My grandfather, as the title says... is tearing my family apart. I love the man, he almost raised me but... I'm starting to hate him because of this.

Last year we were a nice happy family, a few problems here and there, but nothing big. Everyone would happily get in the car and drive around town, have fun, and spend time together.

But then for some reason, my grandfather just... took a turn for the worse.

You see he is a diabetic. And he has been for many many years. The problem is, as old as he is... there are children under 10 who regulate their diabetes better than he does. He constantly eats sugary food, hordes it in is room, and either doesn't take his insulin, takes too much, or takes it at the wrong time. It wasn't that bad until right after mt 20th birthday. Then he wound up in the hospital.

Then Halloween, my brother comes home... we have to call an ambulance.

Thanksgiving, he's in the hospital a week before.

Christmas, he has a seizure a week before.

New Years, bed ridden.

And this is all because he stopped taking care of himself. Every holiday, ever time my brother visits, he does THIS. Any other time he can take care of himself, but when it comes to an important time he has to make it all about him and not take care of himself.

Then there is one more problem. He is a pathological liar.
He has gone around to literally EVERY bank in town and told them my mother is a money grubbing bitch who refuses to take care of a poor sick old man. But she isn't. She doesn't spend ONE penny of his money unless he TELLS her too. She can only go to one bank in town because of him.

And he and my parents are constantly in fight and I am dragged into the middle. My grandfather has always told me half truths and I have to ask my parents for the rest of the story, making me look like I don't believe them when I don't know who to believe.

But then he did the one thing he has never done to me. New Years eve... he outright LIED to me. That, or he has gone so senile, he can't tell the different between a 6 year old and a 40 year old woman and doesn't know when things happen anymore.

I lost it. I blew up. I told him everything that he has done and what he is doing to all of us and midway through me talking he got up and left the house.

It's January 5th... he hasn't spoken a word to anyone and refuses to leave his room.

I just... I can't take it anymore and I don't know what to do. I know that all of this is just making my depression worse and because of all the hospital bills he has... we're close to going bankrupt. We could lose EVERYTHING. Our cars, hour house, everything.

I need help. I need to know how to talk to him, I want to tell him to straighten up or finally be the one to tell him if he can't take care of himself and hates us that much he needs to go to a nursing home because he CAN'T live by himself.

I just... I need advice...

Do you mean January 5th? :sweat:
Because July was months ago. D:


I'm not really sure what to say. This sounds like something you need to talk to your parents about first.
I don't really know what to say. Talk to your parents about it and how what he's doing hurts you, and your family.

I'm sorry your Grandfather is acting this way. It's appalling.

I'm never really sure how to talk to people that age, who act that way. My grandmother does it sometimes. If you do say anything they tend to get offended, and act like big babies.

I would say just tell him. If he reacts poorly, then that's how it's going to be, but hopefully he'll listen, and shape up. If you are the sort who prays, then ask your God to help you. Ask for wisdom. If you don't believe in such things, then meditate on it for a while. Maybe write it down. There's a thread for it on here if you've seen it.

Good luck.