okay maybe here...
 

i had this posted in the other one til i saw this...

looks at ground* i need some advice..
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*sighs* ok heres the deal... a year ago my fiance was working on a car with his buddys girlfriend. i was at workk all the time then.
it used to just be the two of them at the empty house together, workin on the subaru alone together while im at work and he wouldnt tell me when he got there only affter . no big deal though cause i trusted him to not hide anythin from me cause i didnt trust this girl with me man... but i trustED him so. its cool

anyway he told me a few months ago that he was secretly talking to her behind my back cause he needed some advice bout OUR relationship.
(thats kinda not cool but its ok)
but he wont tell me what they talked about, the main thing is that he hid talkin to her from me. and it was about us... why hide it and lie about it when asked??
. the only thing i can get out of him is that he needed advice cause we were fighting then.... but now he says he cant remember what the advice was

... but he said it helped us...ok.....

he swears nothing happened between them and he gest mad when i ask him about it... or even when i ask about her!.
he told me he gets mad cause he doesnt want me hangin out with her cause she two timed her man. but he wont tell me how he is so sure she cheated..i know she didnt tell him that cause her man and my man are friends.

*sighs again and shakes head*

i dont mean to sound whiney i just dont know if i should drop. he said it helped our relationship cause we were fightin pretty bad then... but thats the thing... we were fighting when he was alone talking with her and now he cant remember what it was that went between them cause "it was a llong time ago..." i knwo i forget things too but if it was a big deal would it be easy to forget?? should i just drop this whole complicated out of the ordinary situation and let our lives play out happily ever after... or should i try to get my questions unanswered?


*closes eyes and feels weird for asking this*

its ok if you guys dont know what to say im just in a stump. i really dont think he would do anything cause he is the most loyal man i ever met... but idk'

Ok yeah- I posted in your other thread, but just ignore that. But anyway I'll try best I can with advice. I've been through something like this too; and it's not the best situation to be in.. You have to do what you feel right, do you feel like he's done things with this girl? Because sometimes- you have to follow what you feel inside. Though you may feel mixed up with conflict you want to know that answer. Sometimes the answer is right there within our face, but to us we're to blind to see..

Usually when I'm in a relationship- I have full trust in him, but it seems that its girls that are the lectures.. I don't want to just be a bitch and say- well maybe there could be a threesome going on there, because that would seem a tad strange.. If he doesn't like you asking him about her, then there is obviously something wrong there.. In my experience guys that have cheated before- will always cheat again.. And then there are the guys that.. Are more to themselves- and end up getting bored with their GF so they go for some other person..

I really hope things go well- I wish the best for you.. If you need anything else; you could ask me. I'll try my best to give some advice.

If you honestly feel strongly that there may be something up between them to, you need to say something - I mean; if he doesn't like you asking about her or anything like that and gets mad at you; kind of seems that way. Maybe you should tell him to stop spending so much time with her?
I kind of agree with what has been said up there though I don't believe what she said about once a cheater, always a cheater - because that is completely untrue, since I've been in such experience.