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Old 04-24-2010, 02:56 AM

Let me explain the situation first.
I've known my bf for nearly 2 semesters but we've only been officially dating for nearly a month. About a week into the relationship he said three certain words(heres a hint one began with "L") And I told him it was too soon. But just this afternoon I wanted to say those three words to him. He keeps saying to me, "You know you wanna say it." and I'm the kind of person that loves proving people wrong. But right now I'm not so sure. I've talked to other friends about this and they keep saying the same thing, "Say it when it feels right. " But i was think it felt right this afternoon and I held myself back. I don't know, am I taking this too fast or would it be allright? Maybe I'm reading to much into this. Anyways, does anyone think I might be rushing into it? Any advice would be appreciated.

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Old 04-24-2010, 03:06 AM

Hmm I dated a guy about 3 days after seeing him as a friend and i've dated a few guys and told them i love them. I say I love you only when i actually feel it versus just saying it. Because when you truly love someone then it feels so much better :3 take your time, love is the most special thing in the world for you :3

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Old 04-24-2010, 03:26 AM

I understand being stubborn (I'm pretty stubborn myself), but what you have to do in situations like this is ask yourself if it's actually worth it. Is keeping him from "being right" worth it?
If that is all that is keeping you from saying it, then answering that question will give you your answer. But what I think you also might want to look at is whether or not you're using the stubbornness as an excuse because you're afraid or aren't sure.

Unfortunately, there's no sure-fire checklist that will say "Yep, you love him!" or "Nope, not quite there yet!" People can and do try to say "Well if you think this and this, you don't actually love him," but those are never true in all cases.

Really, you shouldn't rush it. It will kind of suck for your guy to have said it and have it out there and have you not saying it back, but don't let that pressure you into saying it. Consider talking to him about it, saying that it's really sweet, but you need some time to think about it because you're afraid of saying it and being wrong and thus hurting him (which I assume is true). If he continues pressuring you, even jokingly, you may want to consider asking him to stop, since that certainly doesn't make it easier for you.

Have you been in love before? That would definitely help you figure it out. No two loves are the same, but it can help you determine "okay, that definitely is NOT love," or "yeah, that is."

If you think it over and you do love him, then just say it. People move at different paces. For some people, a week is too soon to say it, for others, six months is. If you love him, then you love him, and since you know he loves you, there's really no reason not to say it.

 


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