Yesterday.

We were going to get married. He proposed to me and everything.

It was out of the blue. We had been really happy for 3 months, we fought for two days, and then it was over. He said that he couldn't be with me anymore. He turned off his phone and since we're long distance that's pretty much all that I've spoken to him.

My heart is shattered into a million pieces. I've been crying all day and I know I'm not going to be okay for a very, very long time. I am so hurt . . . . so upset. I feel so betrayed.

He broke up with me because of the distance. He couldn't move here and I said I'd move there, but that it would be hard for me and he basically couldn't take that. =( So he broke-up with me.

We were literally compatible in every other way and although other people always say things like,"No guys are like Edward Cullen" from Twilight, my boyfriend was. Calling me a delicate flower, complimenting me every day, telling me he loved me . . . . even after all these years. He got more loving all the time until he suddenly broke-up with me.

Now I feel like crap. I'm not going to find someone who loved me and accepted me like he did ever again. He'll probably move on, but I'm scared that I won't.

I thought I got lucky . . . . meeting a guy when I was so young and us feeling like we were soul-mates. Now I am 24 and it's over.

He was my first love and my first relationship.

I know that I need to just go out there and busy myself a lot and do a lot of things to get over it and distract myself with people and stuff, so I don't want that advice, please, because I already know it. I just want . . . . sympathy I guess and maybe similar stories of your own experiences. Maybe some friends or whatever too.

I don't want to sound cheesy and all, but it was your first love after all. And you are still young! 24? Pah, you're on top of the world in those years. It hurts, of course it's going to. You were with him for five years and now it's all gone. It's okay to cry and it's okay to feel upset, take the time you need to grieve the loss and feel upset. But know that it's not the end of the world. You will love again, you will feel that feeling again, and you'll find someone else you like. It may take some time, but you will.

Long distance relationships are hard, I know, I am in one. I'm horrible at giving advice, sorry :sweat:

Oh man, I am so sorry! I just went through something similar. I was only with my boyfriend for a year and two months though. But it was the exact same situation. He was a completely doting boyfriend, everyone thought we were inseperable. He also promised me marriage, that we'd grow old together and have kids and live our lives together. We were happy, and out of the blue, he dumps me. Why? Because he tells me that he doesn't have feelings for me anymore, that I never support him(which is a lie.), and that he has feelings for his ex- who I might add is a close friend AND was my roommate during the trip which he broke up with me! I'm still devastated and I wish I could be more helpful to you, but I'm still suffering tremendously. He was also my first relationship and my first love. It's gotten so bad that I can't even taste food anymore. So I know what you're going through, even if it's at a smaller scale.

I'm sorry everything is hurting for you right now. *huggles*

I had something similar happen to me with a boyfriend I had. We were in a long distance relationship - him in Australia, and me in the USA - and had been dating for over a year. Everything was going great, and I was going to fly to AU to visit him as soon as I had all the money saved up. And then he cheated on me with his ex girlfriend and tried to blame me for it!

And so the relationship ended and I figured that I would never be loved again and would grow old alone. I honestly thought that I would turn into the crazy cat lady. I stopped eating, just stopped showing up to work, and zombied my way through classes. (I was a freshman in college at the time and he was my first boyfriend.)

So I gave up on looking for love, deciding that it hurt too much to bother with. After a little while someone better came along and I ended up not becoming the crazy cat lady. Things worked out and I married the guy 2 years ago.

I guess what I am trying to say is that we all hurt when things do not work out, but eventually things will be ok. I promise.

Thanks you guys for your stories. They really helped to read them.

LOL. I keep thinking of myself as an old maid for some reason. I don't feel young and I need to remind myself that I am young.

Funny, almost the exact same thing happened to me. I live in Florida, he lives in Canada. Granted we weren't together as long as ya'll were. He had even flown me up and I got to spend a whole entire week with him. But, one day out of the blue, we had this stupid fight and he said he couldn't do this anymore.

It's tough, girlie. This happened back in June and I still cry about it. I've told myself that I'd never date another man, but....it gets lonely. I want a family. You have to do what's best for you, you have to live your dreams. Even if he can't be a part of them.

Originally Posted by AyameK

Funny, almost the exact same thing happened to me. I live in Florida, he lives in Canada. Granted we weren't together as long as ya'll were. He had even flown me up and I got to spend a whole entire week with him. But, one day out of the blue, we had this stupid fight and he said he couldn't do this anymore.

It's tough, girlie. This happened back in June and I still cry about it. I've told myself that I'd never date another man, but....it gets lonely. I want a family. You have to do what's best for you, you have to live your dreams. Even if he can't be a part of them.

I hope that I can get passed it as soon as possible and not keep crying. >_<

I don't really want to have a family with another man either, but I really want a family and love, so I'm still going to try and find it eventually someday somewhere.

Originally Posted by The Enchanted Tiara

I hope that I can get passed it as soon as possible and not keep crying. >_<

I don't really want to have a family with another man either, but I really want a family and love, so I'm still going to try and find it eventually someday somewhere.

Hrm, I know, girlie. Like I said, it is tough. But, keep your chin up. Find some friends to go out with. Distract yourself. Even though you've got the sadistic urge to be alone, to keep reminding yourself of what you lost, being out with other people really helps.

Originally Posted by The Enchanted Tiara

Thanks you guys for your stories. They really helped to read them.

