we all have frustrations in life. i dont even know if i'm through with mine, but i break down every now and then, but it doesnt keep me from waking up every morning and do what i have to do...