ok this has been bothering me for the past few hours...
Say your staying with your "friend" because your house is being renovated.
then she wants you to pay 120$ every two weeks, knowing that you make like 300 in two weeks and maybe 180 the next 2 weeks. and you pretty much never eat there, only eat snacks and subs that you buy. never dirty dishes except maybe a cup and lil plate and maybe a spoon. and your never there only on days you have to work the nex morning, and even then you only go there to sleep. and while your there, the couple argue and swear at each other right in front of you every day almost every hour or even half hour, and even swear at their lil kid. they're all nice to you but then you find out that they tell you sibling that you can at least pick up a vacume and do dishes, and not use up their cell phone minutes on trying to find out where your "stupid dog" is. 3 lil minutes, when you know youve bought like 40 mins. even though you almost never use their phone, and its the only phone they have. and they dont appreciate the money you give em, even though it goes to their junk food/take out/clothes...

how would you feel?

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id be thinking, they talk about everyone else behind their backs, why wont they talk about me behind mine, and you find out they do. id feel flippin pissed right the eff off.

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when my sis and i stayed together she would ask or tell me to help clean, or whatw ould i rather do, the dishes or the floors. she didnt go behind my back and bitch. she would tell or ask me straight up. no probs, secrets, nuhhing.

Hmm... sounds like home XD *does most of the chores in the house and mother complains that I don't do anything/take advantage of her*

If a friend started charging me rent knowing it was just while my house got fixed up... I'd probably find somewhere else to stay... that environment isn't healthy

Also might I add... >.>" that family has issues... if they scream at each other and their kids right in front of company...

I'm going to move this over to Life Issues, as I think it's more appropriate for that forum. :yes:

How can you afford a house if you only make $600 a month?

If you usually live with your parents (in the house being renovated), why are you not staying wherever they are staying?

Maybe try staying with a co-worker instead?

I hate people like that. Reminds me of my boyfriend's parents. I stayed at their house for a measly two weeks to visit my boyfriend and they went and talked about me behind my back. But my boyfriend told me everything they said. They are idiots if they thought he wouldn't. They complained about the stupidest little things and about me not cleaning up after dinner or something like that. Yet they never mentioned to me that they would like some help. Had his mom asked for my help, I would have gladly given it. Given the fact that my boyfriend and his brother weren't really helping around the house from what I could tell, I didn't really think about it. Sometimes just politely asking someone solves the problem. I do think that if you are living with someone for an extended amount of time you should offer to help out, it's really only fair. But before talking about you behind your back I think they should have brought it up to you first.

Some friend. She shouldn't charge you rent. That's just kinda lame.

How long are you staying with your "friend"?
Even so, it seems like you're going out of your way to not take up any expenses. You buy your own food, you clean up after yourself, and you even offered to pay for the minutes that you use up on their phone.
I think your "friend" feels entitled that you pay them back for letting you stay at their home.
I think they're taking advantage of it, considering how 2-faced they sound.

I would confront them - tell them what you've heard and what you've been doing to make your presence as non-existent as possible. Then I would leave and find another place to stay. I know that's easier said than done, but I'm sure you'll be able to stay with a family member or a friend who wouldn't charge you. And even if they do, I doubt it would be as high as $120 every 2 weeks, considering your income.

But yea I would be pissed.

first off who ever acts like that is messed up and probably really arent good friends if they treatin some one like that second off i would be so mad and fed up with all there drama and i also feel bad for the kid i wouldnt be able to wait for the moment i could get out of there and back in the own seurity of my own home where i dont get back stabed and talked down by some one who i thought was my friend

I would confront them and talk about what is being said about you, then leave. That is not a friend if they want rent that high for just taking you in while your place is unlivable at the moment thats just wrong. The fact that they want you to pay rent is wrong on it's own. How they act in your presence is asThe Wandering Poet said, it is unhealthy to stay there longer than you have to.

I would say you start asking around as in family, co-workers, and other friends to stay with them until the renovation is complete.

I would find some where else to stay, if you can. That's a lot of money to pay for living somewhere while your house is being redone. I pay $400 a month and own my own house. About the arguing, you can't do much about problems inside the family. If they start saying things about you then I would for sure say something to them. I know how annoying it is to stay with someone and have them complain even though you clean up after yourself and pay.

thanx all. i didnt know if i was overreacting. but im out of there now. my mom has been staying at the house while the reno is being done. my "friend" kept telling me "you cant stay there. where are you going to stay?" so i went there, but im out back at home. theyre finished doing the windows so it wont be cold and theyll start the basment floor, so we'll live upstairs. my good friend, said that i can stay with them while the bathroom is being done. and she as well said that i was paying too much and had a feeling they would do that to me.
i asked another friend to help me move my stuff out and she did. when we go there, my "friend" didnt say hi, just "you know you still owe me money." in the snottiest attitude. i told her i know. then on the second trip again no hi, just "when are you going to pay me?" again with the attitude. but what ever, im back home.
i dont have my own room anymore, but i feel at home. i have contact to the outside world here. ^_^
thanx for all your comments they are luffed ^_^

I'd feel kinda pissed at the friend I'm living with.
I mean, c'mon...you guys are friends! And according to you, you don't even use that much stuff of hers.
That's how I'd feel

yeh. i used my own towels and shampoo and soap. and i dont eat in the morning, so when i get up i get ready then goto work. so i was paying pretty much for storage. and when i went to work her child would go in "my room" and play with my stuff, leave his toys in there. oh well its over now ^_^

oh that "friend" of yours has some serious issues. i say you shouldn't pay your friend back. she was charging you too much for what you make, plus you didn't use up a whole lot of stuff. if you being there bothered them so much they should have said something.
i think you should be the good friend and actually share with them how bad the stay was and how ridiculous she is in even thinking you owe her money. :] this may come off as mean but a real friend would not do that to you.

No matter whether your friend is being fair or not, it's obvious you feel stressed in the situation you're currently in. If I were you I'd try and find a different and better friend to stay with.

And really? Charging you that much considering how little you make? No way. This is just me, but I wouldn't pay her anything back, especially if she had such a snotty attitude when telling you to.