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Feeling lonely and slightly depressed.
I'm not in complete depression, lets just say that I have been feeling pretty pleasant and happy the past few weeks/maybe one or two months, that feeling down is such a contrast it feels horrible. My dog is dying, but even then, I was still quite up and about, but I guess with everything pulling me down bit by bit, I only needed one more thing to pull me under. ---------- Quote:
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I just realized, this might need to be moved to the Life Issues. O_O |
I've gone ahead and moved this over to the Life Issues Forum. :)
Even though this one seems to be superfluous to the thread, please remember that all copy/pasted IM conversations must be put within quote tags. These guys ---> [quote][/quote] Thanks. |
Oh right, sorry Captain Howdy. Will do.
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--Please disconsider this. I was being stupid--
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I feel that way all the time! What helps me get through and still be cheery and optimistic is to surround myself with different hobbies.
Right now, I play video games, scour the web for obscure rap artists, surf the web, surf Menewsha, find hole in the wall restaurants, and other various little fun things. And it doesn't hurt that I'm a people person. Anyway, best wishes and good fortunes to you! |
Sane, you explain your thoughts so well... its shocking to see such an explanation of why one is feeling down, and be able to explain -why-! I wont change the topic to me, but your situation is very similar to mine, at least with the guy problems... I know what it feels like to be really close with a guy friend and not want to leave him for another guy... I think that if you guys are really good friends, then he will know that he had his chance, and will stand by you anyways if you go for another guy in real life... It sucks that you do not live close to the people you know anymore... that must be tough... and theres not much that can fix that exactly. We all know life has to go on though ^__^ good luck in your future *hands you a cricket* :)
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Thanks Izzy and Invictus, I feel a lot better with your comments. I have a question though.
You were right invictus, the first guy was completely fine with it. The only problem is, I feel as though the second guy kind of looks below me, as though he's superior to me. Maybe its my clingyness, but i really feel like he isn't interested me, and at the same time, do not want to confront him because i don't want him to know of my feelings, because he said I was too young and it was illegal in his country (im 15, he's eighteen turning nineteen in two months) and yeah, I don't know what to do. |
Maybe you feel that way because you actually like your guy friend more than you thought you originally did... I think a girls intuition should speak the loudest, especially if you are feeling some kind of disconnect with this guy, and have negative feelings about yourself by feeling like he is superior to you. And I must say, I would have no interest in someone who worries about age and basically says I am too young to date them. They wouldnt be worth my time~ of course, this goes back to your feeling of clingyness... you dont want to have this opportunity leave even though it probably should. This is also why you feel down (most likely) since I've had some pretty low moments this past month for about the same reason as your situation implies...
I hope I don't ramble too much and there's something helpful in that, Sane :hug: |
I've largely given up on internet relationships. I have tried them several times in the past and one in particular with a girl who strangely enough you remind me of. Her name was Wendy...and the sad part about it was that I ended up hurting her because I couldn't handle the distance.
At the time I had gotten together with her I had been going through a hard time in which my Ex girlfriend...or rather Ex Fiancee had moved away and was persuing random guys, experiementing with drugs. And Had eventually fallen in love and I had become her vent for all the shitty things in her life as well as the things an ex boyfriend who is still in love with you should NEVER have to hear...but I gritted my teeth and dealt with it. Wendy helped me with that and I ended up loving her. But eventually I made mistakes and around the beginning of the year we had broken up but unknown to me was the fact that she still wanted to try... Meanwhile I was in constant contact with my Ex, whom my feelings for I had until then managed to Burry. But we began to get close again as her and her boyfriend...ermm or rather when she became sick of her boyfriend for being the lying cheating drugged up asshole that he was. She came to visit me. Sparks flew and we began to try a relationship again. Unfortunetly...it was destined to fall apart again. And now I go night after night and wait for her to call me and complain about her newest boyfriend who in fact is going to jail for selling Cocaine (god she knows how to pick em doesn't she v.v) She never wanted anything more to do with the drug world but she had fallen for him to hard..now she doesn't know what to do. And the hardest part of it all is trying to put aside my own feelings for her even though she sometimes says she misses me and loves me. All to give her a shoulder to cry on and try and give her advice... and I think in fact I am slowly losing my mind... You have my sympathies Sane... and you have my hugs *hugs* |
But the thing is, I may be completely wrong about everything. Hell, he could not even like me for all I know (i just finished talking to him about an hour ago, he says he goes for mature people, and then said, 'you seem mature'... is that what i think it means? I mean, the whole actual convo sounds a bit different if i told you. we play this thing - which is lame but whatever - where you have to tell the truth, and i won't go into how you play or what, as long as you know why i asked him. but i asked what his honest opinion was on me, and he replied with 'You're an interesting, cute and fun individual :) I enjoy talking to you a lot' and I asked what about bad qualities, and he said i was little impatient, and that it was too bad i was 15. Somehow, that sounds like he would have dated me, but if I was older - tell me if I'm wrong! So I asked him how old i had to be, and he said 17. I asked him if he would date me if i was older, and he replied with if you were closer as well, then yes. Then I asked him why the age 17, why not younger, and he said it was illegal in his country, and i told him i knew one of my friends who was 15 was going out with a 22 year old. He then said that he tended to go for maturity, and then wrote after you seem be mature. I don't know what to make of this.)
