So, There is this guy that I am in love with. His name is Connor, We started dating about a year and a half ago. Well, Let me start out from the beginning. I met connor at a local skating joint, and we hit it off. Soon enough he asked me to be his girlfriend after a few dates, and I agreed.

We dated for about 7 months, but I had a problem, and I was the only one who could resolve it, I knew it would hurt him in the process so i broke it off. Little did i know, that I was just absolutely in love with him, and before I could tell him... He told me he had turned gay. I dont know how this happened. We are still friends, infact best friends, But he has no clue how hard it is for me to watch him with his boyfriends.

I know most people say Its better to be friends than nothing at all, and i agree, but Its harder to watch every day. I asked him if he knew he liked men when we were dating, and he told me "No of cource not, I was in love with you Rachael, and I still love you, you were my first love.. but I realised my feelings after we broke up." He knows I still love him, and he and I both feel terrible for it. I guess I will never stop loving him. Every relationship I have had afterwards, the second we get close I pull away.

This just seems like it will never end. I just dont know what to do, say or feel. I love him, so I want to see him happy and all, and i see how happy he is with his boyfriend, and it melts my heart.. because I remember that EXACT look when he would look me in the eyes and tell me he loved me. Almost a year later and I still can't move on. How can I help myself heal? I feel like I have tryed everything.

Man, well.. I can't tell you the right resolution because I've never been in this kind of situation where my bf has turned gay.. I'll give it a try though :D Well..first, maybe you should start to socialize with some new people. It never hurts to say hi to your classmates(: Also, maybe join the chess club, cheerleading, or any other club/sport. Those activities will give you open doors to make new friends. If your not the type to join clubs, then maybe just talk to the people that are already in your class. Who knows, maybe you might hook up with another guy. You know what they say, there's plenty of other fish in the pond. I know, that is very hard to believe because you probably think Connor was the love of your life. But, trust me. There is one guy out there in the world, be it in, Europe, China....anywhere! There is one guy in this world destined to be yours. So, don't lose hope in love. All it takes is time to heal one's heartache. I hope that maybe you'll get over it soon. Or maybe you can talk to me :3 Lol, I'm always open to talk/help people(: Sorry if I didn't help at all.. I'm not that good with advice :/

I actually once had two friends which something like this happen, the one girl liked the guy, he liked her back but down the road he realize he was gay (although, they did not date), but from this day (this happen many many years ago), she is crazy about him, like kind of stalks him in a way. But, I believe this is such because she never let go of him -- I really do think the only way you can move on if you go out and find someone else. Try to make your heart move on, time will heal the wounds and you'll find love again, never give up on love and never close your heart, you never know when you'll find that very special someone just for you =)

I think you should cut yourself off from him for a while.
Not too long, but maybe a week of absolutely no contact - no mentions, no name-dropping, no nothing.
Eventually they'll turn into foggy memories.

Sometimes it's best to just let go in a situation like this.

I personally dated someone who turned out to be gay, and now he's pretty much my best friend. Things were weird and totally awkward while we were dating, and I always had this feeling that something just wasn't right. So when he came out, I was relieved to know that it wasn't me, but it was him. :yes:

I couldn't be happier with how things are now though, because we're better off as BFFs. He gives me clothing advice, and puts up with all my girliness. And I can't wait until he gets a steady boyfriend so that I can harass his boyfriend too. :D

Like you said, you want him to be happy, and in order to do that, you just have to let go. Sure, you'll always have a love for him, but it'll change from passionate love to friendship love in time. It may take a while for you to get over him, but really, it's for the best.

If you need to, take a break from him for awhile, and see how things go.