I have a small issue with my love life. I've never been the most affectionate girl around and I have no experience what so ever. Almost all the boys I know aren't kind to me at all... so is it normal that if I start to befriend a guy I kind of become attracted to them? I don't know if it's horomones or what, but I feel the urge to be closer to a guy when they're nice to me. That's normal, right? It's not like it happens over night of course. I've had to know them about a good three months before I feel anything. But still, this is an issue isn't it? I already have a boyfriend but yet, other guys attract me. Please tell me that's noraml.

Of course that is normal - liking people is in our nature, and its just the way we are.
Liking other guys is natural - even when dating someone - the differences come in when you start acting on those feelings.

If from afar your thinking "Dam, that guy is hot!" While holding hands with your boyfriend, its okay.
Now - when you go behind your boyfriends back to make out with this hot guy, it becomes wrong.

Its only natural to be attracted to other people, again, it just comes to how you deal with it and how you cope with it.
I think that as long as you are not throwing yourself at other guys while dating someone its all fine and dandy. Even further, if you and your boyfriend really trust each other and this all depends on how comfortable you are with him and all - maybe you can talk about these kind of things? I know a couple that does. They rate other people ...etc.. but in the end are loyal two, and only love, one another.

Hope this helps,
Smores.

Smores says it quite well... that while it's okay to look at other guys, and hormones kinda do their own thing whether us humans like it or not so... XD
Just make sure that you don't act out these urges or desires that come to mind and it should be all okay.

One thing you could try is when you see someone that you are "attracted to", think of ways your current boyfriend trumps them, and it might help you to keep your mind on him instead of the attractive guy you saw/met.

Also... if you're like 13-18 or so your hormones are probably going haywire like they do with most people that age, so it is normal =)

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Totally normal.

In high school, I had a crush on almost every one of my guy friends at some point or another. I didn't have a boyfriend back then, but I'm sure if I had, I would still have been attracted to my guy friends, simply because they were cool guys who enjoyed hanging out with me. :D

Originally Posted by Sizzla

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Totally normal.

In high school, I had a crush on almost every one of my guy friends at some point or another. I didn't have a boyfriend back then, but I'm sure if I had, I would still have been attracted to my guy friends, simply because they were cool guys who enjoyed hanging out with me. :D

I was the exact same way in high school.

I see nothing wrong with being attracted to guys/girls whether you are single or not. But I have to agree with what Smores said about acting on the impulses if you are with someone. My boyfriend and I have made comments to each other about if we find someone attractive but it doesn't change the fact that we love only each other.

But I'm wondering... You're falling for how these guys treat you more than their looks, correct? I think that could mean that since you have a boyfriend (and I'm assuming he makes you happy), you just really enjoy the good feelings that the other guy friends give you and that maybe you're mistaking that for attraction.

Thank you! That reallly helped out. I'm so glad to know that it's normal. ^^" I can't really get solid advice from any of my other friends since they're all as clueless as I am. :lol:

its normal i feel this way all the time

Originally Posted by Lexicon of Randomness

Thank you! That reallly helped out. I'm so glad to know that it's normal. ^^" I can't really get solid advice from any of my other friends since they're all as clueless as I am. :lol:

Well, glad we could be of assistance!

Yeah, that's pretty normal!
Feeling attracted to somebody is just part of being human
Don't worry about it!

That's totally a normal thing...as for me i was attracted in a guy for almost 10 years...it is normal liking him, but it aint normal i think to wait for someone for almost 10 long years. Well, as they've said its a human nature.

It's very normal to feel attracted so someone who shows kindness when you're surrounded by negativity. I cant really say from experience, being that I'm asexual, but on rare occasions do I feel attracted to someone. [Like right now. I'm in love with someone I hated for two years because he was a butthead when we first met. He's now also my best friend. Hurr. xD]

If anyone tells you it's not normal, don't believe them. Being attracted to someone is built inside of us. We seek companionship and we even search for a prince charming/princess. c: