i really need some advice with this situation that ive run into.

Okay, so my boyfriend is 16, im 14. Thats not an issue right?

anyway...we recently did some stuff behind my moms back. She read my texts and the only thing she knows is that he came to the house, not what we did. If she finds out what we did, i would never be able to see him again. It wasnt anything bad. Really, it wasnt. and today i told him what we did made me feel uncomfortable. He completely understands.

I dont know what to do because i really like him, but i hate lying to my mom. What should i do???

Well knowing what you did would help figure out how serious it is. I'm not really too sure how "not bad" it was, as it seems it must have been at least a little bad if you don't want to tell your mom about it.

I don't think thats a very big age difference, so I personally don't consider it a big deal.
But if I were in your shoes, I would still tell my mom. Family is the most important thing in my opinion. I don't really keep anything from my parents because I love and respect them, and believe that by doing so, they'll do the same in return to me.

Since you won't say what you did, it's hard to answer this. I can only assume that you did something sexual. I don't think the age difference is a big deal, it's only two years. But I think you are too young to be doing anything like that with him. I'm not sure whether you should tell your mom or not. I don't know how responsible you are. I generally think people's sex lives are their own business, but I'm ten years older than you and don't have any reason to talk about such things with my parents. When you're that young, there's things you may not know or problems that could happen. If you end up pregnant or with an STD, you'll have to tell your mom anyway, since at that age you probably couldn't handle those situations on your own. I really think it isn't a good idea to engage in such activities until you are old enough and responsible enough that you don't have to worry about telling your mom, or getting in trouble for it. I think the main thing I would advise you is to just not do it again. Wait until you are older, you will regret it if something bad happens because of it. Of course, this is assuming that that's what you did... Again, since you didn't say, I don't know, and I could be completely wrong about what you did. Just that that's what it sounds like you did since you're so secretive about it.

You need to be honest with her.

No boy is worth sacrificing a good relationship with your mother.

I'm sure if you tell her yourself instead of waiting for her to find out, she'll be far more understanding. It is heartbreaking when someone close to you keeps a secret, and you have to find out about it on face-book, or through family gossip.

I mean, what is the worst that can happen? She makes you stop seeing him? Big deal, if you love each other. Then you can wait another 4 years and then you can be together regardless of how she feels.

I just helped my friend get a boyfriend that's two year's younger than her. : ) I don't know him very well but I'm hoping he's a lot better than the jerk that she'd been crushing on before would have been for her. Age is just a number. And it's not like you're going out with a littele elementry kid or something. Age may be a number but at some point it gets a bit creepy. x)

As for your relationship with your mother.. hm. Well i'm 16 as well and I think it'd depend on what I did to make me tell my mom. I think if it's something simple like making out or even a little light touching, I don't think it's much of a big deal. Just make clear to her that you didn't do anything beyond that. However if you /did/ do something beyond that, (and I'm going off of what I would do x) ) I would find some time when you are both in reasonable moods and when you'd have a good amount of time to talk and tell her that you want her to know that you value being honest with her and admit that you did do something however you were uncomfortable with it anyway. Tell her how upset you'd be if she didn't let you see him again. That's what I'd do anyway. x)

I know how you feel. I dont have an official boyfriend but i have a very good boy friend who i love very much and he loves me but nothing is official yet. Im 14 and he is 16. im in 8th grade and he is in 11th. I dont think about the age difference when i talk to him but i cant tell my mother cuz im not allowed to date anyways. We talk about some things that might get me in trouble but we never do anything, in fact i havnt seen him in like a month cuz i only get to see him at school things that both middle school and high schoolers can go to. so the last time i saw him was at the last football game of the high school season which was a while ago. I dont really know what to tell you but i can tell you that you arnt alone and if you need someone to talk to just PM me or something ^_^