So my ex-boyfriend Nick and I split up. He did something dumb, and i told him we needed to take a break. I did this to see if i still had feelings for him after what he did, and turns out I do, and there still very strong. Our anniversary is on the 16th, and i want to ask him if we could be together again on the 16th, hes getting kind of impacient, and i just don't want him to get someone else. I don't know if i should ask him again, my heart is saying "ask him Rachael!" But my brains telling me not to. Im just afraid of how to make this work and last after we try again.

I think it all depends on what he did. Would you mind elaborating?

Because if it was a cheating sort of thing; I'd be the first to tell you not to take him back regardless of your feelings because that kind of person never changes. This is from experience.

An ex is an ex for a reason. I've gone down that path... and believe me. I wish that I hadn't. He should have stayed gone when he had the chance. People generally don't change. He did something stupid once he will probably do it again.

This is something you got to find within yourself, and be honest. You missing him because you are alone, or are you missing him as a person. Sometimes in relationships, men are guilty of this as well, we tend to feel alone and remember the happy times of a past relationship.

We forget that what they did hurt us, we try to give it another shot. So here is the question you must ask yourself. Is it worth the chance to get hurt again? This is truly a choice you must make for yourself.

Also know that there are nice guys out there and you never have to settle for the crappy ones. I seen to many girls do that..

I've always believed that if it doesn't work out the first time, then it won't work out the second time. It's okay to miss him, but think about what's best for you.

i dont know. but if you really do have feeling for him,, then why not try?? if it works,, then!! good for you!

Originally Posted by Estrella

I think it all depends on what he did. Would you mind elaborating?

Because if it was a cheating sort of thing; I'd be the first to tell you not to take him back regardless of your feelings because that kind of person never changes. This is from experience.

Unless you've had dealings with over, say, 20 people that all support that claim...you can't make that claim.

Everybody can change, and to say that they can't absolutely marginalizes any efforts they make.

The decision really lies with you, but my most humble and honest opinion is that people break up for a reason, and more often than not, you're just wasting your time getting back with someone you've already broken up with.

Originally Posted by Kinmotsu

Unless you've had dealings with over, say, 20 people that all support that claim...you can't make that claim.

Everybody can change, and to say that they can't absolutely marginalizes any efforts they make.

You're right, I can't really make that claim. But I am bitter and honestly with the amount of lying and the crap I have gone through with my ex-husband in the past two years, I really do believe that cheaters don't change. But maybe he's just a disgusting human being, I don't know. But I've seen it a lot as an outsider as well. And besides that, building the trust again, in my case at least, is rather difficult after someone has cheated. And lets just say I tried to forgive and work on a relationship for my daughters' sake and he shattered it all again. So, I really can't say that no one ever changes in the aspect of saying I've been with 20 guys who've all cheated and never changed; but I can say that I myself would have a hard time believing it again after the experience with my ex.

Its resolved, were not dating, but you can post your oppinions.