I'm starting to think he has nothing for me at all. I mean, i'm usually the one who takes loads of time replying on msn for example, because i'm usually on mene or gaia surfing and doing whatever as well as talking to multiple convo's, but with this guy, its like I get impatient if he doesn't reply on time. I don't like it. ---------- Darn Taru, I'm sorry for that. And yeah, the thing is, I'm an outcast in real life, because in my school its mostly all about weed and sex, and i'm not completely into that. And well, those people don't meet strangers online, they meet them in clubs. So I end up meeting people who relate to me, which is unfortunately on the internet. |
Honey, I don't like it either... you sound "stuck" .... and I really want to emphasize how much your situation is like how mine is. Try not to put into perspective two individuals- in this case your real life friend and the guy you talk to on the internet with. Now, with the online guy~ he seems to wish you were at a dating age, which also might mean he wants to be more than just an online relationship~ If you enjoy talking to him as much as he does you, then dont feel like your being clingy in that sense. :) It's nice to have a person to talk to that has the basic same interest as you~
With feeling impatient... I'm not sure. It depends on how you used to be with the guy it didnt work out with. If you talked with him a lot and dont anymore, for example. That may make you want to fill the void? Tough one there >.o Either way :) You seem very intelligible and nice~ so I wouldn't worry too much on what anyone else thinks of you :) |
Ah but the thing is, I don't know if you understand, the close friend is over the internet as well. And with him, he gets really impatient with me (XD) and I'm starting to think he feels the same way I do to the second guy. Pretty much. I just don't know whether i should confront the second guy, drop him, or just continue talking to him. Maybe toning the clingyness (what he calls impatience) down?
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Sadly I know the feeling. I'm a fair bit older then you, i'm 21 and the sad bit of it is I've been surfing the internet since I was your age because I have nothing really better to do. My life is rather crap and i'm not really going anywhere. And I live in a relatively small town out in the middle of nowhere away from friends and with no way to get out to do anything really amazing. So I have a bit of the same Dilemma though as i've gotten older I'll admit I developed more adult tastes like Drinking, sex, and a little bit of smoking. Though I never wanted to be one of those people who need all of them, Moderation is a good thing >3> |
Sane, I am 19 and started a friend relationship with a guy I actually -live- with :) Now that sounds a bit odd, but its how the both of us communicate~ we aren't very social in real life. But we -have- to keep it "just friends" for several reasons.
With your two relationships online, I think you need to make very clear to the one guy, Guy A lets say, that seems impatient for the same reasons you are with Guy B, as you think, that you are only after him for friendship~ with Guy B, the one you -want- to be more serious with but think that he feels restricted by your age but thinks you are mature, maybe step back for a minute and think whether or not you -are- too young for him. See if friendship works before serious relationship does, then you'll know what exactly he is after~ Sorry if this is not very helpful :) <3 |
That is definitely helpful. I know that Guy A knows I'm only after friendship. As for Guy B, I'm kind of drawing back a bit, giving a bit more space, making myself busy so I don't have to wait for replies, and seeing how a friendship would be. Thank you guys, I will update what happens if you would like to know ><
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I'd love to know. ^__^ Good luck!
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