LOL. I keep thinking of myself as an old maid for some reason. I don't feel young and I need to remind myself that I am young.

I know what you mean. Experiences like this really make me feel very old and very tired. But like she said, we just gotta find the strength to move on and continue living. It's very hard, but I know you can do it. I'm still struggling, but I've got the support of my friends, so I know I'll be okay in time. And you can too. You just gotta keep moving forward.

I find it interesting that no one has brought up the possibility that you two might get back together. I'm sorry if it's too much to think about, but you were going to marry the guy, i would at least give it a thought. Are you not able to talk to him at all right now? It sounds tough. I think things will work out... but I wonder in what way? It is true, do what you can. You will be happy. Even when it feels like you're at the bottom, you laugh when something is really really funny. And when you have your friends, you feel warmer. Hang in there. I wish you the best.

You just gotta keep looking. When I last checked there are over 1 billion people on this planet and 300,000,000 of whom live in the U.S. Plenty of chances to find love. I need to find someone myself.

I feel for you. A long distance relationship can be complicated, I have had that experience. I appologize for the way he treated you, and Hope you heal from this healthy, and steadily. One of my old boyfriends I had dated 3 years. We were supposed to grow older together, get our first appartment together, and had all of these plans. He treated me like edward, always perfect, sweet, I was naive. Later on in the third year I found out that he cheated on me a few times, because I wasn't ready to have sex with him. I am saving myself. Men can be a threat sometimes, wearing great costumes. There is always the possibility, that you to could get back together, or there is always the possibility, you will find someone new. In time ofcourse. It has taken me 2 years, but I found someone who cares for me deeply, and treats me right. The only difference is that now I know better than to plan ahead. Were young, lets live life as it comes, and remember, no matter the obsticals, we always have someone who cares.

No, there is no way we will EVER get back together. He's across the country from me and has officially decided to disappear from my life and make it impossible for me to contact him. He was saying "Let's be friends" before, but has decided not to anymore. He either found someone else or everyone in his life reaffirmed his decision enough times (which I'm positive that they did) and told him to stop speaking to me.

It hurts because I gave him so much and loved him so completely and now he's gone forever. I'll never find someone who loved me and accepted me like he did. I'm scared that I lost my soul mate, except I feel that it is one sided. I know him. He'll move on. He's a wonderful man and will make a VERY LUCKY woman very happy. It hurts so bad. I hate one-sided love.

*Wanders off to leave a "present" in The Enchanted Tiara's exboyfriend's inventory*

I apologize in advance for giving you something that is probably the most insensitive thing you have ever heard:
You've just got to get over that relationship.
It's ended, crying isn't going to do you good, and you've got a whole life ahead of you.

Now let me explain~
You're 24, which is still really young by love standards, and although this guy was perfectly for you... he's gone. And since there's no chance of getting him back, you've just got to get yourself out there. Try some new activities around your town, meet people, and don't just give up! Saying "I'll never find someone who loved me and accepted me like he did." Is one of the most idiotic things I've ever heard.
Yeah, your next relationship won't be similar to the last, but you don't know what they'll be like or if they don't love you as much. Chances are, they'll probably love you more then whats-his-name who moved 'cross state.
This is not the end of the world and you've just got to have fun with your life with/without anyone else. Happiness is achieved through yourself and accepting yourself... something that no man can really provide.
...
Okay... that's enough.
I give you my luck, now go and live. :3

I have already been trying new things, but talking about it and getting it out is also part of the process of getting over it. Trust me, I don't want it to consume my life. And I've actually been worrying certain people by trying to do too much stuff. Like I went on a date already even though I've only been broken up with my five year relationship for two weeks. I hate watching television and stuff right now. All I want to do is stuff . . . . working, talking to people, leaving my house constantly. I hate being home right now, in fact.

But yes, I do know that no one else will love me the same because I have certain disorders and things that people sometimes have trouble looking past when it comes to even being a FRIEND to me, let alone a boyfriend. And I don't have the hot body to make up for it.

I'm just trying to get past (and have been doing that for years before this happened) those disorders and get better and keep them a secret if I can so that I might have a chance with a guy someday maybe. But my last guy is the only guy who will ever love me that way, I'm pretty sure. And I have no guarantee of getting better.

I'm so sorry that happened! -hug-
long distance relationships are very very hard to maintain,
I am in one right now, we are pretty far and the only way I talk to him is texting or over cam,
he's my first love, we've been together for 2 years, I'm stressing on whether or not to end the relationship.
I'm still in school and so is he so neither of us could move and it's scaring me how hard it is to be away from him after living together for 8 months. I don't want to end it but if I can't move up there within the next two years I'm going to have to ):

(kinda similar story I guess)

Originally Posted by ShelleBear

I'm so sorry that happened! -hug-
long distance relationships are very very hard to maintain,
I am in one right now, we are pretty far and the only way I talk to him is texting or over cam,
he's my first love, we've been together for 2 years, I'm stressing on whether or not to end the relationship.
I'm still in school and so is he so neither of us could move and it's scaring me how hard it is to be away from him after living together for 8 months. I don't want to end it but if I can't move up there within the next two years I'm going to have to ):

(kinda similar story I guess)

Very similar. I mean, that's a big part of the reason why we broke up in the end. Not all of it, but a big part of it.