Is this paranoid?
 

So this girl and I finally started going out a while ago, and we've fallen for each other pretty hard. (It kind of happened over the course of a year. It's hard to explain.) Anyway, when we announced it officially there was a lot of negative press, to say the least. Both of us are apparently hot commodities since we both had a lot of crazy people to beat away with a stick who tried to separate us so they could date us. (One girl really creeped me out, but I pointed out she was acting crazy and she mellowed out. o.o )

Mine were easy enough, but there's this one guy who just...boils my blood, I guess. I'm jealous, it's part of who I am. I don't care if she hangs out with other guys, I just care if one of them hits on her. That's when I get over protective.

This guy not only tried to get her to date him, but once he found out that we were dating he flipped out. (This was over facebook. I could get a screeny, even. >.> ) First he said he was crying, then he said he was angry, then he said he was going to buy a ticket to our state (he lives a couple states away right now) and that he was going to kill her. Of course we all tried to inform him he was being absolutely psychotic.

I screenied the convo and sent him a private message telling him that I'd gladly seek every punishment the law could muster if I so much as saw his face again, and that if he touched one hair on her head he would regret it.

I'm not terribly worried about the guy, he seemed like the boasting sort more than anything-3 years younger than my girlfriend and I, claimed to be "crazy" and that's how he'd get away with it, told me he was friends with enough of the cops nearby to get away with it. Since then he's gone on and started dating some other guy and (hopefully) decided to leave us alone, but I still can't help but think about it. Every time it pops in my head I just see red. I wish I could do something to make sure there's nothing to worry about.

Is this paranoid of me? I feel like I'm overreacting and letting my jealous boyfriend senses kick in, but at the same time I can't help but be worried...

I know our friends would keep her safe. Our friends are the sorts of people who have actually put up with and dealt away with threats like that before, and she's never really alone, but I can't help but worry because...well, because I love her, damn it, and I feel useless being 2 hours away from her right now.

Thoughts?

I don't think it's crazy for you to be worried about her, I know I would be. This guy just sounds really weird and I hope he'll learn to bug off.

My boyfriend lives about three hours away, and I like to think he sits up at night, like you, and worries to death about creepy guys talking to me every chance they get. I had a run-in with this guy about a month ago actually, and he's always making me depressed. Of course, my friends and bf had my back and kept me safe.

You're a pretty good guy, don't sweat it.

As a guy who has acted like the bad guy in this scenario, I would say you are perfectly in your right to be worried. In fact, he should probably seek help. I ended up doing so and found out I have a weird condition called separation anxiety disorder. Perfectly treatable without meds and all of that, but it requires talking to somebody. Anyway, yea. Be worried, and try to keep your girl away from him until he does something for himself.

One of my close friends went through something similar to this but it was her boyfriend acting crazy. Friends are the best protection she can have if anywhere near as protective as we were with our friend. Hell, I wouldn't even let her walk the sixty seconds it took to get to her car alone and took to carrying some kind of blunt object with us but that's just my own paranoia that makes me extremely protective of the people I care about and ready to fight at a moment's notice. Still, if anything else happens I would suggest having her get a restraining order on the guy. Keep those screenshots as evidence just in case.