How do you feel when your girlfriend, or boyfriend, talks about her/his EX a lot? I want to elaborate but I don't know how to. My apologies :|

~ I'm trying to feel indifferent about it but there's a time when I reached the 'YOU-ARE-NOW-HAVING-GREEN-EYES-STOP-PRETENDING" point and I had to log out in the middle of our messenger discussion to avoid anymore.. of course.. discussion :| I don't know how to tell her that I'm getting jealous, I feel it's just me, being totally immature but I'm not a robot that's always programmable :/

Discussing an ex is ok to a certain extent, and discussing similarities along with differences is also important to be included, but if the person keeps bringing it up there may be some unresolved issues of hurt, resentment, and anguish that plague your partner's mind. Being sensitive is important but at the same time being compared to someone else is not easy to deal with and sometimes you just have to be up front and tell them how it makes you feel in a non threatening way.

Unfortunately, the only way to resolve any issue in a relationship is to talk about it. Jealousy is an issue that does need to be dealt with, though, b/c it's one of the most common reasons people's relationships can't progress (or end).

How does your significant other talk about their ex? Is it complaining? Compairing? Longing? What is being said may cue you into why they are saying it.

Sometimes I feel a little jealous when my man talks about his exes, but I try to keep in mind that he's with ME now and if he wanted to be with her instead of me, he would be.