
04-24-2010, 03:26 AM
I understand being stubborn (I'm pretty stubborn myself), but what you have to do in situations like this is ask yourself if it's actually worth it. Is keeping him from "being right" worth it?
If that is all that is keeping you from saying it, then answering that question will give you your answer. But what I think you also might want to look at is whether or not you're using the stubbornness as an excuse because you're afraid or aren't sure.
Unfortunately, there's no sure-fire checklist that will say "Yep, you love him!" or "Nope, not quite there yet!" People can and do try to say "Well if you think this and this, you don't actually love him," but those are never true in all cases.
Really, you shouldn't rush it. It will kind of suck for your guy to have said it and have it out there and have you not saying it back, but don't let that pressure you into saying it. Consider talking to him about it, saying that it's really sweet, but you need some time to think about it because you're afraid of saying it and being wrong and thus hurting him (which I assume is true). If he continues pressuring you, even jokingly, you may want to consider asking him to stop, since that certainly doesn't make it easier for you.
Have you been in love before? That would definitely help you figure it out. No two loves are the same, but it can help you determine "okay, that definitely is NOT love," or "yeah, that is."
If you think it over and you do love him, then just say it. People move at different paces. For some people, a week is too soon to say it, for others, six months is. If you love him, then you love him, and since you know he loves you, there's really no reason not to say it.
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