First off, I'd like to say that I love menewsha and the way that the users are so mature about other's problems. :)

Okay, let me begin explaining what I mean with "he's perfect". To start, a bit of my background:

I'm 18 years old, going to my second year of college. I'm a good student, always getting good grades. I got a scholarship this year (English isn't my first language, so I'm not sure if it's called a "scholarship" when the college pays for your studies, but yeah.)

I'm the kind of girl who stays at home, goes out with her friends at least 2 times a month (if allowed, which I think it sucks but that's a topic for another day). Overprotected by parents, friends and everyone who I know. I don't know how to make friends, (I kinda got stuck in that kind of development after highschool) but I stay friends with those that do make it.

On to the guy.

I went to my best friend's house a few days ago, with my laptop. We were both using the computers, (looking for pics to show each other), and on facebook. I added a guy I knew from high school (not a close friend, but someone who was well-known by most of my friends). He's the kind of guy most girls will agree and call him "drool-worthy", to put it bluntly.

I was excited that I had found him, so I told my best friend. She was chatting with him ATM, so she told him to accept my friend request. That's where he asked her if I was single, if I was nice, and overall trying to gather some info on me. My friend and I giggled like the hopelessly romantics we are, and she just told him that I was avaliable.

We started chatting, until his internet died. He went to his friend's house and connected to ask for my number. I gave it to him, (I kinda knew him, you know?), and he called. The first few times he did, it was at 1am. He scared the living hell out of me, but we still talked for a while until I told him that my bedtime was at 9:00 - 10:00, and that I wouldn't accept anymore calls.

He said it was fine, apologized, and called earlier, like 7:00am. I felt like murdering him, but just laughed it off. I told him my "daily schedule" and the time of his calls got regulated. Sadly, he called me at least 20 times a day (not lying, btw). I have 15 voicemails in three days! All from him!

He just calls to ask me about my day, to see if I'm okay, and he says that he just wants to make me laugh. He's well-mannered, apologizes almost for everything if he thinks I find it offensive. He calls me "princess" or something along those lines whenever I answer the phone. He's the kind of guy who looks like... hm... well, that he's usually out in the street doing no good, but he cries with Disney movies and Pokemon like a child. (I find that funny, cute and slightly creepy).

We went out for my best friend's birthday yesterday. She had to go do some College paperwork, and then afterwards we could go to the mall. Through out the day, he payed attention to me, and more than once I caught him staring. I asked him what his deal was, and he just said "I'm sorry, it's just that, well, you're pretty." He even gave me a plushy before we dropped him off at his house.

My problem is: even though he's sweet and everything, I've never had a guy interested in me (or at least in the way that he is). I'm scared that it's all a sugar-coated act, since I have no experience with guys what-so-ever.

Is it normal for him to call me so many times, and at that time at the first times? (It's only like once a day now, but still.)
Is he just trying to get in my pants, or do you think he's really interested?

Any sort of advice would be greatly appreciated.

Calling you 20 times a day is fairly excessive, and I don't know why you would try to call someone at 1:00 AM. Or 7:00 AM, for that matter. Perhaps he got a bit zealous about talking to you? That's really the only rational explanation I can think of.
It does sort of strike me as a red flag that the first thing he asked about was you being single. What was his dating reputation like in high school? Did he go through tons of girls or hardly any? I wouldn't entirely write him off as looking to get in your pants because without knowing him it sounds like he could just be... misguided, but I would be kind of cautious.

Well, he said that he didn't know that I was asleep at that time. He excused himself by saying that he used to work at a fast food restaurant (the night shift) for two years, and that messed up his sleeping schedule. He says it slipped his mind that I was probably sleeping (which I don't believe... most people are sleeping at that time, right?).

He called me at 7:00am, because I mentioned that I was up by then (I take my little brother to school, so I'm get up early). Oh, and Fabby, it wasn't the first thing he asked about me, but it was along those lines... I guess it doesn't make much of a difference, I just want that clarified.

His dating reputation? Well, I think that he had a girlfriend in highschool but they had a very messed up break up around eight months ago. I'm not sure about what happened, but she ended up with his best friend a few days after their break up.

I'm not sure if I'm just being paranoid, or if it's no big deal. I mean, I don't have any dating experience, and I wouldn't want something like this to turn out atrocious. I've told him about the calls, and now he calls me once or twice a day. (Twice if I can't/don't answer the first time). He says he wants for us to go out as friends again, but I don't think I'm ready to spend some alone time with him just yet. I would like to go out with my other friends as well, because it can be easier to change the subject if I feel to awkward and out of place.

Sadly, college starts next Monday, so going out will be hard. (He offered to go to college with me, but I don't think its a good idea.)

Actually, I think it's completely normal and adorable that he calls you that much, it just means he really wants to talk to you. I see nothing wrong with him calling you that much and at the time he does. In fact, with my boyfriend (whom I've been with almost three years now), before we started to date, he would call me a few times just to see if I was up and all that, and kept calling me every so during the day until I was up. We would talk a lot over the phone during the days, and at night we would talk for hours, I remember we talked one time until 7AM, and that was when he asked me out.
You should not judge him by his past girlfriends or dates, or anything like that. You shouldn't.

My boyfriend dated more girls than I dated guys, it's not like we knew we would fall completely in love with each other, no. It just happened.

If he was trying to get in your pants, he wouldn't call you.
My very first boyfriend just wanted that, we never talked on the phone, we would only talk via AIM every now and than, and I remember the first time he tried (I told that fool no, hahah), the next day he broke up with me just to go out with a little girl. Trust me, this guy just doesn't want that.

He's totally got a crush on you. :D Anyone who lavishes that much attention on you, but doesn't make a move on you right away, wants more than just to get into your pants. :yes: I think it'd be worthwhile to get to know him/date him. He may turn out to be 'the one'.

Thanks guys, I guess you're right. I try not to judge people, honestly. I don't want to focus too much on his past, because well, it's the past. I do tend to look back to see if he's into serious relationships or just to pass the time. I'm just feeling very insecure about myself at this point, because I'm scared to be hurt. I find it hard to believe that someone could be interested in someone like me. (I consider myself plain and boring, but that's my opinion...) It's just... I always thought that I'd be the loner, you know? :\