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Old 01-04-2011, 11:10 PM

So me and my boyfriend are involved in this RP and our characters, which we have based on ourselves, fell for each other. Well last night his character proposed to my character. Now normally I wouldn't be concerned but I caught a conversation between him and one of my friends on Skype. All three of us are in a group conversation because all three of us are in the RP. And he mentioned to my friend that he's considering proposing to me sometime this year. So I'm a little freaked. I mean I love him, but I don't know if I'm ready for this. Does anyone else think he'll really do it or am I worried over nothing?

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Old 01-04-2011, 11:26 PM

Well if he is talking to others about it, then there is a good chance that he might actually do it. But I do hope that you caught him talking about actual real life instead of the RP itself. But if you think he might do that, then you might wanna have a talk with him about it. Just say that you aren't quite ready for it, and need a little more time to get committed to the idea :3

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Old 01-04-2011, 11:37 PM

You're a little older than I am (by about 6 months).
I'm terrified of getting married. My last long term relationship, I wanted to get married to him so badly...And then one day I was hit like a rock to the face and realized...holy shit...marriage is important! I don't want to rush into it. So I've been very careful and thoughtful about it since then, and even turned town a proposal I was offered in that last long term relationship.

If you're really concerned about it, perhaps you should talk to your boyfriend about it. Don't be all, "I don't want to marry you!" because it sounds like you're not ready to decide, and saying no may realy hurt his feelings if he asks and you say no...talking about it will hopefully help you understand his side, and hopefully help him understand your side.

Remember though - The time between the proposal and the marriage can be as long or as short as you want it.
So, if you decide he's the one for you, but don't want to jump the gun, getting engaged and staying that way for a while is a good stepping stone. Some couples stay engaged for years before they decide to take the final step and get legally married.
Others get engaged and shortly after marry.

But, I cannot stress how important it is that you talk to him about it. I don't think he wants to scare you, but, I think he might be looking at marriage a little differently then you, and straightening out what you want/see in marriage between the both of you, is probably a good step forward.
I would never accept a proposal from someone who I'd never had the "marriage talk" with someone first...I have to know my partner is on the same page as me, or I just wouldn't be comfortable accepting.

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Old 01-06-2011, 03:30 PM



I agree with monstahh' completely. Lack of communication is the downfall of so many relationships, and talking solves pretty much any problem. Be completely honest with him, but be careful to do it in a way that will not hurt him, or presuppose anything. If there's a chance he might have been talking to his friend about in-game proposal, don't be all in his face about it, try to mention your feelings about marriage in conversation without pointing any fingers, or he might get hurt if he feels strongly about it. Ask what he thinks of marriage, for example, to find out. It's not an unusual question to ask in a serious relationship, especially if your characters just got engaged.



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Old 01-25-2011, 08:49 PM

normally guys are secretive about these things i don't think he'll do it. If he does tell him you need more time. good luck:)

 


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