It's insulting because his persistence went from "be with me!!!!" to "I know I can't have you right now, but I love you, and that's okay because I know you're just going through one of those stupid phases." >.>

Yeah. It's not like I say no to every guy, but I know what I want, and if your persistence doesn't pay off after the third try, it ain't gonna happen.

Yeah that is insulting, mine was just kinda obsessive insisting we were meant to be, always holding out for me even if I was with another guy. Even getting mad at me for it like I was betraying him or something. I don't know I mean he's a good guy but there was no chance at all for him I told him so and he still didn't get it.

I don't really understand why they can't understand that no is no, not girl talk for keep at it and one day it'll happen

Eventually it makes you feel bad about yourself at one point. It's like: I've finally got a guy who claims he'd give the world for me...but I don't want him. Is there something wrong with me?

That's the same way I feel about this guy. There's just nothing to be done about it.

I think that guys don't take no as no from girls because T.V. (and indeed girls in real life) teaches that girls never say what they want and they like to play games. Sometimes some of us mean what we say. I've always tried to say straight up when I don't like something or just say things clearly when I talk to men so that they don't think I'm playing with them, and if they tell me I'm playing with them I just tell them I know I wasn't.

Yeah I can understand that feeling, you feel bad about the whole situation, this guy is madly in love with you and yet you just can't return the feelings. But really you shouldn't it isn't your fault, you can't always help who you like or in this case don't like. It doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you though, it's just how it is.

True I notice that a lot so many girls don't say what they mean, man even I find it confusing sometimes and I am a girl. I know I can do it too, I don't mean to most of the time I say what I mean . It's annoying guys think there's always an underlying meaning when you mean exactly what you say. Such as "no I don't like you, no I won't date you, leave me alone"

Ah, thank you. I needed to hear that. :yes: Sometimes the best thing in the world is just hearing that it's not your fault.

I hate hanging out with my girl friends sometimes because none of them will say straight out what they want. "You want to watch a movie?" They reply, "Do you want to watch a movie?" And you say, "uh, yeah...what movie would you like to go see?" "What do you want to see?" *palm to forehead*

Oh I hate when girls do that drives me crazy, my thing would more be I don't care, which means hello I don't care what we see. Maybe it's because I'm not a very picky person when it comes to certain things lol.

Your welcome, but you must know it really isn't your fault and it doesn't make you a bad person and it doesn't mean something is wrong with you. I know I already said that but I just want to hammer that in lol

I'm pretty impartial to a lot of things. I like almost all types of movies (no gore, and no rom coms) and all types of music except for screamo, and I like all food except for sushi. Literally, when I tell you I don't care I mean it.

I know, I know. But it gets to a person after awhile no matter how convinced they are otherwise. :yes:

Yeah, that's true after awhile I felt soo bad about what was happening with him, I knew it wasn't my fault but I still felt like I had done something wrong, or that there was something wrong with me.

Same goes here but when I say no to something I mean no and no only not maybe as some guys seem to think but no. Lol underlying meanings can be so hard to figure out sometimes

I hate it when I tell people "It was alright" "It was okay" or something like that and they respond back: "So that means it sucked, huh?" No....it means it was okay.

Well, I've spent most of my life single because I do know what I want and I only date people who meet those wants, but that can get lonely. So when somebody is around who "loves me" it's hard not to feel bad for not being able to return the feelings or thinking that I somehow caused him to feel this way because of my loneliness. I know that's not what happened, but the mind always tries to search for an answer.

I understand exactly what you mean, you feel bad so you search your mind for the reason as to why it is the way it is, but truth be told there is no reason. Things are as they are and you can't keep berating yourself because you don't love him, I personally think that he thinks he loves you when in actuality it's infatuation.

Very very true. I hope he goes about finding a true love one day. I'm sure he's not annoying to every woman in the world. :lol:

I had something like that happen to me a while ago. I told him I liked someone else and that I didnt like him but he kept asking me out and telling me that he loved me. Like NinjaKitty said its a hard situation to get out of. But what you can do and what I did is just kinda push away. Do not completely ignore him and avoid him... well its hard for me to explain XD
I hope that everything ends well though.

Yeah...it's not like you can ignore them completely...I've learned myself that just makes them more persistent. :lol:

One guy attempted to convince me that I didn't want to be with him (after I repeatedly said "no" for months) because my father's death had given me "abandonment issues" resulting in the fear that any men I let close to me would leave me.

I didn't punch him in the face.

I verbally castrated him, but I didn't punch him in the face. To this day, I regret that.



Anyone who tries to tell you that your rejection is a phase, a personal problem, not serious, ill-thought out... any of those things really... should be punched in the face. That kind of entitlement/ disconnection with reality is dangerous. Face punching is a public service! :angel:

Face-punch him?
And then tell us about it. :hug:

(alright, this isn't the most measured advice, I'll admit.)

:lol: That's amazing. :) If he ever flat out tells me that I'm just rejecting him because I have personal issues I will gladly punch him in the face, followed by a painful castration, and then return here moments later to tell you all that I did it, in vivid detail. :) I wouldn't put it against him either, in one of his desperate moods. The guy really doesn't make me happy, that's for sure.

Don't let him intrude on your life, okay? :hug:
A certain level of persistence becomes stalker-esque. Even if he's a nice guy and you don't want to hurt him, he can be a nice guy somewhere else... At the very least, no one has the right to make you uncomfortable or ignore your wishes.

Which you know, but hey, it doesn't hurt to mention. :P


I get all cranky when I hear about overly persistent guys. I've dealt with them before, and they make me waaaaaay uncomfortable.

I've dealt with a share of them, that's for sure. Now, whenever I see somebody who might start liking me whom I want nothing to do with, I shudder and drop them to avoid the situation.

And that---^ was nice to hear. :yes: