Every time I see a friend of mine he keeps trying to make out with me. I don't mind a kiss on the cheek or what not in a friendly manner, however, I am not interested in men at all that way. That's the first part of the problem. The second part of the problem is that he is married.

I told him before he shouldn't be like that since he has a wife and child. He's not the type to typically go up to women and hit on them which is why this bugs me even more. Every time I try to be more in depth about it he doesn't really say much to me about it. He doesn't like to talk too much about his marriage and I really don't want to cause drama. Plus the who fact that I like women anyway.


He's pretty shy even though he's in a pretty well known band and he's in the spot light a lot. This brings me to the third problem. His fan girls.

He ignores them when he's talking to me and I've had some of his fan girls threaten me before even after I told them there really is nothing going on between my friend and I. I've been asked before if I was his girlfriend and it caused one of his fans to get upset to put a long story short because he hugs me a lot.

Now, I can handle the bitchy fans and what not but I still don't like the fact that he's overly attracted to me where as I am not. I've tried avoiding him for a while and hanging out with other people when I go to his shows and leaving as soon as the show ends but even after that the whole thing is still an issue and it seems to be getting worse now that the band is taking a hiatus and he's upset about not being able to see me after tonight since aside from online, I won't talk to him too much outside of their concerts.

Short of it, I told him I am not interested but he doesn't listen.

I'm also friends with other members of the bands which is why I continued going to the shows as well as is my sister. I'm not exactly sure how to be any more up front other than telling him right up, which I did several times. The whole thing just bugs me and I am not sure what to do about it.

Well, maybe you need to be a little more rough. Instead of "not interested", maybe "Look, I'm not interested, so if you keep acting like a horny teenager, I'm cutting you out of my life, period". Some guys just don't get that no mean no, so maybe a little ultimatum might be in order. And, not to be rude, but it might be of interest to tell his wife. Not to cause drama, but clearly if this happens a lot it might get you into trouble. Some men have a difficulty with the word "no" and one never knows when they might act a little less gentle and a little more dominant than they should.

Either that or worst case scenario tell him to grow a vagina.

I'd quit dicking around and talk to his wife about it. Problem solved.

Talked to his wife about it. She said she'd talk to him about it. I met her a few times before so she knew me somewhat. I was just afraid of the whole crazy wife thing and her blaming things on me but luckily that didn't happen. Hopefully things get better. It just makes me feel guilty even though I didn't do anything.

You can't help the fact that you're so sexy you make men forget that you don't like them!

Haha. I guess it's something like that. XD

I hope you'll keep us updated on what happens. I find this situation to be very interesting.