Bridesmaid Drama - HALP!
 

I'm having a bit of a dilemma, forum...one of my bridesmaids has been kind of catty about my matron of honor lately, and it's starting to really bug me.

I met with my matron of honor earlier this week just to hang out (we hadn't seen each other in a while) and we were tossing around potential colors for my wedding party. She suggested (as did other people on the forum, actually) teal and/or dark brown. I found some cute dresses I liked, uploaded them to my WP album on Facebook, and there you go.

So, I get a call about an hour later from said bridesmaid: "Is [MOH's name] pooh-poohing everything you've decided on again?" First of all, her tone was kind of bitchy...second, my MOH has NEVER questioned my decisions, only added helpful ideas when she's had something to say, and I trust her judgment (we have similar taste).

Also, my MOH is vegan and won't wear first-hand silk, which does not bother me. I was a little frustrated at first, but that's only because non-silk dresses are hard to find, lol. My bridesmaid called me again the other night (same day as the first call) and started trying to tell me that I was really pissed at my MOH: "Oh, you know you're a little annoyed with her, admit it," etc. etc.

Then, she implied that this is too much hassle and that I should ask my MOH to step down! Wtf?!

I was getting the vibe that she was a little upset that I asked the girl I did to be my MOH instead of her, so I flat-out asked her (in a delicate way). She blew it off, like, "No, I don't care that I'm not your MOH," but I think she might be a little jealous because even though I've known her for longer than my MOH, I chose someone else.

I'm just more comfortable with my MOH, and she's never said/done anything to hurt me in the four years we've known each other. That's huge. My bridesmaid, while a sweetheart too, can be a little mean...she has a habit of teasing me in a way that can be a little over-the-top and bitchy (my FH mentioned this, too, when I asked him about it).

My FH and I are both completely perplexed by her behavior. I don't want to un-ask my bridesmaid, but I don't know how to ask her to tone down the complaints, etc. a little. Do you guys have any suggestions? Maybe she was just having a bad week or something...I love her, so I don't want to lose her as a BM (or a friend)!

What do I do?

Side note: My MOH found a dress already and I'm letting the BMs pick their own from a selection I found (we're having a 40s/50s themed wedding, so it can't be a free-for-all). There are two color choices and about four styles that would look flattering on everyone, so it's not like she can really bitch about that.

First off, congratulations on getting married! :) And I also commend you for NOT being a bridezilla ^o^ Every wedding I've been in (excluding my sister) has had a bitch of a bride.

As far as advice goes, which I'm not very good at considering my lack of Bride experience (I've never been one :P) I would keep her as your bridesmaid, even if she's pissing you off. I know it's gonna be tough but I would just put up with her to avoid any more drama. You have to understand that everyone has friends like that, and it's pretty normal to have them nit pick unecessarily. I just don't think it would do you any good to kick her out all together :x
Maybe she's jealous, maybe she's not.. but right now thats not the point. Nothing can be changed about that, so if she is or isn't is no longer relevant (not like you can or would want to change it anyway).
As far as saying something to her.. I don't know. It might turn out bad considering her personality.. but you never know. Maybe just a delicate "I'm happy with the way everything is going" would shut her up. Other than that, I would just put up with it. Don't let her take away from your big day :)

I'll keep her, but I've been avoiding her as much as possible lately--my FI is annoyed with how she's been treating me, too. x.x

My suggestion would be "don't have a bridal party at all" but I'm not even having a ceremony for my marriage, so I might be a little biased ;)

Just flat out tell her the truth.